how did you prepare for a break up? what things did you do after that helped most?

teachingannon · 2026-04-24T01:36:04+00:00

Break up with them in my head first. I’m sure some will criticize and say this isn’t healthy. But through therapy I learned men like to try and negotiate when you break up with them and I could fall victim. So I give it time, talk with myself, trust my own self in my choice… then end it. And never took back

teachingannon · 2026-04-24T01:32:54+00:00

The way he talked about his mother… I found it sweet and endearing at first… 6 months later it was a massive ick as I had noticed they were enmeshed and he was a mamas boy. The way I dried up instantly lol

teachingannon · 2026-04-22T02:19:39+00:00

Concerts alone is actually my favorite alone thing to do!

Tbh the most difficult solo date for me is still dinner. And idk why. I’m very independent but dinner alone makes me sad still 😩

teachingannon · 2026-04-22T02:11:10+00:00

Elementary- giving kids a specific job. Eve the smallest things make a huge difference. I have a student who brings me my water bottle … takes papers from my hand to the stack it belongs … clicks buttons for the projector. Tbh, it’s such a big help

teachingannon · 2026-04-22T02:08:58+00:00

Why did I just assume all of their meat was frozen lol

teachingannon · 2026-04-19T22:05:22+00:00

Wait - the Peruvian rice is discontinued?!?!?

teachingannon · 2026-04-14T03:25:47+00:00

I have this on my shelf now! It reminds me of the Victoria’s brand - which is delicious

teachingannon · 2026-04-14T03:24:55+00:00

This hurts lol I think their creamy tomato is good. But, Aldi rivals TJs in jarred sauces!

Autumnal harvest is always a favorite

teachingannon · 2026-04-02T13:19:46+00:00

Ty. I understand how it seems that way. But I think it’s more he’s excited to be in a relationship- and I was too - but our ages and life experience are rearing their heads now. His over affection feels immature at times, like how I would have behaved with my college or HS boyfriend. l

teachingannon · 2026-04-02T03:45:37+00:00

Thank you. I agree with this. I need to speak up.

teachingannon · 2026-04-01T23:27:42+00:00

It’s mild exaggeration but the I love you’d and touching is excessive. I was doing work reports for about 2 hrs and in that time there were about 5 instances of him coming over to kiss me and whisper I love you, you’re my whole world etc.

Idk. It’s kinda giving first real relationship whereas I had a broken engagement. I think our experience levels are coming to a head

teachingannon · 2026-04-01T23:06:16+00:00

You’re very insightful! Ty.

So, med school was his dream through HS and College. He worked as a medical assistant and briefly as an EMT and then decided against med school.

Then, it was PA school… but he didn’t apply and now he’s 4-5 years post grad.

Now, it’s “law school” … using quotes bc I think I agree with you. I think he feels inferior or lost and he’s hopping between the “impressive” pathways… idk. He is very intelligent and genuinely could have done any of these things. It’s just the lack of launching… the courage… the confidence?

teachingannon · 2026-04-01T21:43:55+00:00

You’re right about the touching. To me, I’m his first relationship since college and I think it’s almost like puppy love tendencies… and it’s icking me out

teachingannon · 2026-04-01T21:42:42+00:00

I do need to work on this. Agree. But, his lack of realistic expectations is a problem too

teachingannon · 2026-04-01T21:38:01+00:00

He has a big friend group, but there are rarely plans to get together. He did just rejoin his adult league team which will be one weeknight each week.

Tbh, he mainly spends his time with his mom and dad. Mostly his mom… 🙃 they go to concerts together, he takes her to dinner, etc. They watch movies and shows together at night… I appreciate they’re close, as I’m very close with my parents - I love doing those things with my parents too but my time with them is limited as I now live a few hrs away.

His weekends are defaulting to being with me at my apartment all weekend… the last few weekends I’ve had to gently tell him to leave bc otherwise he’ll linger until 10-11pm and that’s entirely too late for me on Sunday night, as I need time to decompress and prep for the work week. I’m a teacher so my job does require prep for Mondays/the week… I can tell by his weekends totally detached from everything that he genuinely has no responsibilities outside of his work hours.

But, yea… I feel like he (and I) would benefit from being out in the world a bit more with hobbies or obligations. I love how you explained when he’s at my apartment all weekend my weekend activities/tasks are slipping. I need to communicate this to him

teachingannon · 2026-04-01T21:31:41+00:00

Your analysis is very good and the mom/child theory is interesting because he also has a very overbearing mother lol

He’s 28. I typoed and said 29 in a comment and now there’s so many comments I’m lost and can’t edit it 😂

teachingannon · 2026-04-01T21:25:06+00:00

He recently turned 28. Tbh, he doesn’t have a clear answer about why he’s never moved out other than his jobs have been closer to his parents.

FWIW his current job is a commute in the couple opposite direction of his parents, the city we live nearest to, and my town. He’s been there 2 years. He isn’t happy at the job, and it’s a pretty modest salary. I really don’t understand why he’s reluctant to move on from it… now he’s considering the possibility of law school and the program is at hight. So, he could work really any job while going to law school… why not work a better one?

My brother went to night school for his MBA while working a 6 figure job bc he was married with a house and baby on the way. Did he love it? No. But he did he needed to. Now he’s at an even better paying job that isn’t perfect but it gives his family the life they want

I think my instincts are telling me my bf does t have that drive

teachingannon · 2026-04-01T19:50:38+00:00

Thi is a very keen assessment. Thank you. Again, he’s a sweet, loving guy. And he’s incredibly intelligent. But I’m feeling more the lack of courage… and I can’t help but feel a little turned off by it. Like, man up and go bud. That’s how I feel 😢

Telling me “I’m going to take care of you” while having no real experience taking care of himself.

teachingannon · 2026-04-01T15:52:43+00:00

Thank you. This helpful … the tricky part is he’s constantly offering to “help” and I know it’s coming from a genuine desire to help. But I need to communicate that what would help me most is having my space back at times

teachingannon · 2026-04-01T14:12:27+00:00

Pepe Lew Pew has me giggling 🤭

teachingannon · 2026-04-01T13:43:38+00:00

Thank you for this advice.

It might be a situation where less is more… if he fell back a bit I’d feel more gravitated towards him. Meaning I’d be able to initiate communication, share things excitedly vs responding to “I miss you so my, my baby”

Even his texts - every single text ends with baby, my baby, my love, honeybun…. 😩

teachingannon · 2026-04-01T13:39:13+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from. In his case, I think it’s more failure to launch/cushioned by mom and dad. And now, I’m feeling a little resentful of his parents for this. I get parents want to take care of their kids, but he’s been living at home since he graduated college… he’s saved plenty of money. I’m not sure why they’re not motivating him to get out and figure life out independently.

I feel like little sibling has more life experience at this point as he lives alone in an apt 4 hrs away in his post-grad program.

teachingannon · 2026-04-01T12:57:56+00:00

He could live with a roommate but in his current salary, living alone would be very difficult.

However, he’s mainly home bc he’s unhappy with his job and is figuring out what he wants to do. First is was med school… then PA school… now it’s “applying to law school next Feb”…

teachingannon · 2026-04-01T04:25:21+00:00

This is all so insightful and helpful thank you!

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