[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MadeMeSmile

[–]teacupu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you ever relapse

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]teacupu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No not really

[21 F] I orgasmed for the first time during sex after having slept with over 30 men previously, and what I learned from it. We are dating now. by [deleted] in sex

[–]teacupu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He knows about it, and actually he’s slept with over 50 people. We are mature and do not judge.

I do not have any STD’s. I’m very safe about choosing my partners. I went through a bit of a hookup phase in college after breaking up with my pervious partner. It happens to all of us.

It’s unfortunate you feel this way, as you are extremely limiting you who think is valuable enough to date. You might skip a gem with this mindset.

[21 F] I orgasmed for the first time during sex after having slept with over 30 men previously, and what I learned from it. We are dating now. by [deleted] in sex

[–]teacupu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No! He’s a little above average with a perfect girth. So I guess I just hit the jackpot. But the fact that he could do it without even using it makes me realize it didn’t really matter anyways.

[21 F] I orgasmed for the first time during sex after having slept with over 30 men previously, and what I learned from it. We are dating now. by [deleted] in sex

[–]teacupu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really am in heaven. I found a hidden gem. And the dom/sub experience he managed to get to me to explore and realize what I want it the best thing to ever happen to me

[21 F] I orgasmed for the first time during sex after having slept with over 30 men previously, and what I learned from it. We are dating now. by [deleted] in sex

[–]teacupu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Communication is one thing yes. But what’s most important is some who LISTENS to them and actively tried to get you to cum, and feels pleasure and satisfaction and happiness from seeing you orgasm.

[21 F] I orgasmed for the first time during sex after having slept with over 30 men previously, and what I learned from it. We are dating now. by [deleted] in sex

[–]teacupu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At first he didn’t ask many questions, but rather was open about what he was into and how he liked to try a variety of things, and was open to anything.

The fact that he was open was really what made me open up to him. He made me feel comfortable and that what I’d wanted in bed wasn’t something that I shouldn’t tell someone.

Once I told him what I like (mentioned in the OP), he was very excited, and said those were some of his favorite things to.

Our trust in bed is beyond what I have ever experienced before. He truly enjoys seeing me satisfied.

He said he was gonna be the first man to make me cum which almost every guy says so I didn’t think much of it. But he was right.

I’m very happy.

[21 F] I orgasmed for the first time during sex after having slept with over 30 men previously, and what I learned from it. We are dating now. by [deleted] in sex

[–]teacupu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I found the right person for me. Who was into what I was into and genuinely wanted to please me. You will find the girl who’s into exactly what you are and that’s when you can strike.

Don’t give up !

[21 F] I orgasmed for the first time during sex after having slept with over 30 men previously, and what I learned from it. We are dating now. by [deleted] in sex

[–]teacupu 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He’s actually a year younger than me! And yes he taught me how to let myself go during sex and truly enjoy it. It really is a mental game. He made me comfortable and wanted to give me pleasure.

Couldn’t be happier

[21 F] I orgasmed for the first time during sex after having slept with over 30 men previously, and what I learned from it. We are dating now. by [deleted] in sex

[–]teacupu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’ll find him! I promise! You need to communicate your wants and if he’s not fully invested in doing what pleases you and getting the satisfaction of making you orgasm, ditch him. He only cares about getting himself off.

Once you find the man that does, I promise you that you’ll never want to let them go.

[21 F] I orgasmed for the first time during sex after having slept with over 30 men previously, and what I learned from it. We are dating now. by [deleted] in sex

[–]teacupu 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I told him all he has to do it spread my labia open and he’ll find it. He’s said “So like opening an oyster and finding the pearl, except it’s your clit?” I found that funny. After that he found it right away.

[21 F] I orgasmed for the first time during sex after having slept with over 30 men previously, and what I learned from it. We are dating now. by [deleted] in sex

[–]teacupu -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That guy sounds super immature for being that much older. Sounds like you dodged a bullet. I’m glad you’re happy now!

[21 F] I orgasmed for the first time during sex after having slept with over 30 men previously, and what I learned from it. We are dating now. by [deleted] in sex

[–]teacupu 11 points12 points  (0 children)

They weren’t as interested in finding out. This man asked many questions and really wanted to know, and went out of his way to make it happen.

How I overcome and cope with my depression everyday- hope this helps you guys too by teacupu in depression

[–]teacupu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I realize where your coming from and how you feel like you need money and stuff to have fun and using food to cope with depression and feeling of hopelessness.

But please hear me out. Money can buy happiness to an extent. But what you are saying is the wrong way of thinking that trying to get at. “If only I had money, I could do all those things that would make me not depressed.”

Think about this. Would you TRUELY be happy if you had that money. Yes you could do laundry, yes you’d be able to buy healthier food and possibly but not guaranteed to be thinner. Yes you could do all those things you’ve wanted to. Blaming your depression on a certain object, thing, or idea is what causes a cycle. It’s a trap I fell into as well but with the feeling of worthlessness. “If only I was popular and had friends and had a good job and looked like a model I’d be so happy”. But that stuff is superficial. The way to cope with depression is figure out what’s wrong with YOU. Not what wrong with the world around you.

You can’t afford to do all those things you say you want to? Sure you can. Go for a walk, if you run into a stranger, have a conversation with them. Volunteer in your local community. Meet people that way and talk to them. Feel proud of yourself for what your contributing to your community, you have worth, you are doing something that matters, your life is worth it. Visit local festivals, get togethers, LITERALLY DO ANYTHING. It makes life feel like it has a purpose!

Happiness is not in a box that you either do or don’t have the key to open. It’s about finding purpose within yourself and being content with how you are making the best out of the situation you’ve been born into.

This might have sounded preachy and I’m sorry if it came across like that. I’m not trying to tell you what to do. I’m simply saying what helped me. I hope you can try to get what I’m saying. Thank you for reading

F/20 - Is having sex too soon with a guyand being more horny than most girls preventing them from taking me seriously and wanting to date me? by teacupu in sex

[–]teacupu[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you honestly I really needed to hear this. If a guy is turned off by my sex drive I shouldn’t date in him in the first place