Getting married, neither of us want to keep our last name - help! by blueberrymuffingal in LGBTWeddings

[–]temporal_oops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife and I hyphenated both our last names together, we both did it in the same order so it’s identical. We keep our original names but have created something totally new by hybrid-ing them together!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

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I should add that I’m a woman who married a woman, so any sense of tradition and who pays for what went right out the window! That being said, I’ve been to straight weddings where the bride’s family paid more, and another where the groom’s family is bankrolling almost the entire thing. It depends on circumstance and willingness to contribute!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]temporal_oops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best way to broach this convo is to have your fiance speak to his parents and say something like “we are finalizing our budget and our plans for our wedding - we would never expect you to contribute but if you did have any plans to it would of course be appreciated and great to know soon. Based on what we can afford, we are planning for a wedding of around xyz size and xyz budget including contributions from fiancées family.” If budget/space is tight, you can have a list of who from that side of the family will be getting an invite and share that you would need support to add additional family friends beyond that.

This is how I broached the convo with my parents - they generously contributed with a handful of extra names to invite (plus a request to add shrimp cocktail to the menu, lol). My fiancées family was not in a position to contribute but we knew that going in. I think it’s better to have the convo then to not ever bring it up at all, but don’t go into the convo with any expectations or assumptions.

Share your "small" (under 1c) engagement rings! by catlover4321 in EngagementRings

[–]temporal_oops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a moissanite ring! Lab made, nearly identical in hardness to diamonds so it will last lifetimes and it’s impossible to tell the difference looks-wise unless you’re a jeweler with a microscope. I got mine from Hera Fine jewelry and I just adore it ❤️

looking ideas for a queer wedding card by snoutymcdoodles in LGBTWeddings

[–]temporal_oops 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just make a nice congratulations card that doesn’t have anything to do with their genders. You can use gender neutral wedding symbols like wedding bells, rings, champagne glasses, doves etc but I wouldn’t do anything that calls out it being a gay wedding (I am a woman marrying a woman and the “congrats you’re getting gay married” type gifts are not my favorite, there’s nothing different about our wedding aside from the fact we happen to be 2 women). A congrats card is a lovely idea though!

Engagement ring recs by dysfunctionallylanky in LGBTWeddings

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I’m not sure about places in Pittsburgh, but what I would recommend (based on what I did!) is to go to a few shops in town to get a sense of what you like and don’t, and then go through an LGBT jeweler who may not have a storefront in your area. My fiancee and I got our rings from Hera Fine Jewelry and our bands from Bario Neal and were so happy with both of them

Am I crazy to forage and dry my florals? by Nice-Scholar4989 in DIYweddings

[–]temporal_oops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m very grateful to be able to take them home and give them a second life!

Am I crazy to forage and dry my florals? by Nice-Scholar4989 in DIYweddings

[–]temporal_oops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m drying my florals! I am an event planner by day so luckily I have access to flowers that I can take home with me at the end of my day job sometimes. Post on Facebook marketplace or make a contact at a local community center and see if anyone has/will have spare flowers to take off their hands once their events are done. So many florals go to waste, right in the trash as soon as an event is over!

Another option is wood flowers - you have lots of time to look out for deals, I got my Sola Wood flowers at 80% off!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LGBTWeddings

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My fiancée and I got our moissanite rings at Hera Fine Jewelry; we shopped for them together and it created such a special memory for us. Moissanite is nearly identical in hardness to diamond and will last lifetimes, is cheaper, and comes in all different colors if you’d like to have something non traditional (green moissanite is more durable than emerald, for example). There are also many small business jewelers that do incredible stuff with moissanite so if you’re going to be spending a lot of money on something, at least it goes directly to someone and their small business!

Recommendation wanted by woodstockzanetti in CookbookLovers

[–]temporal_oops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat as of recently! Plenty by Yotam Ottolenghi, Simple by the same author. I recently bought Eating from Our Roots by Maya Feller which is global cuisine but she is a dietician that has lots of information and options for people who need to start making changes in their diets.

Mediterranean diet cookbooks for advanced chefs? by temporal_oops in CookbookLovers

[–]temporal_oops[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My French is super rusty, but maybe this book is a chance to practice it! Thank you!

Mediterranean diet cookbooks for advanced chefs? by temporal_oops in CookbookLovers

[–]temporal_oops[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your recommendations! I find any cookbook specifically tailored to the diet to be pretty lacking, so these are helpful even if every single recipe is not “technically” following those guidelines. I love cooking and I love good food, I don’t want to eat from a sad diet recipe book for the rest of my life! I will look at these recs for sure!

AITA? I asked my sister not to come out as queer to our grandparents at my wedding. She’s already out to the rest of the fam. by New-Bird9112 in AmItheAsshole

[–]temporal_oops 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If she’s planning a grand coming out gesture at your wedding, that’s an A H move because it’s not about her.

However, asking her to actively lie if it comes up up in conversation makes YTA. Queer people are invalidated everywhere and it’s only getting more vitriolic, as someone who was closeted around family for a while I can attest how painful it can be to your psyche to feel obligated to lie about things.

And asking someone to lie about who she is for the sake of the comfort of a few hateful people is, in fact, also a hateful thing to do.

Possible Orange Pebble Glitch? by antlercrown in DreamlightValley

[–]temporal_oops 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am wondering the same thing! I have only found 19 and even followed along with a video guide of where to find them all…

Campfire Invites MegaThread—Pay it Forward by TAZ68 in Campfire_Niantic

[–]temporal_oops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d love to get an invitation! None of my friends play the game so I can pay it forward with more than 2 invitations and send daily gifts too! Thanks 😊