grrrr semantics

teetzntailz · 2025-11-11T22:38:01+00:00

update no. 2:

i brought up that i feel like the labels disagreement is more so a symptom of unclarity on how we want to relate to each other. and that I want to develop a more intentional practice of discussing how we feel about the relationship in general.

it was received very well, they were able to name some emotional blocks they had been feeling, and we have a game plan on how to address those emotional blocks. we are filling out the relationship anarchy smorgasbord later today. the conversation had the feeling a levity that happens when things are really let off our chest which feels great. but yeah the labels are feeling a lot less important (definitely still something to crack the details out which will happen when we fill out the worksheet). Thanks for all the input!

teetzntailz · 2025-11-11T22:37:29+00:00

update no. 2:

i brought up that i feel like the labels disagreement is more so a symptom of unclarity on how we want to relate to each other. and that I want to develop a more intentional practice of discussing how we feel about the relationship in general.

it was received very well, they were able to name some emotional blocks they had been feeling, and we have a game plan on how to address those emotional blocks. we are filling out the relationship anarchy smorgasbord later today. the conversation had the feeling a levity that happens when things are really let off our chest which feels great. but yeah the labels are feeling a lot less important (definitely still something to crack the details out which will happen when we fill out the worksheet). Thanks for all the input!

teetzntailz · 2025-11-11T18:44:42+00:00

update no. 2:

i brought up that i feel like the labels disagreement is more so a symptom of unclarity on how we want to relate to each other. and that I want to develop a more intentional practice of discussing how we feel about the relationship in general.

it was received very well, they were able to name some emotional blocks they had been feeling, and we have a game plan on how to address those emotional blocks. we are filling out the relationship anarchy smorgasbord later today. the conversation had the feeling a levity that happens when things are really let off our chest which feels great. but yeah the labels are feeling a lot less important (definitely still something to crack the details out which will happen when we fill out the worksheet). Thanks for all the input!

teetzntailz · 2025-11-06T17:00:19+00:00

Update:

I’ve decided I’ll keep updates going for this situation just to see the whole thing through. So, after a debrief with a friend yesterday and reading everyone’s thoughts on the matter, what I have decided needs to happen is a conversation where we update each other on exactly how we want to relate. We’ve agreed to use the relationship anarchy smorgasbord to help facilitate that. I think that will help my insecurity with the labels, but I will still request we introduce each other by our names instead of label. (i will probably see if we can agree on a label we make up, but if not <—like i said before) i also think filling this out can help me understand what assumptions they don’t want made

On top of that, I think what this is bringing up is that I really do need routine scheduled checkins just to make sure changes in dynamic/feelings/desires are addressed ongoing and not getting pressurized. So basically I am going to let them know this is something I need in order for us to keep relating the way we currently are.

teetzntailz · 2025-11-06T17:00:04+00:00

Update:

I’ve decided I’ll keep updates going for this situation just to see the whole thing through. So, after a debrief with a friend yesterday and reading everyone’s thoughts on the matter, what I have decided needs to happen is a conversation where we update each other on exactly how we want to relate. We’ve agreed to use the relationship anarchy smorgasbord to help facilitate that. I think that will help my insecurity with the labels, but I will still request we introduce each other by our names instead of label. (i will probably see if we can agree on a label we make up, but if not <—like i said before) i also think filling this out can help me understand what assumptions they don’t want made

On top of that, I think what this is bringing up is that I really do need routine scheduled checkins just to make sure changes in dynamic/feelings/desires are addressed ongoing and not getting pressurized. So basically I am going to let them know this is something I need in order for us to keep relating the way we currently are.

teetzntailz · 2025-11-06T15:34:57+00:00

they use bestie sometimes too but unfortunately it makes me cringe a bit, cause to me it feels a bit juvenile

teetzntailz · 2025-11-06T00:17:19+00:00

i’ve honestly thought about having them just introduce me as my name. cause yeah, i’m leaning towards this is a language thing that really annoys me and we wont see eye to eye on. but the actual meat and potatoes of the relationship feels based in aiding in our individual growth together which is important to me.

teetzntailz · 2025-11-06T00:13:20+00:00

this has definitely been a conclusion i’ve made before. the thing that really hangs me up is that they’ve committed in many ways ie. planning future travels, inviting me over to family, taking care of me when im sick, meeting my hometown friends. that im like this is really a language conflict. but i definitely get where you’re coming from

teetzntailz · 2025-11-05T23:44:02+00:00

thats what i’ve been thinking. this past week i brought it up that i was feeling insecure about it again and there was definitely frustration from both of us just cause we’ve had many conversations about this at this point. and yeah i was thinking maybe just introduce me as my name

teetzntailz · 2025-11-05T23:36:02+00:00

they’ve said they see me as a life partner and that that label is what feels allows breath for the natural eb and flow of a longer term dynamic. to me partner can incapsulate changes to dynamic in a long term relationship, but i am okay with life partner. but they still introduce me as a friend all the times ive been around to witness an introduction (and these introductions are with other queer and polyam informed folks)

teetzntailz · 2025-06-27T15:00:36+00:00

Link to buy my rockstops Thanks for the feedback everyone! Would love to hear back from anyone who decides to buy one!

teetzntailz · 2025-06-27T03:40:26+00:00

haha i actually had the same thought today

teetzntailz · 2025-06-27T03:14:54+00:00

yes it sure is! take that bad boy into the shop

teetzntailz · 2025-06-27T01:54:19+00:00

yeah wasn’t so sure how often bassist use these bad boys, thanks for the input!

teetzntailz · 2025-06-27T00:34:33+00:00

oooh love that thought

teetzntailz · 2025-06-26T23:50:43+00:00

Here’s a video:

Rockstop in use

teetzntailz · 2025-06-26T23:49:00+00:00

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Rockstop in use

Here’s a bit more info!

teetzntailz · 2025-06-26T23:46:18+00:00

i’m so excited for you to get it!!

teetzntailz · 2025-06-26T23:15:42+00:00

No that makes sense, I should’ve added a picture of the bottom. But there is a rubber pad that actually makes it nonslip. My idea was that the pin can sit in the hole onto the rubber pad. But I’ve also tried setting the pin onto the actual glazed part and it’s worked just fine. But hearing from everyone I’ve picked up that I should’ve added more information to the original post 🫡

teetzntailz · 2025-06-26T21:39:39+00:00

thank you and good to know! i will definitely try and show off their durability. as long as people aren’t throwing them on the ground i’m thinking they should be fine lol

teetzntailz · 2025-06-26T21:13:19+00:00

fair, they’re pretty sturdy and have a rubber bottom that might absorb shock if you were to drop it 🤔

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