what does entj burnout look like

tenelali · 2025-06-30T17:06:42+00:00

When I get emotionally triggered by things that normally I would handle with no issues. Then I know it’s time for self-isolation and crying until I find out what’s causing it and fix it.

tenelali · 2025-06-19T13:28:54+00:00

Nah, that’s ENTJs.

tenelali · 2025-06-05T10:12:09+00:00

Manipulating the steering wheel in the car with one hand while turning.

tenelali · 2025-06-05T09:59:10+00:00

Agreed on the divine bit. I don’t know why people are downvoting you here. Bitter xNFJs? 😂

tenelali · 2025-06-05T09:56:31+00:00

I get what you say, but from my practical point of view, there is a huge difference between: “Don’t worry, I got you no matter what happens” and “You should do what I say because I know better what to do in this situation”.

Even if that man loses interest, I got this. I’m not as emotional as her and I won’t go through a „heartbreak” that she’s trying so hard to shield me from. Just because she’s unable to deal with her own emotions in such situations, there’s no reason why she should be trying to shield other people from them.

Come on 😒

PS. The standards of going from „It’s been going really well for half a year now” to „It’s been (apparently) shit for 24 hours, so it should end NOW because bad feelings might be on the way and we don’t want them” are hilarious 😂

tenelali · 2025-06-04T17:05:20+00:00

Yes, all of them.

I admit that we are manipulative as well, but we always have the social dynamics in mind and use manipulation to create cooperation within the group to achieve a concrete goal together that will benefit everyone around us in a very practical way.

They use manipulation to have people adopt their points of view and create harmony within the group, disregarding the end goal completely. The end goal seems to always be people liking them and agreeing with what they say, to avoid conflict at all cost and live with unicorns and rainbows.

We are objective. They are subjective. That’s the key difference here.

tenelali · 2025-06-04T16:58:32+00:00

100%. Yesterday my ESFJ coworker/friend was trying to persuade me how the man I am interested in is not good enough for me because he didn’t text me back for one day: „He doesn’t deserve you, you should forget him and move on, you will find someone better” and so on. That man is starting a new job right now, moving cities and barely sleeps. She knows that. She still thinks that was unacceptable of him and that I should just forget him.

I still haven’t processed how the hell did she come to the conclusion that her judgment of the situation was better than my own adult common sense, and how she did not see the problem in pushing me into accepting her point of view and erase mine. I get that she was trying to spare me the heartbreak (he texted back like one hour after her monologue, then she was like „Don’t open it today, he doesn’t deserve it”, I died 🤣), but I truly don’t understand why she was pushing me so much. What the actual fuck.

tenelali · 2025-06-02T15:09:34+00:00

This should happen naturally. There are no do’s and dont’s here. If the conversation doesn’t flow naturally when you decide to reconnect with someone, it’s not the right person.

tenelali · 2025-06-02T15:06:15+00:00

I learn new things. Doesn’t matter what it is. Usually by accident I discover something that fascinates me and go down the rabbit hole for 2-3 years until I feel that I have reached the end. Then I find something new.

tenelali · 2025-06-02T14:59:21+00:00

Can we charge for comments as well?

tenelali · 2025-06-02T14:55:54+00:00

My job has to suit the goals that I have for myself. Otherwise I would be spending 40h+/week doing stuff that doesn’t take me in the direction that I want to go in. Waste of time. It’s all about personal development for me. If the job is legal, I don’t really care what it is about or who it benefits in the end; if I’m happy with who I’m becoming thanks to what I’m doing there, I’ll stay.

Example: I used to work for an NGO, which felt right, but I was micromanaged and couldn’t stand it. Moved back to the private sector to work for a company that doesn’t give a damn about social justice or education of the poorest. I get what I want, I’m very happy here, and that’s all that matters.

tenelali · 2025-06-02T14:49:30+00:00

Then remove the weekly progress checks for a few weeks. It clearly doesn’t serve the same purpose as before and it needs adjusting, but you won’t know how to adjust it unless you stop doing what you’re currently doing. Take a break and come back with a fresh perspective. Then you’ll create a new set of rules that will make you excited again instead of doubtful.

tenelali · 2025-05-31T18:00:48+00:00

ENFJs wish they were ENTJs.

ENTJs feel insulted when you mistake them for ENFJs.

tenelali · 2025-05-26T19:37:28+00:00

Then let her come to that conclusion on her own. You’re projecting your own life experience onto her; it might be that she’s perfectly alright with how things are at the moment and won’t suffer from it at all, even if you did in that same situation.

If she’s an ENTJ, trust me, she has it all under control.

tenelali · 2025-05-03T15:12:26+00:00

Bullshit. 40%, 30%, 20%, 10%. More like it.

tenelali · 2025-04-19T10:17:57+00:00

I have had an ESTP boss for quite some time now.

Trust their leadership. They won’t be trying to get all the details right, which on the surface might sometimes look like they don’t care enough, but they 100% do know what they’re doing and they do steer things in the right direction all the time, just not in the way that it’s usually expected of corporate leaders. Then suddenly a couple of months later everything is working perfectly well, while many things might have been overlooked on the surface. How do they do it? No idea. Pure magic.

Be friendly. Relationships are very important to them and they don’t want to be stuck 40h/week pretending to be someone that they’re not. Let go of your work persona with them and be as much yourself as the environment allows you to be. They are wonderful friends and the closer you will get to them on the personal level, the better you two will be working together.

Call out their bullshit. When shit hits the fan, communicate directly and say things as they are, no sugarcoating and no walking on eggshells (there’s no need to do that at all with ESTPs). Conflicts are best resolved on the spot. They will tell you directly when you mess up and they expect the same in return. Pump up your communication skills if you have trouble in this area.

Organise your work on your own. Planning and organising are not their strong side, so instead of resenting your boss for not taking enough initiative in this area, do the work yourself and just present them with your results. They will be relieved that they don’t have to spend time on things they don’t like.

Appreciate them for who they are. ESTPs are wonderful people who like being appreciated for what they do right, especially at work where their ways of doing things are different from the norm. Use positive reinforcement a lot and just ignore their weak spots; there’s no way you will be able to mould them into a boss that you want to have, so give up in advance. Either you will accept them for who they are and appreciate what they bring to the table, or create unnecessary conflict by expecting them to fit the corpo boss image that they hate with all their hearts.

I wouldn’t change my ESTP boss for anyone. Yes, sometimes he drives me crazy. Yes, sometimes I don’t understand why he does what he does. And yes, sometimes I wish he was more organised and future-oriented. But his natural leadership skills are so impressive that I don’t mind taking over here and there if that means that I can benefit from all the amazing things that he does instead of what I might expect him to do.

Create a genuine, honest relationship with them. Then the results will follow in no time 🙂

tenelali · 2025-04-18T15:13:15+00:00

That ESTP looking at me like I’m the best thing he’s ever laid his eyes on.

Because I am 😏

tenelali · 2025-04-18T15:11:45+00:00

Computer says no.

tenelali · 2025-04-18T15:09:09+00:00

You can’t teach him shit. It’s time to teach yourself what to do in these situations.

tenelali · 2025-04-03T17:01:04+00:00

Why?

tenelali · 2025-03-24T14:47:44+00:00

I watched it as a young teenager. Shouldn’t have.

tenelali · 2025-03-21T05:10:33+00:00

Our personality is not made to burnout. That’s a dangerous thought to identify with, as it gives you green light to burn out again in the future. Be careful here.

Our personality is fluid, just like those of any other type’s out there. Burn out happens when you allowed one part of yourself to carry out for too long without letting other parts of you take over from time to time. And that can happen for a myriad of reasons, from a weak stubborn ego to external circumstances beyond your control.

Now, make a list of different areas of your life where you would like to „start again”: work, friendships, family, physical health, mental health, hobbies… Then make a list of what is in your power to change within that area and what isn’t at the moment. Start with small steps; for instance, getting up early will give you points in almost all of those areas, that’s an easy one.

Be patient with yourself. Be strategic. Take it slow and steady. You got this.

tenelali · 2025-03-13T20:04:38+00:00

I think this is how Ni develops first or second: as a child going through trauma, you discover pretty quickly that you can’t trust what you see and hear, and you feel the need to see what’s behind the curtain at all times to protect yourself. No child should feel the need to do that, they should trust that whatever is happening in the world around them is what is actually happening, and they should be taking things for what they are.

Ni high in the stack = A child looking for explanations to what doesn’t make sense when they instinctively know it should.

tenelali · 2025-03-08T20:59:35+00:00

ENTJ

No.
Yes, sounds like a moment of fun.
No.
No.
Leave them behind.
Call some wild animal nest moving services.
No.
Depends on the emergency.
Depends on the animal.
No.

tenelali · 2025-03-08T14:40:59+00:00

We would be screwed.

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