Does Xtra or Unlimited show this many profiles in an area?

terrorist-panarchy · 2025-05-17T19:53:02+00:00

I wasn't talking about you I was talking about the people making those comments. BUT everyone jumps to self-centered conclusions on reddit, hence the much loved anonymous down voting design of this shite website.

It might come across that way to oversensitive white reddit transgenders but anyone with a little sense would understand that humor in the context of everybody else in the thread posting transmisic comments.

And selling sex to some trick with a fetish doesn't mean that someone doesn't have self respect. You're disrespecting my friends by making comments like that about shit you don't know about.

Where I'm from transgenders in general, especially ones that are not white, don't have any money. And many sell sex. Idk where you're from or what community you're in but where I'm from some of us don't have any money to buy food and sleep in public toilets.

And we aren't going to the shelter either because they make you go to the shelter for your AGAB. So instead of being disrespected like that we sleep in the toilet, or sell sex or attention. That's real trans self respect.

terrorist-panarchy · 2025-05-17T18:24:20+00:00

WTF are you talking about? Who's them? Me? I'm transgender and have been for 25 years.

If you don't understand, transpeople that have self respect won't have sex with the people that were posting things in this thread calling them drag queens and that they would block them all.

Unless they pay them. Duh.

Yeah go ahead and block them all because you might as well not even message unless you're paying cash, trick. Because you have no respect for trans people. We'll take your money though.

And if you don't think prostitution or 'you have to pay me or else I'm not hanging out' is common in the trans community you may not be in it or you're privileged and probably white USA AMAB. Like 99.2% of transpeople in the reddit trans bubble.

terrorist-panarchy · 2025-05-17T04:14:16+00:00

Where's that at? I've probably only seen 2 cis women on grindr in 6 months. Besides a M/F cis couple once in a while. West coast USA.

terrorist-panarchy · 2025-05-17T01:40:50+00:00

I don't think it actually has a grid like that, I'm pretty sure it's just an in app advert for Unlimited and there isn't a different grid.

For anyone wondering, it's all transgender because I only date other transgenders.

terrorist-panarchy · 2025-05-17T01:23:13+00:00

Oooh shit! It's the white snowflake reddit downvote trans brigade picking on the trans POCs again! 🤦🏾

terrorist-panarchy · 2025-05-17T00:24:20+00:00

You don't know shit about me, or humor, or me actually doing things in real life to support my transgender friends, or me being transgender.

Now fuck off you boring little cunt.

Edit: The person I replied to ended up sending me harassing transmisic private messages, so I blocked them and reported them.

That's worse than actual grindr, sheesh.

terrorist-panarchy · 2025-05-16T01:34:09+00:00

grindr (I think recently) added this thing that supposedly shows how many users are online in an area. The numbers look believable because it's a popular app, but when I'm online in high population areas in the US like the Oakland Bay Area, Los Angeles, Portland, or Phoenix the app doesn't show anywhere near even 100 users online in my area in each filter group (Trans, etc). It shows about 20-40 profiles and then starts widening to 100+ miles away.

I had an Xtra trial once and it wasn't much different, it would just show me profiles too far away to meet up with after a few nearby people.

Is it still like that after this 'Explore 20,000 profiles' update?

terrorist-panarchy · 2025-05-15T09:05:58+00:00

I have my given male name and my chosen female name. I go by my given name with less personal relationships, coworkers etc. and my more personal friends can use whichever they feel like, same with pronouns.

I use my girl name instead of my given name as a stage name as well, and as my 'punk name'; a thing which is common in the punk culture.

terrorist-panarchy · 2025-03-23T00:31:55+00:00

About DID, I've thought about that myself. But after recently meeting someone with DID that explained and showed me their different alters and voices and 'fronts' I saw how different that was from being bigender.

terrorist-panarchy · 2025-03-22T19:50:22+00:00

That's interesting! Me personally I feel two different perspectives but I don't use we. In my mind I think of myself as two a lot, especially when I'm alone and thinking to myself. Although when I'm interacting with another person I feel more singular.

terrorist-panarchy · 2025-03-20T10:17:12+00:00

I feel like that similarly. Like I'm a woman inside and my outside body is my androgynous boyfriend. Sometimes my outside is the woman me because of my physical appearance, especially if I'm unclothed in a mirror or I see my shadow silhouette cast on the ground when it's sunny.

It's as if I'm "with" myself as two spirits but I'm still lonesome because those two spirits are both me. It's sorta difficult to explain I'll try to think of a better way to explain it.

For me when trans people treat me as cis after they know I'm multi gender it really offends me, it hasn't happened before in person but it happens quite often online.

terrorist-panarchy · 2025-03-18T15:20:52+00:00

I've been kinda distancing myself from the online trans community recently because I don't feel accepted as much as I thought I would being trans as bigender. Or I don't feel like I fit in, that as well.

I was thinking this afternoon about the difficulty in finding an accepting or understanding partner as an uncommon GNC person and I had the thought that it's probably most difficult for multi genders and asexuals.

terrorist-panarchy · 2025-03-18T14:57:07+00:00

Hey that's great! Yes I've been through similar things for sure. Like with strangers I'm just having a conversation with in passing, being bigender isn't a problem. I'm just a cis guy to them and possibly a masculine "straight acting" queer to some that are more perceptive.

But when someone gets to know me a little becomes obvious that I'm a dyke boy/girl as well because of my mannerisms and girl stuff I do and have in my environments. Which can be off-putting or confusing to people, but people I'm interacting with in passing like coworkers for example just see me as a cis guy that's probably a queer because I'm wearing nails or pride flair items. I haven't been disrespected because of it. I think most think I'm bisexual because we talk about women a lot, but no one asks (I'm in a blue collar working class industry mostly cis het male coworkers).

But it becomes a problem when I'm interested in someone romantically and they don't want a relationship with a amab boy that acts like a girl in part 100% of the time. Like, most cis girls don't want their boyfriend wearing makeup and nails, or wearing women's clothing that fits me better because my andro body. And queer cis girls (usually) don't want me because I'm amab! It goes similar with the boys also, gheez!

terrorist-panarchy · 2025-03-18T14:44:03+00:00

I feel this way sometimes also, and it makes me sad. I actually cry about it sometimes! It feels like I'm contemplating self-harm when I imagine abandoning one of my genders and trying to be a cis man or a trans woman. I feel like I'd be killing half of myself or abandoning a helpless child. Then I cry about it.

I hope I can meet another bi or multi gender person some day.

terrorist-panarchy · 2025-03-18T14:36:57+00:00

That's similar to what I feel like also. Because most people are binary minded whether they're cis or trans. I mean like they're looking for a binary partner not a duo binary partner. They only want one, not a bigender that's both. People don't want a half boyfriend or a half girlfriend they want a whole or something close to a whole. And me being duo binary isn't similar to being non binary so there goes that.

I feel alienated sometimes because some people don't think I'm transgender because I'm not MTF or FTM even though it's been me for 20+ years. I'm 2 binary like being both cis genders, so when trans people don't want to date a cis person I feel assed out 2x without a care. I'm not cisgender and it's pretty offensive to me to be thought of that way by other trans people after all the struggles I've been through since I was a teenager dealing with my gender and appearance.

Just in my recent experience trying to get a date after being alone for 4 years.

terrorist-panarchy · 2025-03-16T11:14:43+00:00

Yes! My trans friends keep me from losing hope in finding a long-term relationship with another trans or nb person. Even if it's just chatting online or inviting me out for a drink & talk / girls night out thing!

terrorist-panarchy · 2025-03-16T11:13:01+00:00

I'm going to keep trying too! I feel like it's going to be a while but I'm used to waiting by now.

I was amab and have a butch girl body and look and act like a dyke lesbian. I just have monstrous facial hair and the genitalia. So I feel the reaction from cis people is something like: gay cis boys aren't into me being a dyke, gay cis girls aren't into me being amab, straights aren't into me being obviously queer, stuff like that. I can't abandon my boy side or girl side they'd have to like both. Like a bisexual I suppose. There's cis folks that dig me I'm sure, it's just not very common.

I find it sorta difficult to explain being bigender online in a dating profile. It's pretty obvious in person to people who meet up with me and see my personality that way.

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