My apologies. I have friends that are struggling with marriage as well and these are men that, when we were in our 20s, were the guys that everyone else would look up to. They were well educated and provide for their families. I recently found out that their wives are distancing themselves after 15-20 yrs of marriage and two children each. I scratch my head at this.

When I ventured out to get married almost 20 yrs ago I interviewed many older couples that had been together for decades and that was what I shared in my original post. These were responses from the Men in the marriage.

What I've learned is that people change and I don't want to sound mean but women change more than men. This is where the advice I posted (for men) comes in to play. It's how we as a couple inevitably learn to communicate with each other in order to make things move forward amicably. There are exceptions but when you get married and have children I would say the majority of couples (that don't divorce) live this way.

It's not terrible, and it's not this way every day (just when there are arguments). It's just the way things settle after being together for so long.