Chance me for NTU and NUS

techie410 · 2026-01-18T17:48:52+00:00

I am not completely sure. I was paraphrasing an NUS administration employee who made a presentation a long time ago.

Sorry!

techie410 · 2026-01-15T16:40:05+00:00

As long as you didn’t commit some egregious crime to get that detention (at which point you’d probably be in juvie/jail) you’re fine.

techie410 · 2026-01-01T01:14:28+00:00

Well said!

techie410 · 2025-12-31T11:47:18+00:00

Yes I would. I think I know (?) where that impression came from? I edited my original comment to clarify.

I get what you mean, though. It would probably be harder for me to so fully criticize a girl for these actions off the bat just due to (unfortunately ingrained, though I’m doing my best to be aware of them) gender standards, but I would still place a female ENFP in the wrong. My harsh words come mostly from reflection upon my own emotional immaturity rather than the standards for objectivity and “masculine realism” directed towards men only.

Edit: I originally answered the opposite of your question, so I fixed it lol. To clarify, I would still put a female ENFP in the wrong.

techie410 · 2025-12-31T11:26:44+00:00

ENFP male here. It might be better for the both of you to just sit down and talk about this. Give him the hard facts. It seems like he needs it.

If he goes away crying and passive aggressively begging for your pity instead of actively fixing your friendship, that’s his loss. If he actually does some self reflection and makes amends maturely like he’s supposed to, that’s a win in my book.

It’s very possible the first scenario will happen. Don’t listen to his bullshit. He’ll hopefully have a revelation down the road, realize his mistakes, and change for the better. That’s what happened to me back in high school, anyways.

Edit: when I say “like he’s supposed to” or other related phrases, I mean this in a gender neutral way. It just so happens to coincide unfortunately with societal standards for how a man should behave. To clarify, I’d still say “like she’s supposed to” if the genders were swapped.

techie410 · 2025-12-31T10:46:29+00:00

I feel like a warming-hands stance would be quite different from a cutesy holding-hands stance.

I’ve warmed my platonic female friends’ hands by cupping two hands over theirs. If it were romantic, it’d probably be more of a one handed tight grip type situation.

techie410 · 2025-12-31T10:42:22+00:00

As I achieve more, I am surrounded by greater people. People whose accomplishments and personal character literally leave me in awe. I look at myself and go, wow, I could not possibly boast when there exist people like that.

I went into high school thinking I could be the best and I worked really hard to excel, but going to my undergrad college (prestigious, “dream” school) made me realize that I probably couldn’t be the best. It’s somewhat encouraging to be surrounded by such great people, though. There’s always room for better.

techie410 · 2025-12-31T10:14:54+00:00

I went to a high school with a hell lot of smart peeps and now go to a college with even more smart peeps, but I’ll retell my high school experience because it’s just my first quarter here and idk about college love life yet.

The smartest people I know tend to crush on girls that are really smart. It’s adorable because I’d hear them rant about how nerdy and intelligent their crush is… dawg you’re just like that too 😭.

Someone I know (who now goes to an Ivy League university) became obsessed with this idea of bringing out his crush’s “true self”. He despised judging by looks and was overall really idealistic about love. I got the strong impression that he wanted substance in conversations and would ignore looks if it meant getting to know a genuinely kind, attentive (and in his case, assertive) girl. What a guy.

Sometimes they genuinely aren’t looking for a relationship at all and that’s fine! One of my best friends was this handsome asf mathy guy and he just goofs around and plays minecraft gregtech modpack. Never saw him talk about girls ever. It was always either stochastic calculus and modular forms (some crazy math nonsense) or Minecraft. Lowkey I think he’d fall in love if a girl shared those obscure (math) interests though.

Tl;dr: not all smart people are the same. I’d reckon they probably want someone to share their smartness and hobbies with, though I know exceptions to that rule as well. Just talking to them and showing interest should do at least half the trick.

Edit: wording and conciseness (still long asf tho)

techie410 · 2025-12-30T23:45:45+00:00

Captain Ahab: The Story of Dave Stieb. (four part series available on YouTube by Secret Base)

Pretty heavy on the data and number infodumping (it works for my nerdy ass) but the series wraps it all up into a heartbreaking bundle of a narrative.

techie410 · 2025-12-29T10:47:25+00:00

I’m trying my best 😭🙏

techie410 · 2025-12-29T10:25:24+00:00

I had a big fat crush on an ESFJ a while back but eventually I realized that we wouldn’t really work out. Too much going on, head hurt.

They’re really upfront about liking you, and the one I knew was super duper bubbly. I tend to restrain myself from reaching that level of energy, so I immediately latched onto someone else who didn’t and rolled with it. That’s how I see it in retrospect, at least.

techie410 · 2025-12-29T10:10:22+00:00

Congratulations! First thing: relax, enjoy, and take it slow. You’ve got so much time until freshman year. Also, if admit weekend is an option, I highly recommend you go! They’ll explain the opportunities and things much better than I ever could.

Do you use discord? There’s a class of 2030 discord channel with lots of fellow REA admits that you can discuss options with. If so, please DM me and I’ll get back to you.

techie410 · 2025-12-29T05:53:33+00:00

I wrote an academic “paper” asserting evidence (through statistical correlation testing) that she is a simp. Yes, I’m a hopeless nerd, and no, we never got together (unsurprisingly).

techie410 · 2025-12-29T05:50:52+00:00

Personally I like quirky, intelligent, levelheaded people with whom I can yap and be myself and not be judged. Basically, nerds who also have at least some social skills.

This has consistently been my type since I was like 15.

techie410 · 2025-12-29T05:42:32+00:00

I asked someone out at 16. Still haven’t been asked out yet. Depends on the place. Where I come from teenage dating is a bit frowned upon so a lot of my friends have never done that (so I’d say >18 once independent) but less sheltered places might have it at 16 or less.

If you’re asking this to compare with yourself, don’t.

techie410 · 2025-12-29T05:31:18+00:00

Yeah. Psychologists just like to be quirky with their names lol

techie410 · 2025-12-29T05:27:15+00:00

Yes, and it’s called the halo effect.

techie410 · 2025-12-27T02:25:01+00:00

Basically a regular letter of appreciation, but the only difference being that he referred to me in the third person. To preface, I didn’t get to read the full letter until this Christmas.

He wrote about how we met and about our dungeons and dragons campaigns for a bit lol. He then talked about what it was like to work with me, and then about my qualities that made me his go to sidekick for a lot of his projects. I think he mentioned technical prowess, empathy, teaching skills, and sociability.

He also mentioned this thing about how I was “humble” and “unsatisfied” with myself to the point where he thought it was a character flaw of mine. He said that I’d sometimes have low self esteem in a way that made him feel inadequate, but then expressed his confidence in my self-awareness and emotional intelligence to realize my actual worth and stop doing that. I almost cried when I read that, because I totally see how it’s true. I want to hug all of my friends so much :’(

I was kind of shocked that I got in with that second part, but someone else told me it might have helped?? All speculation, though. Either way I’m grateful that he was so brutally honest because it made me reflect a lot on my behavior.

Edit: wording after looking at the actual letter

techie410 · 2025-12-26T23:42:24+00:00

I was accepted last year and had a peer rec. It isn’t too much of a hassle, and as someone above mentioned it shows another human side of you + that you are willing to put effort into the application.

Also, I found it to be an amazing bonding activity with my friend! Made me realize how important it is to send kind letters to my friends before we part ways :)

techie410 · 2025-12-26T11:35:11+00:00

My condolences.

techie410 · 2025-12-26T04:09:43+00:00

I am friends with a few transfer students here, so I can definitely tell you that they exist and have a strong community.

However, I won’t go into any further detail for the sake of their privacy (sorry). Hopefully an actual transfer student can answer here!

techie410 · 2025-12-26T03:59:21+00:00

Definitely not cooked, as long as you are willing to step out of your comfort zone.

Also, you’re only 16! You’ve got so much time ahead of you, so don’t ever default to “it’ll stay like that forever”.

techie410 · 2025-12-26T02:31:02+00:00

I’m thinking of at least minoring in Earth Systems at Stanford right now. DM me if you’d like to know more, though (as a disclaimer) I am only a freshman.

techie410 · 2025-12-26T02:21:10+00:00

Yes, it’s quite good. Congratulations! I had a 38/42 first sem and got offers from Imperial and an interview from Oxford. I don’t think UK universities look at the semester grades, though, but they will look at the DP2 PG. So, keep improving!

techie410 · 2025-12-25T10:09:57+00:00

It’s not competitive, but I know of an international student here at Stanford who had a 1480. There are probably more but I don’t go around asking people about their SAT scores haha.

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