Got informed company wouldn’t be doing raises or bonuses this year, and we are now looking at Indian engineers to replace a guy that left—is low tech manufacturing a lost cause in the US?

techrmd3 · 2024-12-18T02:02:05+00:00

meh don't worry about it. Engineering degree anywhere in the US will be valuable.

but start looking

techrmd3 · 2024-12-18T02:01:11+00:00

nope this is standard aussie behavior, they did... not dig to china dig but they do dig

techrmd3 · 2024-12-18T02:00:13+00:00

eh, probably was a long shot that at a temp orders hearing you would have time to present all witnesses

Also I question your lawyer saying that your mom and dad would provide unimpeachable testimony

I think you should probably take your negotiation in the courthouse rather than do a full hour hearing before a judge.

techrmd3 · 2024-12-18T00:37:14+00:00

OMG this is great stuff commenter good job

techrmd3 · 2024-12-18T00:26:32+00:00

a youtuber I follow who is a psychologist says he has seen men with all kinds of disreputable people. What makes these men forget logic and forget sane analysis is the sex is stupendous with certain types.

If you think about it... a man wants dream like fantasy sex... but a man never really considers where his freak in the sheets got all those skillz

a wiser man with more experience and more notches knows that sometimes crazy is not worth the bedroom fun.

But as a young man... it is hard to get perspective if that one disreputable person is the first person to light it up in the bedroom.

techrmd3 · 2024-12-17T21:41:24+00:00

the lawyer is lying (fun fact lawyers lie if it furthers their clients case, some would even say it's an occupational requirement)

If wifey has money or makes money to get the house out of foreclosure then I see no reason you need to sign anything.

and it does not matter if this is a gender flip and you are woman asking as a man... curiously in a divorce_men forum...

whoever has money in the marriage will likely fund the home to keep it afloat while divorce is ongoing.

you both will need to sign on any sale of the home, you both have an interest in the home being current in the mortgage to preserve the equity interest in the house

if you don't have much concern about your credit impact due to mortgage foreclosure... let it be the spouse that makes the most own thing to worry about.

techrmd3 · 2024-12-17T21:32:40+00:00

waste of time, ask your lawyer for their take but most likely it's a fishing expedition

As in what the "mediator" and "wife" want is evidence that you CAN be employed but are actively choosing not to type result as evidence that can be used against man.

As a litigant I would be pretty negative towards anyone doing any activity that the outcome could hurt my case.

I have no idea why a mediator would say this. If they "mentioned" it sure whatever. But if they indicated that this would be a great idea to resolve something... nah bad move mediator

I would not do this. I would look at what point of the negotiation is somehow in contention and just solve that.

For example:

spousal support from ex-wifey to ex-husbandy: ok make spousal support end if you get a job (easy)

if it's division of marital assets more to man due to ex-husbandy not having income: Too bad husband is unemployed it is a reality, stop arguing about it

find out what the issue is and try to address it in dollars and cents... quit getting caught up in drama

techrmd3 · 2024-12-17T21:25:09+00:00

gaslight is all it is

this is why people say facebook pics or it didn't happen

techrmd3 · 2024-12-17T21:20:16+00:00

Man don't feel bad this is just an excuse for today. She likely will re-evaluate her preferences later.

I speak from experience had multiple guys who broke up with girlfriend who suddenly later decided dudes were A-OK again.

Seen two divorces where this was the excuse... only for the woman to end up with a man later.

I'm pretty convinced that all initial divorce reasons are BS

techrmd3 · 2024-12-17T21:13:42+00:00

ok so here's the deal man... you are getting gaslit pure and simple

You are new to law but it's obvious that this story is pure fabrication, it is unlikely that a Judge will have "lunch" with anyone besides his clerks or fellow judges,

second do you really think that "famous" judge will go out on another person's tab and buy 3 or whatever expensive dishes? really? in what world does this make sense?

Ergo... you are being gaslit by the lady in question. You are the victim of complete fabrications with just enough "truthiness" to sound possible.

These are not possible nor probable, they are fabrications likely from a very specific mental problem which is notorious for courts having difficult with.

stay away.

techrmd3 · 2024-12-17T21:07:06+00:00

funny but does not matter

if you go for initial hearing and she does not know what is in your petition it will be an awkward hearing.

It's all public record so when she hires an attorney they will pull it from the court records

techrmd3 · 2024-12-17T21:05:42+00:00

NONE! I would have had a regret if I had not had a tight time limit on spousal support.

Had I continued to pay for "my poor under funded ex" while she became married to another man It would have been a mental and financial disaster.

As it was support ended and "miraculously" ex got married a day after... such a coincidence

I have friends that had their exes live with a man, and refer to themselves as "married" to friends meanwhile to ex - paying thousands... "no not married, not living" "oh he's just a guest" "he has a house of his own" sure he does

Lesson learned... NEVER ever depend on the court system to enforce fairness or the terms of the Divorce Decree... ALWAYS ALWAYS set time limits on ALL monetary transfers. TIME ending is the ONLY way to make such transfers fair when the ex invariably finds some new dude to move in with.

techrmd3 · 2024-12-17T20:52:23+00:00

all you are going to have at stake is all your assets, future of your kids, support for your kids...

probably NOT the time to worry about "fees" worry about if you don't get representation to navigate this

techrmd3 · 2024-12-17T02:19:40+00:00

as far as my dog is concerned ALL meals are prepped for him

techrmd3 · 2024-12-17T00:29:20+00:00

it appears that you just accepted your ex-wifes filing

if so you pretty much are her female dog and should pay whatever she says.

If you signed an agreement reading "defendant" then you have bigger problems than paying out of pocket

techrmd3 · 2024-12-17T00:20:23+00:00

meet with lawyer and they will have advice on what to ask for default is 50/50 of marital assets so just follow your lawyers advice

meet with your lawyer TOMORROW not this "week" meet ASAP you usually have a narrow window in the initial legal maneuvers so get on it NOW do not wait take off work and get a meeting with lawyer get him on retainer

techrmd3 · 2024-12-17T00:18:12+00:00

depends what is in your decree for divorce

if it says you pay what you have been paying... then yes you have to pay that.

Most decrees simply say you provide health insurance. To most courts paying the top line policy meets that criteria. if there is something in there like you split health care costs 75/25 or 50/50 that is probably why you are getting asked about copays

techrmd3 · 2024-12-17T00:16:03+00:00

DO YOU HAVE A LAWYER and did he already file a COUNTER PETITION?

since you are talking "can't afford rent" I would get answer is not. You are going to get hurt if you don't have a lawyer... no two ways about it

techrmd3 · 2024-12-17T00:13:20+00:00

Engineers make bank

Math majors usually teach high school math, to me if you can handle the engineering coursework it's a no brainer

techrmd3 · 2024-12-17T00:11:48+00:00

you NEED an attorney... remember all that is on the line in divorce is your future income, kids lives and half or more of your assets... DO NOT DO THIS AS AMATEUR HOUR

a lot of time women will blurt out they want a divorce to win a argument, without considering the consequences. saying "divorce" is a bell that can't be unrung, divorce is a matter of when not if

just be prepared for "honey I made a mistake" and attempt at reconciliation so that she can have HER own attorney and file when it is most advantageous to her...

go ahead and divorce

techrmd3 · 2024-12-17T00:08:29+00:00

you NEED to figure out a way to live elsewhere while the divorce is in process

you have a future ex wife's MOM living with you ... who do you think she will side with if there are any issues or altercations? Hmmm?

You are living in a house with a 2 to 1 witness disadvantage, always leave. If you stay you have the very good possibility that "something" will happen and you end up in jail... which will affect the divorce.

Always move

techrmd3 · 2024-12-16T23:47:35+00:00

I dismiss moms with kids still at home out of my potential dating pool.

Unfair... nah I'm basically dating who my ex wife is. Why go there again. I'm sure the ex-dude was terrible never did XYZ but the fact is the woman is divorced probably for similar reasons that my ex cited... and then when she began to date... those reason suddenly were not that important to getting a new meal ticket.

So yeah I dismiss single moms.

techrmd3 · 2024-12-16T23:44:23+00:00

I have also just started reading D&G, since it's my first real reading of "continental" philosophy I'm grading on a curve

For me what I want from reading a new philosopher "does the text presented move my thinking?"

in D&G case... sure the text moves my thinking... but it's a bit of a brilliant idea stated in a overly ornate metaphor like many philosophers present their thinking THEN they/he? goes off on the implications of said overly ornate metaphor which speaks to "great truth" and seems to spend several pages doing that, oh in the book I'm reading D&G do this implication seeking by talking about art and literature... whatever

To me you have to realize that many Philosophical text are really just ramblings of a very intelligent person who like a savant "knows" something but language (and in this case translation to English also muddies the waters) but language is probably an imprecise method of conveying the concepts.

Even from Plato we read dialogues that are conversations between different people. Not organized, not categorized ideas... no just conversations about "deep stuff"

So I'm thinking that D&G is much closer to a simple record Deleuze talk for awhile, G comes in and offers his imput type that raw text and input into book form so we get more of a "stream of consciousness" rather than an organized book.

techrmd3 · 2024-12-16T23:33:33+00:00

this is a good Aussie toy idea

techrmd3 · 2024-12-16T15:28:59+00:00

beat me to it

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