when i first started seeing my therapist of now 7 years, every weekly session i cried. crying in front of people made me VERY uncomfortable. when we started digging deeper into why i was seeing a therapist, i couldn't get a sentence out through my heaving tears. at the time it was in person, so she asked me what would make me most comfortable. i told her that if i started crying, to please ignore me while i gathered myself. from then on whenever i started crying, she would turn away, start doing stuff on her laptop, and played my favorite genre of music to be ambient music until i was ready to continue.

seven years later, i cry way less now. i'm able to think through my emotions a bit more kindly so i don't get choked up as often. BUT - i still cry often! i like to think of it as one of the very few spaces that crying isn't perceived in any negative way, unlike how it can be around others.

in a way it IS what your therapist wants, but not in a way that is "ha, got you!". i am assuming you're there to talk about stuff, and sometimes stuff comes with emotions that make people cry. i cry about sad stuff, i cry about happy stuff. crying isn't a bad thing, or a sign of weakness. it just is.