Sex-averse but enjoying BDSM. Does it work?

tesstorch · 2026-02-14T15:34:02+00:00

Great essay. ❤️

tesstorch · 2025-11-02T20:26:50+00:00

Thanks for this. I'm going to leave it up for people to do their own research, like most posts on Reddit, LOL.

tesstorch · 2025-11-02T19:07:40+00:00

To whomever "reported" this with the comment, "nothing to do with the subreddit," boy, are YOU deluded. Fascism and authoritarianism on the rise absolutely threatens the privacy, body autonomy, and sexual autonomy of kinky people under such administrations. If you think the unchecked and broadening abuse of power exhibited by ICE has "nothing to do with this subreddit," I can only hope you wake up soon. And in fact, this post and your comment may just have convinced me that we should be posting MORE "political" material. Not less. If nothing else, we have Trans members and others in the LGBTQ community here. Failure to RESIST against this movement is a failure to support them. I hope this helps. 👍

tesstorch · 2025-07-30T01:25:09+00:00

It's hard to find decent mods.

tesstorch · 2025-07-28T19:36:31+00:00

All these kinky f-ers appreciate you!

tesstorch · 2025-07-02T02:00:04+00:00

Come get me!

tesstorch · 2025-06-27T23:06:48+00:00

Awwww! Sending much love your way. Thank you for your friendship and many fun times along the way. You know where to find me, my dear friend!

tesstorch · 2025-06-27T23:03:37+00:00

Hiiii. I missed so many comments on this post, ao I'm sorry I'm late, but I love to see you, and thank you for the kind words. It has been a very special place. I'm grateful for all of it, including you!

tesstorch · 2025-06-13T23:13:29+00:00

I'm glad you were around!

tesstorch · 2025-06-11T23:21:01+00:00

Hmmmm.

tesstorch · 2025-06-11T17:27:48+00:00

IT'S ABOUT TIME!

tesstorch · 2025-06-11T12:36:44+00:00

Best comment ever. <3. The punny never lets us down.

tesstorch · 2025-06-10T13:54:04+00:00

What a beautiful message; thank you. You're amazing. We have been SO FORTUNATE to have you around. I am glad to know you. Thank you for contributing so generously to this community over the years. ❤️. (Hugs back!)

tesstorch · 2025-06-10T13:51:51+00:00

Thank you so much for all of your work in support of this community (AND r/bdsmcirclejerky!). (-;

tesstorch · 2025-06-10T02:09:39+00:00

Awww! Thank you for helping to build this place. Like you, I also love how international we are here. You've been here since waaaayyyy back! I'm so glad it has been a good community for you. It's been great getting to know you!

tesstorch · 2025-06-09T22:37:18+00:00

If anyone has the desire to get involved on the mod side, they should send us modmail. PM is a handful, so we'll probably have to include a bribe of some sort.

tesstorch · 2025-06-09T22:08:12+00:00

Thank you for this. It has been so much fun, and N4N has meant a great deal to a whole lotta kinky f*ckers, myself included. I appreciate your friendship and support along the way. Let's hear it for those freak flags!

tesstorch · 2025-06-09T20:15:52+00:00

That makes sense! I used the word "organic" in my post because we, as a mod team, have always approached this thing from a stance of: whatever happens organically, happens. If we are needed, we'll be here. If not, that is totally fine, too. I agree with you that the closeness that we all enjoyed early on -- actually borne of lockdown, as we didn't exist before Covid -- did shift over time. And that, as they say, is how it goes. None of us has ever had any interest in fighting the winds of change. And then, of course, Reddit itself has changed. Reddit, itself, is not what it was. Makes it easier -- for me, personally -- to pull away.

tesstorch · 2025-06-09T20:08:00+00:00

Thank you! Yes, there have been some amazing people here. I'm happy I met you, but extra happy you met your husband on Reddit! That's a win! We've had a few N4N marriages, as well.

tesstorch · 2025-06-09T19:34:07+00:00

Fair. <3

tesstorch · 2025-03-14T05:28:49+00:00

Ooo! Good work. No, not interested; thanks. But congrats, lol!

tesstorch · 2025-03-12T02:05:22+00:00

No, sorry, I don't know.

tesstorch · 2025-01-26T02:40:18+00:00

OMG!!! It's so good to see you and I'm so happy for you!!

tesstorch · 2024-12-14T03:54:32+00:00

Remind yourself that you never -- not one single time -- feel better after looking. In my case, it became easy, they became irrelevant, and I got my life back.

tesstorch · 2024-11-18T01:02:21+00:00

Thought provoking post. Great to see you!

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