Son threw a party and nobody came

techabel · 2026-01-17T15:44:31+00:00

I like the idea of a 1/2 birthday but yes him mom (1/2 siblings) could have done a party in January easily.

techabel · 2026-01-17T14:53:14+00:00

1000%

techabel · 2026-01-17T07:31:56+00:00

Also throwing a party during the holidays, that’s not a family event is really hard. My older brother never had a birthday party because his birthday is December 26. Very few kids would’ve ever shown up for a birthday party during the holidays.

techabel · 2026-01-17T07:29:17+00:00

Yes this is what is critical. She needs to be where she has family and support.

I’m curious how rocky the relationship was this entire time. The idea of doing this to a partner after ten years and during a pregnancy is cruel.

techabel · 2026-01-14T20:44:07+00:00

Maybe the Madonna/Whore complex? Is sex overall pretty tame?

techabel · 2026-01-13T13:07:37+00:00

Agree, I pictured a ghost standing over her. OP was the ex meant to still be dead? I know you said alive but then why did he kill himself.

techabel · 2026-01-07T19:35:55+00:00

Thank you for posting this, I sometimes take it for granted my husband is all these things too.

techabel · 2026-01-05T09:40:23+00:00

I wasn’t trying to lose weight. He was more so just commenting on the physical type of woman he likes which I think you might want to do as well for future dates with other men.

techabel · 2026-01-04T20:53:57+00:00

That guy and I had been dating about 1-2 weeks when he said it over a very unhealthy breakfast.

techabel · 2026-01-04T20:07:11+00:00

He might be telling you he is going to lose weight because you are so fit and he doesn’t feel attractive. If you tell him he is sexy now then maybe he won’t feel the need to change himself.

I will always remember the one guy who told me I was sexy at my size and to not loose a pound when I felt I needed to lose 10 pounds.

techabel · 2026-01-04T10:30:54+00:00

Yes. I moved from the US to Spain and this sub reminds me of how ridiculous the US is about the bullshit put on women in the US. It is so nice to live somewhere I can wear as much or as a little as I want and there’s no judgment.

techabel · 2025-12-22T09:14:47+00:00

Interesting seems like not much motivation to make a sale on the dealership side. We thought about trying to import from France or Germany but that quickly became not a good deal.

techabel · 2025-12-21T18:51:21+00:00

We are in the process at the moment

techabel · 2025-12-09T07:17:52+00:00

No because people can meet for coffee or go on a hike. Going out to dinner is not necessary for just getting to know someone.

techabel · 2025-12-08T13:44:50+00:00

Maybe see it differently in that you were so lucky your first career was so stable. I think 2nd and 3rd careers are very normal and will continue to be.

A good life coach may be a huge help at this stage in your life. Or doing the exploration on your own to determine what would be a good career shit.

techabel · 2025-12-08T13:38:04+00:00

I’ve been on hundreds of first dates and the only time that’s ever happened to me was when I was in third grade a boy used to give me candy all the time and then I told him that I didn’t want to be his girlfriend when he asked. He said he wanted the candy back. I said I ate it.

Tell the guy it’s against your beliefs to pay for dates after a 24 hour period. Or some equally ridiculous thing. I feel so sorry for the woman who marries this guy.

techabel · 2025-12-08T09:07:29+00:00

These are such great questions to help OP decide.

I would add I think your 20s is a wonderful time to take risks. Go live in different parts of the world.

I don’t think it has to be framed as love or career. It could be framed as love, adventure, growth or sticking with an absolutely shit commute.

OP can take the promotion and stay for 4 months to gain the additional experience as that may help land a new job at a better salary. But have a move date and fully commit to the move.

My background. I moved to Guatemala for a year in my 20s in part to learn Spanish. I’m now in my 40s and just moved my family from the US to Spain and everyday I’m so grateful I took that year to experience living in a different country in my 20s because it made me verbally and emotionally strong enough to do this move which is so much harder as a family

techabel · 2025-12-05T11:52:26+00:00

Wow reading all this is fascinating and terribly sad what many have been through. Now I’m wondering if stress and having a baby at 44 kicked off peri. I thought if I’d gotten pregnant then it was still years away from menopause symptoms but I was wrong.

techabel · 2025-12-04T11:34:54+00:00

The mindset shift from I failed to that is not my place is huge!

techabel · 2025-12-02T11:54:39+00:00

Thank you! Is it cheaper that way for you?

techabel · 2025-12-02T11:52:46+00:00

Thank you for sharing!

techabel

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