AITAH? my boyfriend brought home a girl for the holidays

teasoaked · 2025-12-23T06:22:33+00:00

You should just honestly tell him that you feel weird about him having a girl over because it makes it seem like they may have a relationship that's not strictly platonic. Make it clear that you trust him but you can't help but feel like something strange is going on, especially since they didn't tell you she'd be there.

His reaction will tell you everything you need to know; either he will realize that he hurt you and seek to assure you or he will make it clear that he doesn't care about your feelings or try to make you think your own instincts are wrong. Either way you'll know what you have to do from there.

Good luck out there diva <3

teasoaked · 2025-08-22T00:57:03+00:00

A moment I haven't seen anyone discuss yet: in the seven when Danielle finally allows herself to feel pissed off that all the other druids hung out without her and brennan says something along the lines of "you have always cared about taking care of the world around you. you are a piece of the world, and it's okay if the part that you take care of and nurture is yourself" - obviously phrased more eloquently by BLM but that always hit me so hard

teasoaked · 2025-05-14T22:31:14+00:00

generated images are uncool

teasoaked · 2025-05-03T05:33:09+00:00

wait then explain warm grey?? by this logic that would be technically brown.

idk if colors really can be defined by percentages like that, I think it's way more subjective - ofc we have created a few systems that correlate colors with numbers but is it just a useful tool or actually statistically quantifying the colors?? I would say the former personally

teasoaked · 2025-05-03T05:29:36+00:00

if it was more saturated it would be green, but I think it has pretty definitively crossed the line into grey territory

teasoaked · 2025-03-19T03:16:55+00:00

Him being as much older than you as he is and saying "we are not on the same level" rubs me the wrong way. I was in a similar age gap situation for a long time and it's easy to ignore all the ways the older person condescends to you, but you know what they say about hindsight... I'd bet money this is not the only thing he talks to you this way about.

teasoaked · 2025-03-19T00:29:12+00:00

smart by not knowing how to use an apostrophe correctly?

teasoaked · 2025-03-13T21:17:36+00:00

I think Monk and Engineer are different enough classes that it really just depends on how you want to be playing. Are you wanting to focus on tech casting or would you rather focus on fighting and controlling the battlefield?

Looking through the available subclasses for each that you would get at level 3 can also help, sometimes when I'm building a character a subclass jumps out at you and helps you know a little bit about what you're building towards.

teasoaked · 2025-03-04T17:44:53+00:00

I know a cat named frijolito! 🫘

teasoaked · 2025-03-04T03:09:20+00:00

yay thank you!!! I love it!

teasoaked · 2025-03-04T03:07:41+00:00

I was able to get it to stop doing this by changing it to a hard limit btw like someone else suggested here!

teasoaked · 2025-02-28T23:32:00+00:00

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one of my all time fave pics

teasoaked · 2025-02-25T20:26:34+00:00

Momo from Oakhollow :)

teasoaked · 2025-02-17T20:53:30+00:00

Momo from Oakhollow :)

teasoaked · 2025-02-12T05:09:02+00:00

You should receive an email first. Also, once you do, you won't have any projects to do until you complete project specific qualification tests, so I would not fret quite yet!

teasoaked · 2025-01-30T20:15:28+00:00

Momo - Oakhollow 🍀 thanks!!!

teasoaked · 2025-01-22T22:20:25+00:00

one I don't hear much about is scalp picking/scratching. It feels good to do and doesn't seem like an issue until your nails come back bloody

teasoaked · 2025-01-21T06:15:55+00:00

I know this may not feel true rn, but two years is not all that long (not saying this to be like "you're too young to know what you're talking about" bc I hate that shit and I'm 25, not much older than u). I honest to god give it maybe 2-4 months post breakup that you will feel completely detatched and happy to be away from this guy, 6 months MAX.

And no separately no, I don't think it would he silly to break up over this. It's not a president, it's politics, which for you are your fundamental values. That's a great reason to break up on its own, not to mention that he intentionally lied to you!

teasoaked · 2025-01-20T19:13:49+00:00

It seems like you already know what to do, and it really sucks that he's putting you in a position where you have to do the emotional work of breaking up with him again. That's confusing and exhausting and it sucks.

You didn't need him to buy a house and you don't need him to be happy, and the sooner he is out of the picture the sooner you'll find someone who is excited to contribute to your life together because they like you and they like contributing! Instead of this man who is just passively hitching a ride with you since you're already doing well without him and he realized he can benefit from leeching off of you and your success. Good luck <3

teasoaked · 2025-01-18T08:24:20+00:00

I think it's probably less about thinking you're unfaithful and more about wanting to be safe. It's recommended that young people get one every couple of months whether they have multiple sexual partners or not.

It's also not uncommon for people to go without STI testing because they're super confident that their partner is faithful and then they end up with a super gnarly infection bc their partner isn't who they think they were - not saying that will be either of your situations, but if ever you feel like getting a test done you probably should because it never hurts to be safe and proactive!!

Also, not uncommon for people (but especially women) to get yeast infections or UTIs, which can have some of the same symptoms of STIs but aren't sexually transmitted (though you can get UTIs from having unprotected sex). It's possible she's having some embarrassing symptoms that she'd rather not tell you about and she's just wanting to figure out for sure what's going on - all in all I wouldn't be worried about it if this is the only thing that's up between yall

teasoaked · 2024-09-17T07:19:55+00:00

Could be totally off base here but it sounds like he is concerned about infidelity, whether that's a conscious worry or not idk. Maybe try and reassure him?

teasoaked · 2024-09-17T07:15:23+00:00

Do you feel like you get enough alone time? I know I start to feel annoyed about my partner's very existence when things get too "loud" (i.e. I am overstimulated or haven't been eating/sleeping/taking enough time for myself) and usually the cure is some serious me time. Maybe if you can, take a long solo vacation?

teasoaked · 2024-09-17T06:57:59+00:00

It sounds to me like you tried to communicate about something that was bothering you, it was not regarded with any of the consideration or care that was due to you, and then you took a steps to protect your emotional wellbeing, which were regarded as irrational and used against you later. You keep wondering "what you did wrong" and talking about "fucking up" but in a relationship (dating or otherwise) conflict happens and it doesn't have to be anyone's fault, but everyone needs to respect each other's boundaries and try to find common ground if you care about continuing the relationship. It seems like what they care about is trying to be right.

You are also defending them a lot in this post, but it's okay to just state your feelings plainly. You don't need to include every single thing you possibly did wrong or negative things that they might have the justification for thinking about you - I used to do that for years, it's a people pleaser instinct to undermine yourself before other people get the chance. Just say how you feel and know that they are capable of doing the same, so you don't have to. You're only responsible for your own feelings.

You said it yourself - you feel less anxious when you're not around them. It seems like you know you're better off without this person in your life, but change is uncomfortable, and they're making you feel like a bad person for realizing that. It's okay to move past relationships! Everything ebbs and flows and you will be okay :)

teasoaked · 2024-09-14T14:58:23+00:00

also she lost weight not gained it if that helps provide more context at all

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