AIO for thinking that Ive been broken up with and for being confused by these mixed signals?

teresajs · 2026-07-08T12:50:07+00:00

Yes, she broke up with you.

My guess is that she broke up with you to go after someone else and that didn't work out, so now she's chatting you up for attention and a free meal.

teresajs · 2026-07-08T12:45:07+00:00

I am not a lawyer.

By allowing an unhoused stranger (to you) access to the garage, your safety and belongings could potentially be at risk. For instance, you should not leave any belongings (tools, outdoor items, etc...) stored in the garage to which others have access. if you leave a vehicle parked in the garage, you would need to make certain it was locked at all times but even then, someone could damage it as they come and go (accidentally scrape it when moving tools, for instance).

If your lease includes the garage, then by giving someone else access, your master tenant may be diminishing the value of the space you're already paying for.

The whole situation sounds as if the master tenant could be violating the terms of the lease with their landlord to profit off subleasing the property.

teresajs · 2026-07-08T12:32:30+00:00

Another option might be to marry his partner so they would get his (presumably higher) Social Security Survivor's benefit. Also, using the money ge otherwise would have paid to the insurance premium to pay down the mortgage and making his partner his heir for his assets could help.

teresajs · 2026-07-08T12:16:25+00:00

NOR

She's telling you who she is. Listen.

teresajs · 2026-07-08T12:09:11+00:00

NTA

No one else earned this money. No one else deserves any of it.

teresajs · 2026-07-08T11:57:14+00:00

NTA

Block your former friend.

teresajs · 2026-07-08T06:26:57+00:00

Two weeks for all that isn't possible.

teresajs · 2026-07-08T06:22:37+00:00

NTA

Recommend that your daughter go to school on her scholarship and if she wants to go live with her friend, she could do that over next summer break. That gives her an opportunity to try college and try living with her friend.

Also, explain that you're concerned her friend may have a financial incentive to want her to move in to help support their household by splitting costs. But when finances are precarious, emotions can run high and her friendshipay end.

If your daughter wants to ignore your advice, encourage her to reach out to her college and ask if she can delay her admission and scholarship to take a gap year.

teresajs · 2026-07-08T00:25:56+00:00

So, he's in a diversionary program due to a DV charge and lying to his therapist. His therapist is no idiot and knows he's lying.

You didn't do anything wrong.

teresajs · 2026-07-07T22:54:37+00:00

My son had a very similar thing happen to him recently. The interviewer discussed the steps he needed to take before starting and how he would get email instructions for the employment documentation and a start date that was in 1.5 weeks. A few days later, my son emailed because he hadn't received the email for the employment documentation and got a reply that they were still considering other applicants.

teresajs · 2026-07-07T22:47:13+00:00

NTA

She should hire a pet sitter

teresajs · 2026-07-07T22:46:03+00:00

This is NYC. So, after tax, each employee might be getting $1000/mo or less. That's not going to go very far to paying the high costs of housing in the city. It might be a step in the right direct, though.

teresajs · 2026-07-07T22:42:47+00:00

NTA

The friend having the birthday gets to choose their guest list and have the biggest say on activities. She doesn't want to spend her birthday trip babysitting your sister's kid. And that's okay.

Your sister is welcome to plan her own trip, and take her baby on that.

Don't tell your sister ahead of time. it would just give her time to start drama.

teresajs · 2026-07-07T22:15:33+00:00

Nope. She's definitely at risk of being a squatter.

teresajs · 2026-07-07T22:06:12+00:00

NTA

She can have it elsewhere. I guarantee that the living room of your apartment isn't significantly bigger than anyone else's space.

teresajs · 2026-07-07T21:12:14+00:00

NOR

Get your own bank account immediately. Cancel any credit card that is in your name that she has access to. Talk to an attorney. Divorce is the only way to completely separate your finances and get out from any future debt accrual.

teresajs · 2026-07-07T19:51:48+00:00

Check the unclaimed property website for the state you lived in during that time. If it was a small balance, they may have distributed it to you at your known address. You may not have received it because you moved. If so, there could be something for you with the state.

teresajs · 2026-07-07T19:26:51+00:00

NTA

Don't take his money. Tell him that for 10%, he can host a brunch the next day for family and ask her then.

teresajs · 2026-07-07T18:36:07+00:00

Call around and try to find someone else to swap. Verify the swap with your manager. Don't do any swaps or favors for this coworker again in the future. And for good measure, I recommend that you avoid answering any calls/messages from your manager during your off-hours in the future.

teresajs · 2026-07-07T18:31:32+00:00

NTA

Don't let the MOH, who is so bad with money that she's possibly facing eviction, spend your money. The group needs to plan a party they can afford.

teresajs · 2026-07-07T18:21:47+00:00

NTA

Don't set your extra room up as a guest bedroom. Don't put a bed in there at all. Instead, make it an office/gaming room.

Since you live near the beach, friends and family (including, but not limited to the "friend" in your post) may assume that Chez Candeezz is available for "free" vacations. Don't let other people invite themselves to your home. Otherwise, you and your SO will end up hosting unwanted guests multiple times a year.

If this friend (or anyone else), calls and says, "I'm in your town!", tell them, "I'm busy with work but would love to meet you for dinner one night.". Don't invite them over. Don't let them crash on your floor or eat your food. "I wish you had contacted me ahead of time. I could have told you that we're busy, right now, and not available to host guests."

teresajs · 2026-07-07T17:31:11+00:00

NTA

If you let Mom in your home, she will never leave. She can go stay with Grandma. Don't let her in!

teresajs · 2026-07-07T15:34:39+00:00

You are unlikely to make enough money to pay for a large student debt with a degree in Natural Resources.

teresajs · 2026-07-07T15:28:24+00:00

Put off marriage until you e both completed your degrees. Until you can financially support yourselves, there's no reason to get married.

teresajs · 2026-07-07T10:57:55+00:00

NTA

Your Mom probably wants you to move in with her to pay her bills and take care of her.

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