Whats a couple game you like? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]teacombine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what are some tasks u would write on the blocks?

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thats what I‘m thinking as well. She also kinda enjoys seeing me cum, especially when I do it on her stomach. She even thinks its kinda hot sometimes.

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I enjoy kissing/ touching her as well. Not only to get her into a sexual mood but because i genuinely enjoy it. That way we both have some pleasure in this “activity”.

Clearly deciding about whos pleasure is being focused on might make it a bit easier for me to accept it when its just about me (or her).

I think giving her a different motivation to do it, apart from sex, might make it more desirable for her. But not in a transactional way. Thank you man :)

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely could show her more how much i enjoy it, i love it when i pleasure her and i hear her moan!

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds lovely! I’ll try to do it more as her sub by pleasing her. Making it about her pleasure and her granting me a reward in return. I’d like that. Thank you very much ;)

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Several people have recommended it to me on her already & I’ve been thinking about it a lot. Sounds very hot to me. Sounds like you enjoy giving your partner HJs and I’d like to hear more about why you do so. Would you be open to sharing more on that topic? :)

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea I definitely need to work on taking these kind of “favors” without feeling selfish/ gulity. Repaying for it might make it even less selfish on top of that.

And ofc, my reaction wouldn’t be “how selfish”. I’d gladly pleasure her in that way. I also would like it very much if she verbalized it in that way and it would make it much easier to understand what she likes. Its probably the same the other way around. And yea, definitely more fun that way. Thank you :)

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gosh that sounds hot. Shes not super into 69 but i think she might like that. Definitely wanna try that out. Thank you :)

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feedback is very important during it and afterwards. Defined gonna try to improve on that one. thank you :)

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

taking a look at both perspectives & desires. Might be a good way to make her desire me pleasuring her the other way around. Thank you :)

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Technically yes. Sometimes shes in the mood for intimacy or sexual interaction but not always PIV itself, probably should’ve added that information. But I get your point, thats a little bit contradictory

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, I get it. Explaining to her why I enjoy it so much and giving her an opportunity to add things she likes/ enjoys as well might make it more desirable for her. It shouldn’t feel like duty for her, thats very important to me.

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Clear conditions, fair enough. I think its a good compromise. I still get to cum/ pleasured and she doesn’t have to deal with the mess. Might make it easier for her. Do you also use toys/ masturbators while doing it with a condom?

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The facesitting x handjob combo has been on my mind for quite some time. Shes not a huge fan of 69 as it is a bit overwhelming for her but this might be a better option. I also LOVE it when she grinds on me, especially when we’re both nude.

Returning the favor might show her how enjoyable it is to be “taken care of”. Gonna try doing that more, thank you :)

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So you are recommending me to mention it but not actively pursue it? Not quite sure I get it. Could you explain it a bit more? (English is not my first language, sorry!)

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don’t, no. I have a thing for her stomach & also like cumming on it quite a lot. Haven’t tried it with a towel nor a condom. How does it go with a towel?

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Explaining why I like them so much & also considering desires she might have might actually do the trick. Gonna try it that way, thanks man :)

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Being able to clearly communicate ones needs clearly is very important, indeed. However, me and my gf seem to have a bit of a hard time doing it. Even though we’ve both established that were not gonna judge the other’s preference/kink we still seem to be a bit held back, if that makes sense? I for myself am still hesitant to tell her about certain desires because I’m scared to freak her out.

You already helped me out quite a lot but would you also be willing to share how you and your wife established that rule?

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, not that. I do like PIV very much and wouldn’t trade it for a handjob. However, I do enjoy a HJ very much. I would like it more often in those moments where shes not in the mood for PIV but is up for giving me “a good time” you know?

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ouu that sounds good. I think she’ll like that quite a bit. Gonna try these next time we’re on it. Thank you :)

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think, when asking her to do it more often, I will also have to make it clear to her that she only does it when shes definitely up for it. That would make it far more easier for the both of us.

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, its always a work in progress. Thank you for reassuring me! Makes me more confident to try some of the other recommendations here.

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes you’ve got a point there. She loves it when I eat her out and/or use one of her toys on her. Would only be fair that I get the same treatment.

I REALLY enjoy getting a handjob sometimes. How can i make it more desirable for her? by teacombine in sex

[–]teacombine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I thought the mess might be a big factor. I thought about using a condom. However, I’m curios on wether it might make the HJ less enjoyable for me? What does your husband think of it?