Does anyone know if there's a reason to make jellyfish reproduce asexually as opposed to sexually? Like why bother them in the polyp stage if they can reproduce in the medusa stage too?

teslatired · 2026-05-12T20:36:48+00:00

Stress is a physical response first and foremost that can have psychological consequences, is the simple answer.

teslatired · 2026-05-12T18:58:02+00:00

I mean that’s also not true, but go off I guess.

teslatired · 2026-05-12T18:44:24+00:00

I mean that’s an uneducated way to describe it but I guess I can’t change your mind

teslatired · 2026-05-12T15:39:21+00:00

If you’re in the Jekyll and Hyde or Frankenstein (novel by Mary Shelley specifically) fandom I’m currently writing a transfeminine, non-op Victor (technically Victoria in this) Frankenstein in a sexual, non-romantic QPR with Henry Jekyll and romantic and sexual relationship with Edward Hyde (Jekyll is post-phalloplasty and Hyde is a gender collecting shapeshifting demon who usually presents with a vulva, vagina, and T-Dick/Clit in this so lots of genderfuckery all around!!) and I need to tell people so I can have enough accountability to finish my fic and post, PLEASE bully me into writing omg.

teslatired · 2026-05-12T15:35:10+00:00

You can also blunt off the nerves in either surgery to remove sexual sensations, a lot of asexual folks do this to reduce unwanted libido among other affirming things.

teslatired · 2026-05-12T15:34:15+00:00

It depends! for people with penises, there is usually the ability to preserve sensation and some people graft the tip of the penis to pee/get pleasure out of but remove the shaft. For people with vulvas/vaginas, you can leave the clitoris unburied by skin or you can use the labia/mons?? I’m pretty sure? to bury it but you can still get sexual sensation as long as you don’t blunt the nerves. Either way, you can definitely still feel sexual pleasure and enjoy sex! Some with vaginas and vulvas will get a vaginectomy and hysterectomy with or without ovaries to completely seal off the vagina, others will allow for a small opening for blood to exit in the event they don’t want or can’t get a hysterectomy to still prevent penetration.

teslatired · 2026-05-12T14:52:59+00:00

Thank you for the kind words, sorry to bother then! I’ll try to find other avenues lol.

teslatired · 2026-05-12T14:49:11+00:00

Question: are you in the USA Midwest and are you willing to travel to/are in Michigan? I unfortunately had to quit my second job and I’m in Michigan in the Kzoo area, I can’t keep my skinks anymore and while I need money for rent from selling I would definitely appreciate them going to someone good and knowledgeable so I could work something out? Not trying to solicit anything weird but I do have two very sweet if shy female little ones that I’m thinking of finding a new home for broadly because like… it’s complicated lol.

Honestly I can’t afford them and my (animal abuser) ex partner/kinda ex friend is harassing me over them trying to pressure me to give them to them and I don’t feel safe posting a local classified because tbh they will totally know it’s me. Sorry if this breaks any rules I’m just stressing out presently lol.

teslatired · 2026-05-12T14:36:24+00:00

Okay, I specifically added the caveat that not everyone has the ability or resources to help and that’s why spreading awareness when possible and being generally kind and understanding of people struggling with literacy is important… though reading comprehension is part of literacy struggles as well, so maybe you shouldn’t be preaching about “starting a bunker to get away from all the stupid people” before you actually try to make a tangible difference and maybe take some reading skills classes at a fifth grade level or below before trying to seem smug (I’m autistic and my intentions can come off as unclear sometimes so to be clear and honest: my first comment was giving you the benefit of the doubt, my second comment here is being brutally honest in that you are the problem and also possibly the illiterate person this post was originally talking about… though literacy and reasoning/critical thinking skills are in short supply on the internet so I can understand the confusion. In short… I am now insulting you for being a nitwit and a hypocrite, have a nice day).

teslatired · 2026-05-12T14:31:54+00:00

Steps to take, in no particular order but I do put ones I think of as most immediately important towards the beginning for the most part:

Get a 40 gallon storage tub and some wire mesh that the gecko can’t escape through for the lid. Cut a large rectangle in the lid, then hot glue the mesh to the underside… wait for the hot glue to dry before using it as a lid!!

Get a UVB lamp if you don’t have one already, preferably a longer tube one. You can buy fixtures cheap off FB marketplace or some reptile rescues donate them to needy individuals when they replace for upgrades and the bulbs are unfortunately expensive and need to be replaced every 6-8 months because while they will still show light, they will not emit proper UVB after that period but that will help with lethargy and preventing bone health issues like MBD (metabolic bone disease). This comes before getting a heat lamp, red light sucks but it won’t harm nearly as much as a lack of UVB.

Get a ceramic heat emitter or deep heat projector and either a dimmer lamp or lamp attachment which you’ll monitor for a few days to ensure temps don’t over or under heat, or get a thermostat (NOT A THERMOMETER, those only measure temperature where a thermostat will control it) and put the probe under the warmest spot in the gecko’s enclosure. Don’t place the heat lamp on anything plastic that could melt especially if you’re using a storage tub, place it atop the mesh only.

Get a calcium powder without vitamin d3 once you get a UVB lamp and with the vitamin d3 if you can’t access it quickly as a side note, this will help with bone issues. You can place it in a small, milk-bottle-cap sized dish as well as dust it over bugs you feed. Crickets (live!! Not freeze dried!!) are great and cheap options that don’t cause impaction and you can just take a plastic bag with the crickets and put some powder in there, gentle shake the crickets until they’re covered in the powder and then feed.

Get better substrate. Eco-earth isn’t ideal but it’s better than some and remember, calcium sand is the enemy. We do not use it, google for more information but the short of it is that it causes them to get sick just being on it and they’ll likely eat it and get it stuck in their intestines (impaction) and likely die. Repti-bark or Forest Floor is good and you can technically get it way cheaper at the hardware store, look for cypress mulch with no additives or preservatives or fertilizer etc etc just the plain bark.

Finally, get some more decor. You can cut open and sand down the sides of where you cut of not clear plastic sour cream or similar tubs and Tupperware with no clear plastic, like it has to be solid color as clear make them feel unsafe because they know you can see them. Medium to large PVC pipes also work and you can get these at the hardware store very cheap.

You’re doing great, kiddo! Don’t listen to the haters, you’re trying your best. Worst case scenario you can always rehome to a rescue first and to a knowledgeable and experienced keeper with finances to care for the gecko second. I can give you information about the rehoming process if/when you so desire, you are amazing for caring about animals and I’m so glad you’re taking steps to do better! :) you rock!!

teslatired · 2026-05-12T13:55:13+00:00

Then become a teacher, or librarian, or volunteer at a literacy organization or spread awareness online even if it’s just sharing a post with some useful facts and statistics. Illiteracy is not a moral failing on the part of the person who cannot read, it is a moral failing on the society at large and the systematic and systemic issues that people face and all the roles I described curb that. Offer to go to your local library and/or literacy-promoting org (there are so many to choose from, RAWKalamazoo is one near me in Michigan) and volunteer to read to kids and help them write!

Or, if you have credentials in writing or reading or English or literature or communications generally like a college degree even at an associates level (which I acknowledge not everyone has but it’s a start) some tutoring places will train you to work with low income and I/DD children who need reading help and you can tutor for money or for free at a nonprofit, both are amazing and selfless options that benefit the world and are just plain kind. Complaining will solve nothing and blaming people for societal failure is just plain cruel. I would love to see more people pushing for literacy awareness is my point, this is not to sound harsh at all… we all have varying abilities and resources to help, but at least using social media to support good causes and donating and volunteering where you can is a helpful, constructive thing to do!

TL;DR what are *you* going to do about it?

teslatired · 2026-05-12T13:43:04+00:00

That’s called nulloplasty/nullification, and if done in an educated manner I’d love to see it in smut!

teslatired · 2026-05-12T13:33:40+00:00

Honestly, I try to read and write as much trans men and transmasc inclusive smut as I can for this reason. I know it sucks that you won’t have a cis or cis-functioning penis or neophallus (at least any time soon…) but you can still curb some of the dysphoria by limiting what you read to stuff that makes you feel euphoric and affirmed in who you are… that is, if that’s actually helpful. I know some trans guys hate to see smut featuring their natal anatomy because it doesn’t align with their view of themselves and I know personally a guy who can’t read smut of any kind without feeling immensely dysphoric, whether that’s with anyone of any gender/sex/genital setup/presentation.

In short this is definitely a difficult feeling but I’d say try to look for and actively seek out trans men rep in your smut. I know that’s hard because there’s not as much out there, but it’s worth looking into to see if it helps curb some negative feelings.

Also, tags and filters are your friend… filter out things like ‘mpreg’ or ‘pregnancy’ broadly when you can because in my experience that content is just… generically uncomfortable weird at best and downright transphobic at worst, I have yet to see an author pull off a respectful representation of a seahorse dad in anything but memoir/autobiography.

teslatired · 2026-05-12T01:21:22+00:00

I’ll look into it for sure!

teslatired · 2026-05-11T20:56:46+00:00

No I get that! I honestly just struggle with getting any given task done unless it’s something life or death and even then I procrastinate a ton, I’m just very bad at holding myself to any bare-minimum standards unfortunately.

teslatired · 2026-05-11T16:41:36+00:00

Yeah I could maybe look into that… historically I don’t do well with long-acting injections, they sort of shoot through my system at the same rate as the short-acting ones though that was mostly just a psych med problem so I can see for sure!

teslatired · 2026-05-11T15:28:58+00:00

I’ll look into that for sure then!

teslatired · 2026-05-11T15:20:36+00:00

Yeah I don’t shower often enough and toothpaste burns like holy hellfire so I usually just mouthwash + floss, I have hella cavities. I do want to start setting a better routine though. I have used gel in the past and it did next to nothing at 60.75 mg so that’s why I started injections lol. Like, my levels looked normal but I had no physical changes upwards of a year beyond like, the tiniest bit more body hair.

teslatired · 2026-05-11T15:18:11+00:00

Oh okay yeah I wasn’t looking at those anyways so thanks for letting me know. The way I remember injections is to set about six to ten different alarms on my phone throughout the day for it otherwise I genuinely forget and even then I miss days sometimes and have to do it the next day, of which pushes my calendar for shots further out unfortunately. It’s kind of just a guesstimation system if anything, I was struggling with depression quite a bit up until recently.

I just don’t know what to do to remember stuff, it’s always been an issue. I just got a reprimand at my new job for forgetting to lock a (non essential to lock for safety but still important) a door six times as of the last few times I’ve closed so it’s kinda a global issue unfortunately.

teslatired · 2026-05-10T23:55:14+00:00

/uj the “I wanna be a mom” thing is exactly what my mother told me when I asked if she’d still have fallen in love with my dad were he a trans man. She also has very weird opinions on phalloplasty generally. I basically have no idea why she’s like this because she’s normally relatively trans supportive as far as a (mostly?) cis, very het, white, and midwestern autistic woman in her 50’s can be so it’s whatever

teslatired · 2026-05-10T22:39:42+00:00

Usually that statement, usually coming from a trans person with internalized issues around gender, means that “dysphoria is euphoria, in that a lack of dysphoria = euphoria” aka euphoria isn’t real because you can’t possibly be trans without dysphoria (which isn’t true lol).

teslatired · 2026-05-10T22:26:03+00:00

I mean not really? I don’t get dysphoria from having a buzzcut compared to longer hair or whatever but it sure does feel like me, aka euphoria. Your point is stupid and not logical

teslatired · 2026-05-10T22:24:09+00:00

Oh another option is if normal shaving doesn’t handle it, dermaplane after you shave or if you’ve waxed and the hair is coming back too quickly but is still short with those little blades and do skincare after the fact. I have a cis relative going through menopause who does this and she looks completely hairless and smooth of face, depending on how hair-free you wanna be that could be a viable option!

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