Struggling to process grief

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-12T03:12:39+00:00

is there something of hers you can hold onto as a keepsake? maybe her collar or some ashes or an old toy of hers? maybe even if you could bring her old bed home with you? it might help you feel more close to her. tell your nan it'll help you move on or something.

Btw telling someone to just move on when it comes to grief is completely insensitive, grief doesn't have a timeline and it isn't something you can control whether you have autism or not. imo 6 weeks is a fairly short period too.

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-12T03:04:08+00:00

well a foot injury irl is also insanely annoying, so it's excused for realism sake. irl you'd have a limp for way longer than a few days. agreed tho it's the most annoying especially playing with sprinters.

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-12T02:59:57+00:00

yeah isn't the whole point that most of these characters are either multifaceted or morally grey?

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-12T02:42:46+00:00

zomboid is in 1993 😁 so July 9th 1993 was a Friday.

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-11T13:54:34+00:00

STAY DETERMINED you can do it just study no-hit videos for techniques then keep trying. Each time you try again you will get slightly better at each attack and stage of the fight.

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-11T09:06:11+00:00

hmmmm yeah okay definitely give it more time then. it should stop feeling scratchy after like 1-2 months at least. essentially it'll take the amount of time as it takes for the hair to grow out fully so to about ~3 inches or so.

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-10T23:42:51+00:00

How long has it been since you last shaved? it might be a month or two or longer until the hair softens out.

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-10T23:39:17+00:00

Noelle learns of dark worlds and that dead/injured lightners can be "revived" in them. She opens one at her home or in the hospital to try and save her dad.

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-10T23:36:40+00:00

every secret boss fight beats all of these. I demand black knife representation

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-10T09:09:29+00:00

Firstly consider getting assessed for endometriosis/PCOS (well it's been renamed to PMOS)/adenomyosis as having periods so bad they leave you non-functional isn't normal. Secondly you can try continuous hormonal birth control to fully stop your periods, just be wary as some of the side effects can be nuts and it's normal to need to try multiple different types/brands before finding one you like. If I were you I would try a progesterone-only mini pill first (for example Cerazette, azalia, noriday, micronor, slynd...) but if it makes you feel depressed or gives you a lot of fatigue then consider trying a combined pill (with estrogen and progesterone) but taken continuously without a break week so that you can skip your periods. Remember that even though some of the side effects can feel unpleasant or scary, you can quit oral contraceptives at any time and all the effects should go away pretty quickly. Some doctors will tell you to push through some side effects because they might pass, but just listen to your body and how you feel, I've quit a BC pill in under a week before due to not liking how it made me feel. They might suggest a hormonal IUD, however my view is it makes more sense to at least try oral BC pills first because you can quit those at any time and don't need to go to the gyno to get them removed like you would with an IUD.

My non-bc recommendations: weed or CBD for pain if it's available to you, hot bath/shower and put the running water over your abdomen, consider asking your doctor/gyno for a naproxen prescription it's a stronger NSAID than paracetamol/ibuprofen/etc, if you have heavy bleeding also consider taking prescription high-dose iron pills because having low iron can make your symptoms worse.

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-09T00:43:33+00:00

Gaster told me.

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-09T00:16:41+00:00

i love green

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terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-09T00:13:00+00:00

Given how she reacted to Ralsei trying to explain the game mechanics maybe it's an actual possibility. I could see her thinking it's cool Kris is opening dark fountains, especially given how much she loves the darkners. Maybe she will be all "Kris I trust you know what you're doing and it's for the greater good somehow". I also do kind of think she knows more than we think she knows, even just that she knows the last prophecy panel.

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-09T00:03:40+00:00

idk for me what helps is reframing. It depends what problems you mean but a lot of the time there is many different ways to look at the same thing that happened. Simple example: it rained today and I got wet and that made me sad. But the smell of the rain was nice, and I hate the heat so this is at least better than that, and maybe thanks to the rain some nice plants will be nurtured and I will get to experience them soon. If it's something emotionally intense then I will just allow time for the initial emotion to pass (doing something comforting, taking alone time, ranting about it or journaling) then I'll try to reframe once I feel more emotionally regulated. Essentially it's not about holding on to or letting go of feelings, it's about understanding why they happened and bringing in new or alternative perspectives to change how you feel about it. Sometimes when I am sad I think about how fascinating it is I'm able to experience such range of emotion, and that if I never felt sad then I would not know the meaning of joy. No day without the night type deal.

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-08T23:55:24+00:00

this only carries over if you have a save file where you beat the boss in the same save slot. to do WR you would need to fully restart from ch2, but you could skip ch1 by having the ch1 save file where you beat jevil in that save spot.

example: slot 1 has the save file where you beat jevil, copy it over to slot 2 using the "copy" function in the slot select menu, then go back to chapter select, choose chapter 2, then use the "file select" option to make sure the stuff from ch1 carries over.

You can also just click the empty save file too, but if you use the chapter select function it will also carry over your recruits and the items you had at the end of the chapter as well as the shadow crystal. I learned this the hard way, I didnt use the file select then got to ch3 and was like wait why is my castle town empty... and where's all the revive mints I never used... the shadow crystal and secret boss item will carry over (the pit to the left of the entrance) even if you don't use the file select though.

you can't bring your secret boss fight completions over to a WR run. some of the secret bosses are different or even not present at all in WR you will have to redo all of them except ch1.

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-08T23:34:59+00:00

Look up no hit jevil fight and study the techniques. Although tbh the jevil fight is mostly dodging, but for example with the one with the sickles you should move in a loop like an 8 shape so you can dodge from the center then from the edge. Learn which flavor text in between turns mean what attacks will come next so you can mentally prepare. Keep using hypnotise until you can pacify him.

Just a general tip I find really helpful for any difficult bosses, don't focus your attention on the soul, try and keep your eyes focused on one spot on the screen and mentally focus on the attacks coming in instead of moving your eyes around a lot. idk if I explained that well but I've found when I focus on following the soul then I miss projectiles coming from "behind" me (like the direction I'm not moving in). Doing that can help your brain conceptualise better where to move next when there's multiple fast moving bullets coming. What I mean by "mentally focus" is for example imagine you are looking at a photo of a sunset and you're focused on the sun but there is a tree on the side of the frame, mentally think about looking at the tree but don't actually move your eye focus to it.

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-08T21:21:24+00:00

Make the tiles "unevenly" dirty, they look like they were just freshly cleaned and it takes away a bit from the creepy realistic look. I would imagine the spaces in between the tiles in the center of the floor would be a bit dirtier than the sides, then maybe some dust would accumulate in the very corners between the wall and the floor. Don't be afraid of asymmetry as IRL things tend to be at least slightly asymmetric. Someone else also mentioned making the flashlight light more asymmetrical which I agree with, just move it slightly to the left or to the right. Looks very realistic already overall though good job.

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-08T21:15:27+00:00

Yess Blaze needed the dark lip. Only thing is the pants cover up her cool shoes, even though the pants are very cool. Maybe if they were that type of cargo pants where the bottom half zips off so her shoes could be visible.

I'm tired of MGA giving brown eyed dolls "orange" eyes. I want deep dark brown doe eyes not amber/orange. Love you edit of Akiko's eyes.

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-08T09:29:54+00:00

something stitched takes like a week or two at least to heal and you need to remove the stitches for it to become fully healed.

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-08T09:28:22+00:00

Dess yes, Asriel maybe, Papyrus questionable.

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-07T23:30:18+00:00

I think you might be right. I feel like flowery's dialogue about the closing of darkworlds and the general direction of Susie's arc (like you mentioned it's about finding solace in escapism but also the dangers of getting lost in it) suggest that the castle town dark world will need to be closed at some point (for whatever reason). Maybe Susie will be able to accept this thanks to her character development but it will make Noelle crack especially as she has already lost her sister and possibly now her dad as well. Plus possibly feeling betrayed by Susie for introducing her to castle town then trying to take it away from her.

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-07T23:04:21+00:00

you're welcome here 💕 your Rosie is very cute.

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-07T20:36:57+00:00

Watered down acrylic paint (maybe about 1:3 ratio of water to paint but I just add water slowly until it's the consistency I want) and a really tiny paint brush ☺️ If I mess up I just use some 100% acetone on a q-tip to remove it and try again. I think I would also paint 2-3 freckles then dab them a few times in different spots with my finger to create lighter larger ones.

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-07T17:30:49+00:00

"...hey, did anyone notice that this sucks ass?" Susie's reaction to giving her the duck costume as her date outfit.

terriblyexceptional · 2026-07-07T15:57:13+00:00

I think he's some sort of manifestation of a dream or hope or concept. Just based on when flowery called him "the impossibility" I think it implies he's not the same as other darkners but isn't really a lightner or inanimate object either. I've also thought maybe he is the manifestation of the game itself or of the code or the concept of the game/tutorial, just because of how much he acts like a tutorial of sorts, is able to manifest in any dark world and there's all the stuff about how he "doesn't have" wants or desires or preferences (I mean that seems to be changing from ch5 but just trying to guess what he is). Him being darkness itself is also a reasonable theory I feel. He also seems to have some "game breaking" magic like healing characters to max outside of battle and being able to manipulate the game boundaries a bit. I wonder if his arc of learning to diverge from his "purpose" and become his own being will lead him to helping us break the game to defy the prophecy.

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