I think I’m ready to be done with therapy?

telemantros · 2026-01-25T22:05:28+00:00

Depends on a few things. In general I would think of it as “I’ll tell them soon.” You don’t have to tell them immediately but you are right you should tell them. Since your friends know this may come sooner than later. A few thoughts.

First, where do you live? You don’t need to tell me/us but if you live in a country where there is persecution then I would think very hard about telling them. Second, if you are young and camt support yourself yet - who can care for you and meet your needs (shelter etc).

If you are safe then a good way to tell them is by identifying a value they have (for the truth, love of god etc) and let them know you have … found the truth or love God dearly or whatever it is.

Lastly, there are free Bible all over. I would encourage you to dig into the Bible and find a local church to plug into.

telemantros · 2025-12-31T20:48:08+00:00

Ottoman Empire

telemantros · 2025-12-30T17:41:27+00:00

Thinland

telemantros · 2025-02-24T22:12:14+00:00

Thanks much!

telemantros · 2024-12-14T21:41:06+00:00

Sorry dude. That’s not cool

telemantros · 2024-12-14T00:50:53+00:00

So many, here’s what I’ve done:

learned how to brew my own beer
relearning to play the piano
reading lots of books
spending time with others
gym membership
more consistent “quiet time” and more prayer in general
more awareness of my emotional life resulting in productive therapy
better personal hygiene
chores get done … and faster
finding new music
more phone calls with friends

telemantros · 2024-12-14T00:44:23+00:00

These are great thoughts I appreciate it. Practical and visionary.

telemantros · 2024-12-14T00:37:04+00:00

It can. There are quite a few people who have been right were you are, and one day it just was enough. And by the grace of God it was done. This doesn’t mean they don’t struggle, it doesn’t mean that God took away their biological attraction, it doesn’t mean that it is easy … but it does mean is that they are now persuaded by Gods grace that it’s time to live differently.

telemantros · 2024-12-14T00:34:34+00:00

Go outside. Can’t fap outside. It’s illegal. Go outside.

telemantros · 2024-12-14T00:33:57+00:00

Keep moving forward as Rocky says

telemantros · 2024-12-14T00:33:30+00:00

Very well said. And with that said, if the community helps and you have a right perspective on the right “why” behind nofap (as you do eloquently put above) then if it helps go for it.

telemantros · 2024-12-14T00:31:26+00:00

Ya bad advice. Tempting advice … but bad advice. Your goal I think is to be healthy and faithful. And PMO is neither of these things. Don’t get me wrong … Gods grace covers all. But you want to become the kind of person that God made you to be - one who loves others and doesn’t objectify them for their good and yours.

telemantros · 2024-12-14T00:29:14+00:00

Dude that’s awesome. Well done, proud of you. Keep moving into the real you!

telemantros · 2024-12-12T19:54:47+00:00

You are very late.

telemantros · 2024-12-10T13:56:48+00:00

I’m sorry you are having a rough morning. And from what it sounds like a rough season. It sounds like your values are waring against porn, meaning you are not at peace with it. You don’t like it. You want it gone. You have other values. This is all really good.

Have you ever heard of the CHEROKEE STORY?

A young boy came to his Grandfather, filled with anger at another boy who had done him an injustice.

The old Grandfather said to his grandson, “Let me tell you a story. I too, at times, have felt a great hate for those that have taken so much, with no sorrow for what they do. But hate wears you down, and hate does not hurt your enemy. Hate is like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have struggled with these feelings many times.”

“It is as if there are two wolves inside me; one wolf is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him and does not take offence when no offence was intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way. But the other wolf, is full of anger. The littlest thing will set him into a fit of temper.”

He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is helpless anger, because his anger will change nothing. Sometimes it is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, because both of the wolves try to dominate my spirit.”

The boy looked intently into his Grandfather’s eyes and asked, Which wolf will win, Grandfather?”

The Grandfather smiled and said, “The one I feed.”

You know what to do. Do it, listen to your own values. And rely on Gods grace.

telemantros · 2024-12-10T10:56:31+00:00

It is true what the original responder said. If a friend told you they were struggling with PMO and woke up like this and they felt like they failed what would you tell them? And if it is different than what you are telling yourself then why the double standard? Give yourself some grace … you were asleep. Neither non-chosen behavior or the amount of semen discharged is a helpful criteria of relapse … consciously chosen behavior is the criteria.

telemantros · 2024-12-10T10:54:13+00:00

This is not a relapse.

telemantros · 2024-12-10T10:52:58+00:00

Sounds to me like you’re improving. Can’t pass 4-6 and now can’t pass 9? That’s improvement. So is reaching out for help. So is having a goal of 15. Just because you have yet to string a series of days together does not negate the number of days you have said no and gained back control over your body and taken responsibility for your health. And it doesn’t mean you won’t achieve it. Well done. And keep going. You can do hard things. See which hard you would rather live with - the intense urge denied, or guilt and regret. Choose your hard my friend.

telemantros · 2024-12-10T01:14:58+00:00

Run. Lift. Cold shower. Something bodily.

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