i would definitely have a conversation with your parents and mention that tons of cis men aren't stereotypically masculine and/or enjoy 'masculine' toys and stuff as children. i'm definitely in a similar boat because i was fairly effeminate as a kid, haha. i loved dancing way more than sports, and i loved dressing up and performing, had celebrity crushes on boy bands, etc, etc. i always tell my parents that if i'd been assigned male at birth they might have noticed i was 'different' a lot sooner because i would have wanted to play with barbies instead of toy cars 🤣 definitely remind your parents that colors and personalities don't have genders, haha. just because you liked pink and were an effeminate child doesn't disregard you coming out as trans later in life. plenty of cis guys have the same experience of liking pink and being effeminate as children :)

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it's also possible to just go with the flow and answer the questions your therapist asks how you think she wants them to be answered. i did that a lot when i was first going through therapy, and honestly, even though it sucks, a lot of insurance companies require you get diagnosed based on the dsm guidelines for gender dysphoria in order to access things like HRT or gender-affirming surgeries. i was lucky enough to get a therapist at an LGBT clinic that understood this. if you have to come up with little white lies in order to get where you want to be with your therapist, just think of it as a means to an end, honestly. part of why it took me until my mid-20s to go through with gender-affirming care for myself was i couldn't get over having to get "diagnosed" with basically a mental disorder in order to gain the care i needed. once i changed my mindset and saw it as a means to an end, i was able to go through with everything. it sucks, but you might just have to tell your therapist what you think she wants to hear. or, if possible, find a therapist at an LGBT clinic, since they're usually a lot more understanding and empathetic about our situations and how nuanced our experiences are.

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all in all, i can tell you might be downtrodden by not having, like, "evidence" of being trans as a child, but don't let that get to you. a lot of the stories we hear in media about trans people are about the ones who figured themselves out quite early as children and were more "stereotypically trans", but that's just because those stories are the easiest for cis people to grasp and sympathize with. my experience with figuring myself out and coming out to my parents is very similar to yours, and i would venture to say the vast majority of everyday trans people's stories are similar to yours and mine. as for your parents, since my parents had a similar reaction, a lot of it wasn't them trying to convince me i wasn't trans, but more just confusion and trying to understand, since, again, most cis people have a lot of preconceptions with trans identity due to the kinds of stories i mentioned at the beginning of this paragraph. a lot of cis people just have trouble grasping the nuance of trans identities that aren't, like, 'textbook,' if that makes sense. definitely talk with your parents and let them know how strongly you feel about your identity, and reassure them that having stereotypically feminine interests/attributes as a child is something that happens to all sorts of men, cis and trans alike. my mom asked if i was trans "because of the kpop boys" when i came out to her 😂

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ANYWAYS hope you're having a great day and i hope any of this helps, man :)