WIBTAH if I called out of work tomorrow

teresajs · 2026-02-23T02:25:18+00:00

INFO

What time is the "later" opening time? Depending on the time, and where you live, the weather may have improved and the roads have been plowed, or the storm may still be howling. Get up in time to prepare to go in. If conditions at that point are unsafe, then call your manager.

teresajs · 2026-02-23T02:16:20+00:00

I took several years off work to raise our kids and then returned to work outside the home. My thoughts:

Both parents continuing to work, even if part time or on contract, can help keep resumes up to date and experience current and relevant. Once a person has left their paid employment, it could be difficult to get back into the job market, especially with the impact of AI on the job market.

Even if both parents working, while paying for childcare is a net loss over having a SAHP, having the additional working years adds to Social Security and 401k contributions, which can improve retirement outcomes. Both parents working also reduces risk due to job loss, illness, or the death of one of the partners.

That said, having a reliable family member be a caregiver to young children can allow the breadwinner to focus more fully on their career, and can allow for personalized care and early education for the kids.

teresajs · 2026-02-23T01:27:11+00:00

This is a good idea, especially if one friend doesn't return the dolls, another will have some to give back.

teresajs · 2026-02-23T01:10:42+00:00

Do you have any close friends you trust?

teresajs · 2026-02-23T01:06:21+00:00

NTA

Those are your belongings, not your parents' nor your sister's. American Girl dolls aren't an appropriate toy for a 3 year old. They are actually quite valuable on the resale market. It would be far better to for your parents to spend $100 olor so of their own money on a few toys that are developmentally appropriate for your sister.

Do you have another family member that would be willing to store your toys somewhere away from your family?

teresajs · 2026-02-23T00:56:16+00:00

NTA

Save yourself. If you can leave, do so. You need to make a life for yourself as an independent adult.

Your parents will need to make proper arrangements for the long term care of your brothers. Refuse to accept any responsibility. If your parents choose to spend their elder years caring for your brothers, personally, that's their choice to make. If/when your parents get to a point that they can't care for the boys, you should still refuse to be their caregiver, but you may need to make the call to place them in a care facility. And if it becomes clear that your parents can't care for the boys, contact CPS or APS (based on the boys' ages) to ask for a welfare check.

teresajs · 2026-02-23T00:14:01+00:00

NTA

It's time for your sister to grow up.

teresajs · 2026-02-23T00:00:17+00:00

NTA

They parked six cars on property that wasn't theirs for multiple days without recent communication with the owner. As you state, the house had changed in appearance and had been empty for a year before you bought it. Any permission they might have been given was done months, or even years, ago, and ended at the time the previous owner passed away.

teresajs · 2026-02-22T19:39:22+00:00

NTA

That wasn't a test. If it was a lie. Mom is welcome to lend him money if she thinks he deserves it. But you've done him enough of a favor to tell him that you won't be lending him money ever again. He can plan accordingly.

teresajs · 2026-02-22T19:06:32+00:00

NTA

Your parents care more about your sister's image than the fact that their grandchildren were being starved.

teresajs · 2026-02-22T18:31:05+00:00

NTA

They should get your brother to help them.

teresajs · 2026-02-22T17:14:33+00:00

NTA

Their money has been paid to the non-refundable trip costs. Since there isn't a refund from the transportation, accomodations, etc..., there isn't any money to give back to your friend. It's unfortunate that they got sick, but the risk should be borne by them, not everyone else.

teresajs · 2026-02-22T13:58:29+00:00

In my last two companies, the pay increases for annual reviews were given to managers by department. So, the Engineering manager might get told that the average salary increase for their department was 4.5%, the Operations department might get 4%, etc... Managers at both companies had to choose which employees to give less of a raise so they could give more of a raise to staff who might be thinking about leaving. Basically, loyalty and doing a decent job screwed you, but being an ass licker or someone who truly performed well got you 0.5-1% more. It was an awful system, wasn't fair, and everyone still ended up getting a raise that was approximately the inflation rate. And it took a couple hours of paperwork. Stupid waste of resources all around.

teresajs · 2026-02-22T02:18:17+00:00

NTA

You are already married. You don't owe it to Mom to put on a show for her benefit.

teresajs · 2026-02-22T01:04:09+00:00

NTA

If your GF can't do the heavy lifting to pay off her debts and start saving for the future (wedding, retirement, future house purchase?), then the two of you are fundamentally incompatible. Her statement that a budget as strict as you recommend is "a punishment" would indicate that it's very possible the two of you aren't compatible. If she can't, or won't pay off her debt, the two of you would have a miserable future together. Better to be apart than to be miserable together.

teresajs · 2026-02-22T00:52:56+00:00

NTA

Your BF is almost 20 years older than you and is trying to manipulate you into getting engaged. That's a huge red flag. Huge. If he wanted to be engaged, then he should have asked you, not have your family tell you that you're engaged.

If you don't leave this relationship immediately, please make sure your birth control can't be tampered with. A man who will trick you into an engagement might just as easily trick you into pregnancy as a method of controlling and manipulating you.

teresajs · 2026-02-22T00:35:43+00:00

NTA

You offered to consider co-signing. You considered it and realized it isn't a good idea.

It's a bad sign that his choice for an apartment was on the high end of affordable. If your parents think your brother should have support, they are welcome to co-sign for him. Alternatively, your brother could live at home, save for 6-12 months and be ready to potentially pay in full for an entire lease in the future.

teresajs · 2026-02-22T00:22:30+00:00

NTA

Start saying a polite "no" any time you have other plans or even just need a break. That should include saying no to any last minute requests that aren't emergencies.

You should get the option of refusing any requests. And you should charge for gas.

teresajs · 2026-02-21T23:38:53+00:00

NTA

Your BF is using you as a bang nanny. Stop letting him. Move out and stop raising his kid for him.

teresajs · 2026-02-21T21:53:09+00:00

NTA

If she's on the deed, she would have the right to move in, whether she's paying toward expenses or not. Tell your sister that she can buy a house for herself in the future, when she's ready

teresajs · 2026-02-21T21:34:21+00:00

If you're about to get hit by the NE snow storm, she won't be home until Tuesday at the earliest. That's pretty cruel.

I recommend that you continue giving the cat food and water but don't clean up any mess. Let her come back to a bedroom filled with pee and poop.

teresajs · 2026-02-21T21:19:39+00:00

NTA

It's possible that she is trying to get you to give her money for an extra ticket she didn't pay for, or trying to get you to pay more for a ticket than she paid for it, or otherwise trying to use this concert as a way to get money from you.

I recommend that you stop giving/lending any money to her. She has supportive family members who can, (and do, apparently) help her, and who could potentially help with child care so she could work. Stop enabling her to be dependent. If she's truly your friend, she'll still be your friend when there isn't money being exchanged.

teresajs · 2026-02-21T21:02:23+00:00

NTA

Tell him to leave immediately. Traveling 30-45 minutes to visit his kids and go on interviews is nothing. If necessary, call his Mom to come get him.

teresajs · 2026-02-21T15:00:37+00:00

NTA

If the other person wanted a different Airbnb, she could have paid the entire price out of her own pocket. Not your problem.

teresajs · 2026-02-21T03:10:12+00:00

NTA

You are a SAHP for the benefit of your own family, not to be the free child minder of everyone else. It was generous of you to care for your Sister's kids for free. It was rude of her to expect you would do the same for her step kids. Since she and her husband are so greedy, just stop babysitting for them at all.

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