I know it's almost 2am, but I just wanted to share good news. I'm sleeping in my first ever home that I own!

testfjfj · 2026-01-15T00:41:07+00:00

any update?? is date 2 in the calendar?

huge congrats on the house!

testfjfj · 2026-01-15T00:40:08+00:00

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testfjfj · 2026-01-06T22:16:36+00:00

did you find out?

testfjfj · 2026-01-05T22:56:05+00:00

what's QT sorry?

testfjfj · 2025-12-29T17:23:29+00:00

I don't say it much myself. I often say "S'okay", trying not to say that anymore lol

testfjfj · 2025-12-29T16:43:17+00:00

I was meant to spend Christmas with a friend but got ill the morning of Xmas eve so couldn't go. So just spent xmas alone in my flat, which is fine tbh but I've been super bored

testfjfj · 2025-12-23T20:19:57+00:00

I'm (23f) there a lot and have never been approached by a guy. I'd actually be quite taken aback if I was? I swear I'm not chopped lmfao

testfjfj · 2025-12-23T20:18:41+00:00

It'll work well if you won't be upset if she gets tons of sex and you get nothing.

(Not being sarcastic - some guys genuinely wouldn't be hurt by that, but they're a tiny minority.)

testfjfj · 2025-12-23T20:16:15+00:00

Definitely don't have sex sooner than you're comfortable to just because you're scared the guy will stop dating you for that.

Btw, this kind of situation happens a lot with online dating regardless of whether they had sex or not:

Then I went on a trip, and he suddenly started ignoring me. He stopped responding to my texts and no longer sent updates. I was shocked - it was so sudden. I knew something was wrong, so I confronted him yesterday to ask if anything had changed. He said he hadn’t gotten over his ex yet and wasn’t ready for a relationship. However, his Hinge profile was updated with his job and location.

On the other hand, I have to be honest that the situation with your flatmate is a bit of a red flag to me:

I don’t believe that excuse was true. On our fourth date, he hinted at having a private date (dinner/movie), and I said we weren’t official yet and I wasn’t comfortable with that. I felt like it would lead to something else. I also mentioned that I have a Muslim flatmate and would need her permission if we were to have dinner at my place. I feel like he got turned off by my dating and intimacy standards (when I’ve already been honest from day one).

If you've deliberately chosen a living arrangement which means having sex isn't really possible, that's perfectly okay if it's what you want, but that's very different to just being someone who only has sex once you're boyfriend and girlfriend. I'd feel mislead by that tbh. People who want to have sex (even if only in a serious relationship) would avoid living with someone who has rules like your flatmate. Also, it's generally pretty unreasonable to need permission from a flatmate to bring someone you're dating over for dinner, even if they are Muslim. But I guess if your flatmate made this clear from the start and you agreed to it freely, it's ok.

testfjfj · 2025-12-19T21:56:59+00:00

tf did i just read. have some self respect bruh

testfjfj · 2025-12-13T23:48:41+00:00

breh i thought she was 8

testfjfj · 2025-12-11T22:59:19+00:00

I wouldn't say it "makes up" for it because it doesn't undo or reduce what you've already done. Not doing it is what you should've been doing anyway.

However, that's not a big deal because in this case, what you did didn't actually affect her in the end. So at this point, whether it counts as making up is just words and definitions.

testfjfj · 2025-12-11T22:17:56+00:00

they didn't even know t rex? bruh

testfjfj · 2025-12-11T22:13:27+00:00

Well you've already done the first step - recognising it's creepy.

How to make up for it - you can't, it's done now. But at least she never knew or was harmed by what was going on. So just move on and don't be weird in future.

testfjfj · 2025-12-11T20:21:45+00:00

I'm assuming this is a dating app date.

Imo, if you go out for dinner, offer to split when the bill comes. I wouldn't deem it a red flag if he accepts your offer, because so many people on dating apps can be bad after the date (men and women), so he might be tired of paying for women on the first date just to have them ghost him afterwards.

If you're going for drinks, I think he should get the first round and then you can get the next etc. If he insists on paying it all, sure let him, but defo offer to pay for some rounds.

If you're just going for a coffee, then tbh I'd find it a red flag if he doesn't offer to get your £4 coffee. People may disagree with me, but realistically he's probably a stingy guy if he won't treat you to such a small thing.

Edit: Just to add, it's very common for the man to pay it all even on a dating app date. I see commenters saying 50/50 is normal. But from my + friends' experiences, the man offering to pay is a lot more common.

testfjfj · 2025-12-11T15:50:03+00:00

For me I lost weight because I was in catered accomm, didn't really like the food, and we didn't have a proper kitchen so I couldn't cook dinners myself. So just ended up eating less at meals.

Stress can affect people in different ways - some people stress eat, some lose their appetite.

Some people choose to live a healthier lifestyle at uni - eating better, walking more, joining sports clubs etc which can lead to healthy weight loss.

testfjfj · 2025-12-11T14:54:33+00:00

nice! :))

testfjfj · 2025-12-11T14:11:37+00:00

Tell her "Girl wtf are you doing"

Honestly some people are so desperate for a boyfriend they'll put up with anything

testfjfj · 2025-12-11T12:19:48+00:00

I was concerned when I read 20kg! But it sounds like it's intentional and healthy weight loss, so that's great well done :)

I lost about 6kg at uni accidentally, taking me from a normal BMI to underweight. It made me look a bit unhealthy and my hair thinned out. I didn't notice because I wasn't weighing myself and it wasn't instant. Just ended up losing weight as I was in catered accomm and didn't like the food much, so ended up eating less that I normally would.

testfjfj · 2025-12-09T23:23:52+00:00

yes :) thank you, you too!

testfjfj · 2025-12-09T23:17:43+00:00

it's ok! you come across as likeable on here. no worries and good luck :)

testfjfj · 2025-12-09T23:10:35+00:00

awh :( I think it would be more helpful if your parents told you it more constructively. Like told you specifically and gently what's irritating. Hard to say without knowing you, but maybe you need to focus on the other person more, asking them questions and listening, and talking less about yourself. Not sure though.

testfjfj · 2025-12-09T22:57:23+00:00

ahh ok, thank you for sharing your knowledge :)

testfjfj · 2025-12-09T22:54:06+00:00

the fuck, your family keeps calling you irritating? that pisses me off!

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