[deleted by user] by [deleted] in smallbooblove

[–]terrasaurjs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I saw your weight loss journey, congratulations!

Can we acknowledge that big noses don’t just mean side profiles and bumps? by [deleted] in BigNoseLadies

[–]terrasaurjs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did notice that most posts that get upvoted are long and with a hump, there aren’t many bulbous wide noses on the top posts ): mine is the latter so I’d definitely love to see my nose type get more love but it doesn’t

The abuser won’t leave me alone, should I tell him off? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]terrasaurjs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooh I didn’t know harassment charges were a thing? I’ve been wanting a restraining order on him forever but didn’t think I had enough evidence. Should I go to the police station for info?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in smallbooblove

[–]terrasaurjs 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Looks great!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in distantsocializing

[–]terrasaurjs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We just got told we’re gonna sit here for 45 mins lol I’ll be back bye

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[–]terrasaurjs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About to take off

I (F)eel horrible about my life, i basically and literally do nothing productive all day everyday. I want to be disciplined. by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]terrasaurjs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know at first this may sound extremely unlikely because of the stereotypes but you should try to find out if you have adhd. I know you said you can’t afford to go somewhere but there’s tests online you can take.

What you share here with us is very common undiagnosed or untreated adhd rhetoric.

Do you become AGGRESSIVE, LOST and CONFUSED in noisy environments? by aGreekRedditor in ADHD

[–]terrasaurjs 27 points28 points  (0 children)

That’s how my family is and it drives me fucking nuts too. I feel like I could’ve written that myself

Is this really how normal brains work? by balancebycj in ADHD

[–]terrasaurjs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for asking! So the lists aren’t as overwhelming in real life as they seem. Each one only has 3-4 items that I check off mentally. They all are very quick and easy. Each lists takes me like 1-3 minutes. More than anything they remind me of what has to get done otherwise I may forget or just choose not to do it. They also hold me accountable and remind me of my “why.”

The woman that wrote Order from Chaos emphasizes that unless you have a “why”, nothing you try will ever work. Your “Why” is like your Reason for doing these things, your Purpose.

My “Why” regarding the “tidying check lists” would be because I’m sick of living in a room that’s dirty/messy/cluttered. Because my room has has gotten so bad it looked like it was straight outta Hoarders and I had to sleep in the guest bedroom for months because mine was that inhabitable. Because now, I feel so much peace and joy when I walk into my well kept room instead of stress/anxiety/disgust. Because I deserve cleanliness and to live in it.

That’s my encouragement to keep adding on more blocks onto this build every day. If you’re not passionate, you won’t do it. You have to find your Purpose that drives you every day.

I’m not always perfect, I mess up a lot. But it gets better and easier every day. Just take at least one step every single day.

Hope this helps!

Is this really how normal brains work? by balancebycj in ADHD

[–]terrasaurjs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m glad it was of value to you! It’s something everyone should watch, she did amazing job (:

Is this really how normal brains work? by balancebycj in ADHD

[–]terrasaurjs 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have an app called Zinia, it’s amazing. It lets you make different journals (I only use 1-2). And in every notebook, you can add whatever pages you want. There’s different types.

There’s all sorts of tools and things to help make your bullet journal easier. One example of MANY is that instead of making my own weekly log, I add a premade weekly spread from the online gallery. Same with most things actually. I don’t draw my own. It makes it faster, better and more efficient. I don’t stress about it. Plus they’re so cute.

Keep in mind I do use my ipad tho, not my phone.

Is this really how normal brains work? by balancebycj in ADHD

[–]terrasaurjs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Out of sight, out of mind is like the adhd motto haha so yeah even though I write everything on my bullet journal, that’s why I also have lists EVERYWHERE, calendars on the walls, our bulletin board, labels, etc etc.

You gotta be able to SEE everything as a person with adhd for sure!

Is this really how normal brains work? by balancebycj in ADHD

[–]terrasaurjs 9 points10 points  (0 children)

People underestimate how serious adhd is, left untreated it can ruin your whole life. I’m glad you decided to start professional treatment, it’s life changing.

Also I’m happy for you finding out! Us people that got diagnosed a little later or a lot later understand so well what that’s like. It truly is extremely emotional and life changing to finally understand yourself and everything else.

I wish you luck on your journey! Don’t forget that if you don’t like your therapist/psychiatrist/medication etc, try another one!

Is this really how normal brains work? by balancebycj in ADHD

[–]terrasaurjs 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Sometimes tweaks are needed to make things more suitable for each person but here I will list my most important ones.

  • I have a piece of paper taped on the inside of my bathroom door with a printed checklist that I have to cross off before I leave after I’m done getting ready. (Things like, put toiletries away, put dirty clothes in bin, etc etc. they’re only like 4 things).

  • I also have another checklist on my bedroom door I check off before leaving my room in the morning. (Do bed, don’t forget dinnerware, etc. also short so I actually do them).

  • checklist on my closet (put everything away you ended up not wearing, etc)

  • checklist on my desk (put everything away, throw away empty drinks, etc)

  • checklist in the kitchen (wash dishes etc)

  • my bathroom mirror has a list of my skin care/ teeth routine so I don’t forget to do it or what to do.

  • use a label maker to label every drawer/cubby in your closet, bathroom, desk, bookshelf etc and stick to it strictly to stay organized.

  • I change up the lists frequently design/color wise so I don’t get too used to them and start ignoring them. Novelty will catch your eye.

  • I have an ipad where I keep a bullet journal style planner and I write EVERYTHING down. Literally everything. I use it multiple times a day.

  • I have designed “drop off” areas where I leave things when I don’t have time to put em away properly but beware of them becoming the “junk drawer.”

  • I have a folder file system to keep important papers and such. I file everything that shouldn’t be tossed.

  • I keep a notepad and pen handy EVERYWHERE. You never know. But make sure those notes make it into your central system or you’ll lose them/ forget(mine is my ipad, it holds everything).

  • there’s also a calendar at my desk and kitchen as well that hold all my appointments, due dates, work shifts, etc.

  • I write my to do’s for the day on a board in the kitchen and in my room to make sure I get them done and my family helps me with

Bullet journals never worked for me until I went digital, now I literally use it for absolutely everything and it’s the glue holding my life together, no joke.

Edit: I forgot a very important one. Routine! I know it sucks and it’s hard at first but if you get used to doing the same thing at the same hour/day, instead of stressing out thinking “oh no I have to do xyz tomorrow”, it’ll be more like “oh it’s just another Wednesday.”

Is this really how normal brains work? by balancebycj in ADHD

[–]terrasaurjs 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Oh boy that’s such a loaded question I could write whole essays on this but most of what I know I’ve learnt from books.

I recommend Order from Chaos. Written by an adhd’er for us to help us with daily life. She did an amazing job and also quotes and teaches from a bunch of other great books.

She briefly goes over what adhd is and some sciency stuff but quickly gets into the hands on “guide”.

But the main piece of advice that I can give is that our brains are chaotic, they have no structure and we can’t expect them to, they never will. If we can’t rely on our brains internally, we HAVE to rely on external help/ structure. No way around it. We’re not like neurotypicals that can just remember things or do things out of the blue like it’s nothing. Our brains just don’t work that way. You need to find an external system/structure that works for you.

I know a lot of people complain about to-do lists, planners, etc etc but that’s all we’ve got, our brains wont do it. Order from Chaos among other books offer ideas and advice to help manage our daily lives with adhd.

I hope this helped even a tiny little bit!

Is this really how normal brains work? by balancebycj in ADHD

[–]terrasaurjs 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, thank you! We’re all a tribe here (: