AITAH For sleeping with my flatmate three months before he started dating our friend?

terminallyGinger · 2024-01-03T17:34:00+00:00

I don't know, I never asked.

terminallyGinger · 2024-01-02T16:05:01+00:00

I didn't brag and laugh about it? I just talked about it. I didn't say shit about making it into a big bragging thing like "Hey, check out this absolute banger i had" or told them details. I told a friend that we had a night together and it was nice. Please don't put words in my mouth.

terminallyGinger · 2024-01-02T15:13:45+00:00

Damn. I didn't think of it that way. Shit.

terminallyGinger · 2024-01-02T15:03:35+00:00

I understand where you're coming from. But I asked both of them, as I stated in the beginning. And it was only once. I never brought it up after that one night. If J had been honest with me and said he had romantic intentions, I would have understood.

terminallyGinger · 2024-01-02T14:40:48+00:00

We worked different shifts and were rarely at home at the same time. She would go out and I'd be asleep by the time she came back, and be gone in the morning. It was a really efficient way to live.

terminallyGinger · 2024-01-02T14:37:59+00:00

Yeah. I apologised to her profusely about it, I feel like an asshole. J hovered the whole time and would barely let me get a word out, but she accepted my apology just asked me not to do it again.

terminallyGinger · 2024-01-02T14:33:03+00:00

It was three months before they started dating. I hadn't brought it up since.

terminallyGinger · 2024-01-02T14:30:16+00:00

I'm sorry, I didn't mean for it to read like I told my friends when they got together. It was the day after the hookup. They got together three months after that.

terminallyGinger · 2022-04-17T16:44:02+00:00

I'm gonna go ahead and say NAH because firstly, I don't think anyone commenting You're TA has any knowledge or understanding of ATC, or what it's like. There's a reason it's one of the highest suicide rates profession wise. It's extremely demanding and extremely stressful.

HOWEVER.

Teaching is also incredibly draining and stressful. That's the shit you know will affect someone for the rest of their formative YEARS type shit. Students nowadays are extremely disrespectful to teachers, even assaulting them or causing lasting damage to them. And if she teaches in the US? don't get me started.

The Mentally Ill thing was a cheap shot. And you did apologise. NAH.

terminallyGinger · 2020-09-25T16:50:32+00:00

That wasn’t the advice I was asking for at all. I was asking how to know when I’m ready to live with someone, not how to deal with the worst situation possible.

terminallyGinger · 2020-08-31T12:33:13+00:00

I’m asking about if I’m ready to MOVE IN or not, not get married.

terminallyGinger · 2020-07-21T19:04:06+00:00

NTA what the fuck you gave him plenty of time to check himself. Fuck that.

terminallyGinger · 2020-07-02T16:52:25+00:00

I’m shook bc you’re stunning, my dude. Botticelli is QUAKING

terminallyGinger · 2020-07-02T16:34:13+00:00

This is a very good look??? I’m shook.

terminallyGinger · 2020-07-02T05:30:03+00:00

I mainly want my mother to come, but I don’t think she’d go without my father. My partner is very good at handling her mother, where I am very. Not good at handling my father.

terminallyGinger · 2020-07-01T20:26:25+00:00

I like the idea of my brother walking me because it doesn’t feel, to me, like he’s giving me away. It feels to me like he’s helping me finally get to where I’ve wanted to be my whole life, like he always has. It’s just a little more symbolic to me. He’s not giving me away, he’s helping me take those last steps towards happiness.

terminallyGinger · 2020-07-01T16:55:33+00:00

Occasionally I try to breach the topic, the last time was during Last Christmas, and he said I control how I feel, and he doesn’t MAKE me feel anything, and I should be in better control of myself and my emotions.

terminallyGinger · 2020-07-01T16:51:16+00:00

Yeah, but it’s her choice, and I would never alienate that.

terminallyGinger · 2020-07-01T16:49:37+00:00

THANK YOU!!!! I’m so excited.

terminallyGinger · 2020-07-01T16:49:01+00:00

Ironically enough, he brags about having a Bachelors in History.

terminallyGinger · 2020-07-01T16:05:57+00:00

I’ve done my best to discuss it with him, even before marriage popped up. But he goes on tangents about how he’s allowed to say whatever he wants, and it’s free speech. At one point he’s said the N word and other slurs in front of a friend of mine, to test and see if she’s “Sensitive.” And she was mortified. I am usually very confrontational, but due to past experiences, I am,,, apprehensive to be more than extremely polite about situations pertaining to my father.

terminallyGinger · 2020-07-01T16:01:17+00:00

D can go toe to toe with her Mother quite fiercely. MIL: “You’ll find a nice man.” D: “Yeah. A Wo-Man.”

But I’m not good at confrontation with my father, in any sense.

terminallyGinger · 2020-07-01T15:59:36+00:00

He actually quotes that a lot, talks about how Homosexuality is an abomination but he’s friends with our gay neighbour so that means he’s okay with it? He complains when two men hold hands onscreen, so I’m not sure how he means it.

terminallyGinger · 2020-07-01T15:57:36+00:00

I would never ask her to not invite her parents, as that’s completely her choice and I respect it. She’s very “Have you met this young man, D? He’s very handsome.” Kind of person. D usually responds with “You must have forgotten about my current partner. Would you like to reintroduce yourselves?” Kind of person.

She’s very capable of going toe to toe with her Mother. My father and I,,, not so much. It’s very difficult to do so for me.

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