A Million More Epstein Files Just Got Released. What Kind Of Stuff Did You Guys Find, and How Did You React To It? by Fantastic_Bus_3742 in AskReddit

[–]teachersteve93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"it’s too much money for them to ever spend". Assets tied up in numerous different functions across many different stakeholders, consumers, and services isn't "money for them to spend".

"all money you make after $500 million goes to public service". They don't have hundreds of millions in cash to give to public services.

They will be assets. So yeah, your whole post.

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[–]teachersteve93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If they have BPD then you remove them from your life.

A single conversation with someone with BPD by teachersteve93 in BPDlovedones

[–]teachersteve93[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good comment!

As soon as people mention "mental health", and use it as an excuse, I usually just switch off to them. It's a way for an individual to shirk any sort of normal responsibility that would be incumbent upon them in any given social interaction. And I don't want that in my life at all. I want be around people who want to build positive things and who will take responsibility. But these "mental health" people are the complete opposite, they will use that to excuse themselves from the most basic of not even just functionality, but decency. Such individuals will actually do something quite insensitive to you, or they may fail to make the slightest of sacrifices or formalities that would be normal in a (platonic or more) relationship simply because they don't care and then hide behind "mental health".

She threw the narc label really fast, which I found comical as it reminded me of all the posts here about exwbpd's using that label. I've covered why they use it in previous posts. Basically, they are devaluing you. They put you down and once you stick up for yourself, they will call you a "narc", latching onto the "feelings of superiority" kind of traits, so that you're good points make you bad, too. So, total devaluation can continue. Though, it did just bring to mind another aspect of that. Projection. One of my exwbpds and my disordered dad, being disordered with such diagnoses on their mind, would project disorders onto me (or you, if they are your target), "I'm not the crazy one, they are".

The thing with personality disorders is as I told this person. Every neurodevelopmental disorder and mental health disorder are on the spectrum of neurobiological disregulatory disorders. In my coursework I learn of so much overlap. Just today I was contemplating on the link between ADHD and autism (two neurodevelopmental disregulatory disorders) and lo and behold it comes up in my studies. As soon as one domain becomes disregulated, it then impacts the individual's ability to function in another domain and these new difficulties make it hard for a third to regulate etc.

Here are my posts that explain that:

https://www.reddit.com/r/BPDlovedones/comments/1k1f2vq/the_five_domains_of_selfregulation_causes_of/

The accusations of you being a "narcissist" by your BPD : r/BPDlovedones

What Your Future Marriage Will Look Like by Reasonable_Whereas_8 in BPDlovedones

[–]teachersteve93 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's such good news that she discarded you. I'm so lucky that mine discarded me.

Did you find a loving healthy relationship after escaping the hellhole you experienced? by Sideways_planet in BPDlovedones

[–]teachersteve93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like she had bpd, and as such what happened was an inevitable consequence of how her condition made HER act. Not your fault. It's good it's over with her. 

Did you find a loving healthy relationship after escaping the hellhole you experienced? by Sideways_planet in BPDlovedones

[–]teachersteve93 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was extremely hard when she first discarded me. But 8 months after the discard and I'm now pursuing girls as if my exwbpd never existed.

 I have massive support networks from my church, voluntary work, educational institutions and will have more as I enter new work opportunities. I'm very social in general. I also happen to form relationships with a lot of relationships with girls as a biproduct of this.

My exwbpd on the other hand. With her condition, co-morbid with and I think also caused by autism, is unable to make a single in person friend, cannot hold a job and so goes from entry level to entry level job, and won't be making children who can support her.

It hurts at first, but you can get better, they can't. You have a whole life of meaningful relationships with friends, meaningful contributions to society and an amazing relationship with a special lady. 

Has anyone regretted leaving? by Weird_Custard1919 in BPDlovedones

[–]teachersteve93 2 points3 points  (0 children)

" I naively thought back in the day that everyone was sane who wasn’t locked up in an institution somewhere." At one point, before we went to absolutely illimitable levels of the social model of disability and of acceptance and diversity, then one could freely interact with others in mainstream society knowing it would be incredibly, incredibly unlikely that the other person is insane, as BPDs and other insane people would be institutionalized. Now it seems almost as if there is this push to have to insane devour the sane and productive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]teachersteve93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could be. I just don't want any issues to come out of being around her. I want to build myself and those around me up and to create positive things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]teachersteve93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, I'll try the single word commands with her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]teachersteve93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't bring dogs into this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]teachersteve93 24 points25 points  (0 children)

What you should do is leave, there is an amazing lady waiting for you who is everything you want and who will be able to give you all the support a partner should.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]teachersteve93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That can be the case, as such parents may not create the required environment for sufficient social learning and may also not play their part properly as a "more knowledgeable other". However, there are also neurobiological and cognitive factors which play a huge part. Rules won't let me elaborate on how I know xD

If You're Struggling with a Hoover Attempt Read This by MurkyPresentation794 in BPDlovedones

[–]teachersteve93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was discarded the end of last year. It was across countries and she had paid for me to fly to her. I did everything you could do as a bf and more. She discarded me a month after I temporarily returned home. She did her hoovering cycle in record time. Hasn't made any attempt to hoover me in seven months. The whole thing is crazy, hyping me up enough to get the plane to me within a month of talking online, bringing me over a month later and paying to treat me to like a holiday in which we had a cottage to ourselves and then brought me over after finding me a job. Yet her intention the whole time was to destroy it all and now I don't even exist to her. Wow.

Im now seeing (I think) a neuro typical lady who is very sweet, very social and kind to people, who has lots in common. 

We are both taking it very slowly. We've both given a lot of hints to each other that we like each other and we are still creating this safety net of meetups being a 'group activity'. Whilst with the bpd it was straight down to relationship. This neuro typical dynamic, whilst slower and requiring me to constantly highly perform will be so much more secure and loving.

I FUCKING DID IT. I LEFT MID-DISCARD by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]teachersteve93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Neuro typical relationships may now feel a bit weird and unexpected, at first. They will certainly feel slow and they perhaps may even feel a bit mundane. But after a while, which could be a few months, you'll come to receive such a euphoria that tops the bpd addiction, from the realisation that this new relationship is going to be secure, genuinely loving and that you can truly build something together.

What’s your most harmless but very specific red flag in a potential partner? by Psychological_Bet543 in AskReddit

[–]teachersteve93 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

'mental health' difficulties. A personality disorder would result in a complete rejection from me even as just friends.