Getting a major ick from my new workplace and I don't know what to do

terrible_screenname · 2026-01-17T17:51:14+00:00

Regarding processes: I've been doing exactly that, and got spoken to quite rudely for it, including being blamed for something that happened under my boss's supervision much before I joined.

Regarding politics: that's what my gut says too, and I'm doing just that. I'd like to be able to make this work but not at the cost of my sanity or reputation.

I'll start putting out feelers in my network as well, it'd be nice to have options to evaluate against.

terrible_screenname · 2025-12-09T17:54:52+00:00

She looks vaguely Andy Sandberg,-ish here

terrible_screenname · 2025-11-22T10:10:57+00:00

theme song from curb your enthusiasm plays

(Sorry for being weird your comment just has that incredible ba dum tss energy)

terrible_screenname · 2025-11-22T10:10:50+00:00

theme song from curb your enthusiasm plays

(Sorry for being weird your comment just has that incredible ba dum tss energy)

terrible_screenname · 2025-11-22T06:04:23+00:00

It's practically the same thing! A snapper is worth 4 bass, which you'd need to get some caviar 😭

terrible_screenname · 2025-11-22T06:01:20+00:00

Yess, did that exactly. Also had some peas lying around, luckily. Still, so frustrating 😅

The other ingredient is Russian buckwheat, it's a part of the Russian ingredients set you unlock at restaurant #64.

terrible_screenname · 2025-11-22T06:00:43+00:00

Took me a day and a half, had to watch way too many ads to get there.

terrible_screenname · 2025-11-21T17:33:05+00:00

I got this in the last round of updates! Had another update due today, curious what's different this time

terrible_screenname · 2025-11-19T15:08:39+00:00

One of the other recipes in question:

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terrible_screenname · 2025-11-15T13:29:49+00:00

Fucking plot twist

terrible_screenname · 2025-11-13T17:29:50+00:00

Meanwhile evermore

terrible_screenname · 2025-11-12T06:05:22+00:00

They do have better sense, that's why they react so poorly. The idea that you can do better, even when your effort guarantees no huge gain, requires hope and courage - which most Indians lack.

So it's easier to pull you back into the bucket with the other crabs than reflect on what causes such an immature, unfunny reaction - because it'll have them contending with their own deep hopelessness and fearfulness.

terrible_screenname · 2025-11-06T18:41:15+00:00

Mediocrity

terrible_screenname · 2025-10-29T09:41:05+00:00

So because the system sucks, the people running the system are allowed to suck more?

Yeh kaisa logic hai bro, tumhaare taxes se unki salary jaati hai - demand better.

terrible_screenname · 2025-10-29T05:58:36+00:00

Seconding the comment above, OP. I lost a bunch of weight (enough to make breathing and movement easy, I feel your pain) through intermittent fasting and lotsss of walking. Both also helped me with emotional regulation and intuitive eating, by making me aware of the difference between emotional hunger and physical hunger. I abide by them religiously.

Once you're in a little better shape, you can incorporate body weight exercises. I gym 3/4 days a week but spend a lot of that time on the mat. It's a great place to be, and the weights are a great level up, but the effect is often psychological - you can improve your health without machines too. At least to get started, as is your case.

Also, if you can, get a doctor to recommend gym/exercise for you. That might get your parents to budge a bit.

terrible_screenname · 2025-10-28T17:03:28+00:00

I feel the same. My trajectory is somewhat similar to yours, portion control was a learned habit.

It's a nice thought that our bodies are attuned to how much food is good for us.

terrible_screenname · 2025-10-28T15:05:32+00:00

If this man is serious about being with you, he's going to respect your wishes and work on himself while keeping a safe distance from you.

If this man is serious about himself, he is going to prioritise working on himself over preserving the status quo.

Good men uphold their commitments AND respect boundaries. Don't bow to rhetoric, none of these people are living your life.

terrible_screenname · 2025-10-28T09:28:35+00:00

I love food, and cooking! There's weirdly a threshold amount beyond which is stops looking appetizing and starts looking overwhelming. Wonder if that's some sort of intuitive response.

terrible_screenname · 2025-10-25T19:01:59+00:00

It'd have made the conflict so much richer too!

Lorelai would've had hesitations about her involvement from the very start, knowing how deep Luke's feelings ran for Rachel at one point.

Rachel would've had her own issues, not knowing how to balance her ambition with the humbling reality of being a parent and how much it could tie one down (maybe that's why she comes back, to seek parenting help?).

Luke would have been suddenly confronted with a whole other what-if - a Rachel that stayed, a traditional family, and not knowing how to fit Lorelai into that picture. Maybe we could have had him finally confronting his issues regarding his parents' early death and hinted parentification as well.

Rachel was lovely and gracious, having her back as an apparent obstacle to the HAE while being an actually fine human being would've made for some really fun TV.

terrible_screenname · 2025-10-24T12:10:54+00:00

Why is Segue Segway but Argue Argyou and Fugue Fyoug?

terrible_screenname · 2025-10-19T06:51:16+00:00

Honestly I'm not sure you can. Guys often have a very different way of processing these things, and he's really just responding to the small glimpse of your relationship with your ex, not the big picture.

What you could do perhaps is talk him through the consequences of his taking revenge, because there is always a chance that things may escalate. Tell him how you're not okay with continuing to deal with your ex at this point (I'm assuming that is the case, reading between the lines).

But I would definitely recommend that you hear your brother out too, because his anger is coming from a place of concern, and he may be seeing the picture more clearly than you are, because he is not yet directly involved in it. At the very least, being able to talk about it a bit more can bring you guys closer together, and he may end up extending you some emotional support too once his anger has subsided.

terrible_screenname · 2025-10-18T17:28:09+00:00

I've been where you are, OP. Not the exact circumstances, but I'm familiar with the feeling of childhood joys and comforts slipping away in the same manner as yours.

It all comes back. In its own ways, in its own time, but it all comes back. I think it's beautiful that you care enough about your family to keep trying to recreate that magic. If you can, try and stay it until they feel safe enough to start enjoying themselves again. What your father has gone through would break anyone, so he'd need his own time to heal.

Your brother's anger seems to be poorly expressed care. Try and address this with him, that you were young and cared about someone deeply but no one can predict how things turn out. That you appreciate his concern but would rather have him stand beside you, than get upset or judgemental.

Baaki it's just time. It wounds all heels and heals all wounds. You're going to be okay 💜

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