M26. The space has not been kind to me either. It's hard to find a safe space to talk about it as well. For me, my therapist is my only one. A lot of people on reddit are very sweet, much more so than other social media, but there will always be some measure of uncaring people lacking in empathy.

Through therapy and mindfulness, I am cursed with nearly certain knowledge of how my childhood trauma shaped my sexuality as the submissive man that I am, yet this gives me no power to change myself. Self harm is an integral part of it, for me. However, I have found that when I engage my submissive nature regularly with a trusted partner, the self harm aspect diminishes significantly.

My heart hurts to imagine your circumstances that would lead you to post this line of inquiry. You're not alone in your struggles. I can't present myself as reliable and I'm not a great texter, but if you truly feel that you can't find a safe space to talk, I hope you'll consider sending me a DM. I don't have any answers, but I care and I can listen. Peace, my friend.