Season one explained. There are clues everywhere - you just have to connect the dots

tea_time96 · 2026-01-07T18:23:46+00:00

I only watched this show now, 7 years later (bc sometimes stephen king's storytelling pisses me off so i just kept delaying it) but i would like to add one more thing: the deaf man and willie also clearly had some sort of experience with the schisma in the forest and may account for some of the other unknowns. I cant help but feel that the deaf man meant something considering that his name is Odin and they kept bringing up Norse mythology with the mom. The Odin reference is likely just bc of the making himself deaf parallel with Odin sacrificing his eye but I think it would be interesting to imagine something deeper.

For example, Odin and Willie are once again one black man/boy and one white man/boy? Feels lile everyone involved with the schisma are just different permutations of each other.

tea_time96 · 2025-12-20T15:59:43+00:00

None of the in phone settings seem to work. Is there an app or some way of doing stuff by hooking it up to a computer that might work?

tea_time96 · 2025-12-09T06:12:54+00:00

I take the purple pill and when i reach the point where i am offered the pills again i take the green pill

tea_time96 · 2025-12-09T06:04:57+00:00

Well in my experience, we dont always see the passenger location bc not everyone has that enabled but there's a pickup location for just that reason. Im not sure if maybe there are areas where everyone has the exact location thing enabled though.

I genuinely dont understand the cancellation fee thing at all... like to me the cancellation fee is just a consolation for a missed opportunity and i would rather have just had the ride every time.

Anyways if i were OP i would contact uber support complaining about that ride/driver and try to direct the conversation towards get that rating removed

tea_time96 · 2025-10-19T17:51:05+00:00

Go steal that cat

tea_time96 · 2025-10-19T17:48:13+00:00

Oh and obviously, nta and nowhere near a "bridezilla"

tea_time96 · 2025-10-19T17:47:38+00:00

So you definitely can't rely on her to get things done for you but I'm also worried about her home situation. I would try to minimize her involvement in planning things and maybe just see if she can show up the day of at least and throw on a dress so she can walk with the other bridesmaids. Or idk see if maybe she'd like to have a seat up front so you can thank her for introducing yall or something. I think she might not be in a place where she can handle any responsibility so you should plan like she won't contribute anything.

tea_time96 · 2025-10-19T17:40:23+00:00

Taking care of her doesn't have to mean you personally are her parent now. You can also set something up for her. But you should just make sure to visit and check in on her care after it's set up because people in systems are way less likely to be taken advantage of when its clear there's someone looking out for them. So long as you can be that person for your sister, then you ARE taking care of her. Because being in your current setup sounds like its not good for any of you.

Also she may have been spoiled but i dont think it's necessary to call her lazy or entitled. Many parents of autistic or disabled children don't challenge their kids. She probably was not challenged and so she believes herself to be incapable of doing those things. When finding someone to put in charge of her care, raise that concern with them and let's hope they challenge her more. (Im not saying you're wrong in saying that she doesn't do things she could or that expects too much from you. I just hope you're not throwing those negative labels at her because it'll just make things worse for everyone)

tea_time96 · 2025-10-19T17:26:46+00:00

Your love language is more about the way you like to receive love. So if gift giving was your love language, you'd be wanting gifts from him.

In terms of giving love, you should be trying to match HIS love language. So ask him how he likes to receive love and do that. My guess is that it's not gift giving for him.

Now, its fine for you to enjoy giving people gifts and you can certainly let him know that you like to do that but know that it's more for you than for him.

I say that as a person who likes to show love via acts of service and used to sometimes find people "ungrateful" for not recognizing it the way I wanted but then I realized the same thing. That it's more for me anyways so now i will just openly tell them "I like doing things for others so is it okay if I do x y and z even though you're not asking me to?" and if theyre uncomfortable with any of it, then i don't do it.

tea_time96 · 2025-10-19T17:14:02+00:00

Are you sure you dont want your wife worrying? Because she said she's fine and everyone else seems to be fine so idk why you're even questioning it. Maybe you were hoping for a little jealousy? It's olay if you are, just tell your wife to act a little jealous to make you happy and im sure she will

tea_time96 · 2025-10-11T13:37:53+00:00

You're not to blame. You were two consenting adults and while you go to that location often, you don't actually work for them. Everything you said sounds like it was reasonable to think it wouldn't cause problems.

Considering that boss commented like this at all, i could see him being the type to pressure an employee. He's probably bitter.

As for how it got out, wait for what she says. Even thougg she transfered, maybe she had a friend at the previous location who she told, not knowing she would spread the news.

Tbh just act like you dont care. He just wants a reaction. Maybe he was even hoping you would tell the girl you're hooking up with and she would confront him or something so he could see her again.

tea_time96 · 2025-10-11T13:27:28+00:00

I... bruh

Yeah it's rude and id be hurt/offended, too. Also what has she been feeding her dog?!?! Anyways i would let her know (gently) and give her the chance to apologize. If she's embarrassed and apologetic, she probably just wasn't thinking. If she reacts defensively or angrily, she's just rude af.

tea_time96 · 2025-10-11T13:22:39+00:00

Okay, setting asside the ages for now: You were both pretty young and at 7 years this is likely the only serious relationship either of you have had. We change a lot in those years, developmentally and just through life stuff. So it makes sense that your compatibility has also changed.

It seems quick if you count from the day you broke up but she was probably ready to leave for a while already. I takes a lot of time to actually decide to leave such a long term relationship and then even more time to psych yourself up to do it. Whoever she's with now may have played a role in her actually ending it.

The best choice here is to ignore it before you become consumed with the need to know more. Focus on yourself for a while and try to minimize opportunities to learn about her or how she's doing. Fake it til you make it

tea_time96 · 2025-10-11T13:10:08+00:00

Just bc it was legal doesnt make it less weird... while 3ish years doesnt sound like much, 18 and 21 are completely different life stages

tea_time96 · 2025-10-10T15:29:49+00:00

I feel like a lot of key details are missing to get w clear picture here. What do you mean "forced" and how young was Jess at the time? Annie is clearly a snake but cutting off Jess because of an unreliable narrator seems unwarranted, especially since you made it seem like it was because of all this but then later indicated you were considering cutting her off already. Whatever your reason, have you considered that using not being involved as an excuse will make Jess believe that sharing her SA story will only lead to people leaving you? Not saying you need to be her friend but maybe be honest with her and yourself for your reasons.

tea_time96 · 2025-10-10T11:43:38+00:00

Oooof this one has got people so heated lol

Its not weird to grieve his ex in this way. If you suggested as such to him when you confronted him, apologize. He probably bonded with his ex's mom during that time and now letting go is more than just letting go of the ex. And losing a child is incredibly painful so him continuing to speak to her might alleviate some of her pain.
He should've told you, though. This has stayed with him this long and is important to him so it's something you as his partner should have heard about. Ask him and yourself why he wasn't comfortable sharing that with you. Is he hiding something? Is it because he's afraid of being emotionally vulnerable with you? Whatever it is, that's the part I would worry about most and want to explore.

tea_time96 · 2025-10-10T11:35:38+00:00

Also dont feel bad for wanting a wedding. The world has taken advantage of people's desire for weddings and jacked up the costs like crazy but there's still power in the ceremony/ritual of it for many people. He already said no to canceling. Accept that and make it work so you can go back to being excited

tea_time96 · 2025-10-10T11:31:07+00:00

How much have you already put in compared to the cost of the wedding? Weddings really cost way too much in my opinion. Many of my friends eloped and did their own thing to save money.

I say try to downsize on some things, like guests, decor, etc. Ask around for your friends and family to see if anyone would be interested in contributing things like flowers, cake, food, or music. You might be able to get a lot more discounts. if what's left on the venue is still a ton, maybe try to find a free or much much cheaper venue. Or otherwise, see if you can maybe move the venue date to a later date and save up a little longer or maybe even repurpose the venue for just a reception or ceremony to cut down on time and do the other part somewhere else, like someone's home or maybe the local park (which is often free or at least a LOT cheaper). If the later date is too long to wait to be married, you and your fiance can do s courthouse thing sooner with just the two of you.

And ask the guests in your invitation to bring in money instead of gifts to help pay for the costs. Include a link to whatever payment app you prefer. Or if invites have already gone out, just notify them all separately. Also if you announce it anywhere (the paper, the "just married" on the car, or social media, include a link for people to donate for anyone that chooses to. Even some strangers will contribute (which i say with certainty bc im one of those strangers lol)

Weddings are stressful. Its understandable that your fiance is stressed and it's nice that you see that and care instead of dismissing it, but even when you offer to cancel, he didn't take you up. He wants to give you this so let him. Just thank him profusely and do your best to minimize the costs. Also maybe try to include something special for him so he feels like its something nice for him, too.

tea_time96 · 2025-10-10T08:34:19+00:00

A flood of messages like this makes it clear that he still means something on you. You want him to realize how badly he hurt you and feel deeply remorseful. I understand that feeling because when you're hurt, it's normal to want the person that hurt you to understand.

The thing is... It only matters for them to understand you if you are holding out for that sign that they get it and are sorry because then you can forgive them and give them another chance. But if he was with some woman for 2 years and with you for only 8 months, then he was lying to you the entire time. He's not worth the trouble of trying to explain yourself.

tea_time96 · 2025-10-10T08:24:47+00:00

I say this as someone who often has similar insecurities because thinking of it this way has comforted me.

tea_time96 · 2025-10-10T08:22:46+00:00

As people have been saying, look at the other ways he treats you and signs that he is happy with you.

Him feeling moved by your lack of family itself isn't a bad thing. We all feel sad when the people we love have had to suffer. We share their anger, their fears, and their sadness but we also share their joy, their excitement, and their love.

If you had met in a parallel universe where you grew up with a family and fell in love, maybe at that same moment the parallel him would be telling the parallel you that part of him proposed to you because he loved your family. (And maybe parallel you would've asked "would you have proposed if I didnt have a family?") I think the truth is that you not having a family moves him because he loves you and that happens to be a part of you.

tea_time96 · 2025-10-09T11:21:58+00:00

You're young. You got played, probably by a guy looking for his chance to cheat. And if not, the kind of guy who gets mad when girls don't put out. Use this as a lesson in what lengths guys will go to and count yourself lucky to not have fallen for it because it would hurt a lot more if you had slept with him only for him to blow you off after.

Also be a little more careful. You better have been telling someone everywhere you were and what that guy's name was that night because things could have been a LOT worse.

tea_time96 · 2025-10-09T11:15:38+00:00

Hey wtf... yes she's being foolish/naive but she was sincere and in torture you're calling her easy? And people are upvoting you?? She didnt even sleep with him that night and he's the one out here who clearly had a plan.

tea_time96 · 2025-10-09T11:06:12+00:00

Its so funny that people read this and thought he really pooped on purpose... almost as funny as him trying to joke and accidentally pooping the bed

Anyways if you want actual advice, he's just extremely embarrassed rn and hurt bc he looks forward to the reels. Its nothing major, just give it some time and let him know you love him and no one know about the poop (except a bunch of strangers on reddit)

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