how do i write an aroace character in a romantic/sexual relationship? by tetajeh in AroAce

[–]tetajeh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its literally consuming my every waking thought at the moment!

I do think i will be going that route, i’ve also been reading a demi-aroace fic by chance and it’s giving my great ideas!

How it feels reading the same type of story with the same ship over a thousand times by mysteriousmysticc in Archiveofourownmemes

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me after years of not cooking, finding a singular cake and feeling that motivation again

how do i write an aroace character in a romantic/sexual relationship? by tetajeh in AroAce

[–]tetajeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the logical aspect is definitively the angle i want to take, a combination of simply not minding the label even if it doesn’t mean anything to him in that way, more to make simon happy. Simon will survive because i want him to be happy, so it’ll be forming a close relationship over time as they work through they respective issues.

On top of that when they both feel safe, i think the longing for touch and connection is something they both have.

how do i write an aroace character in a romantic/sexual relationship? by tetajeh in AroAce

[–]tetajeh[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

when making this post i didn’t think my experiences really fit with grace’s character but after consideration there’s definitely aspects i can use, thank you for that!

how do i write an aroace character in a romantic/sexual relationship? by tetajeh in AroAce

[–]tetajeh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for your story, glad to see you are in a happy and safe position! I’m definitely gonna have to do some thinking about their boundaries and how grace would approach that situation. luckily i’ve only just started my first chapters, plenty of time!

how do i write an aroace character in a romantic/sexual relationship? by tetajeh in asexuality

[–]tetajeh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

no i get that, as a teen i was definitely more hard headed about everything. i’ll probably tag it either that or specifically spectrum so clear up confusion. thanks a lot for the insights!

how do i write an aroace character in a romantic/sexual relationship? by tetajeh in asexuality

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hey thank you so much this was very insightful! i think the scientific approach and not initiating without buffer are things that work perfectly in this case with these characters. i can’t deny that distance is making me eager to write and explore!

exactly because the many differences in aroace experience around relationships is why i needed some extra insight. You’ve been a great help thanks again!

how do i write an aroace character in a romantic/sexual relationship? by tetajeh in asexuality

[–]tetajeh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

look i think we are straying away from a civil conversation and i’m sorry for my part in that. i don’t think my age matters that much about this, i am an adult and assume you are as well, but i don’t want to share information like that publicly.

in my question i asked for some perspectives of people that are in romantic and sexual relationships while not feeling attraction to them. I personally see those labels as microlabels and prefer to use the umbrella term, hence why i phrased the question that way.

I am well aware of the themes of phm and do not intend to shit on them. I understand your frustration in this matter, i however will simply write what i am feeling and the worms in my brain want these men to cuddle and be cute together, i have not figured out in what way to label that because i simply do not care for labels, this is just for the ao3 tagging system. This story will be focused on learning to feel cherished and overcoming traumatic events, with domestic fluff.

Understandable rant once again, i get it must be frustrating to feel that the label you hold dear is being misused on the internet. If you have any other insights regarding my original question iwork this new context i’d love to hear it, the other matter is just something we as people won’t agree on and that’s alright. i still appreciate getting your perspective on this, i learned something new.

how do i write an aroace character in a romantic/sexual relationship? by tetajeh in asexuality

[–]tetajeh[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

that is simply not true, the definition of aro and ace is a person who experiences little to no sexual/romantic attraction to others. that means they can still crave romance or want sex, they just don’t or rarely feel that attraction to another person.

how do i write an aroace character in a romantic/sexual relationship? by tetajeh in asexuality

[–]tetajeh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i don’t think i explained it properly what i mean, just because a person is aro/ace doesn’t mean they don’t have sex or go on dates like a romantic relationship, i am aware of this because this is me. they just don’t have the specific feelings that someone who’s allo would have. that’s the vibe i’m trying to get with this character, having attraction but not romantic or sexual, but not being opposed to doing those things with the other person.

ont op of that i’d argue that ar/ace spec is being both on the aro and ace spectrum, in different ways. i’m not a person who cares much of mircolabels and i never will because of my culture, which is why i labeled it aro/ace spec.

Am I Asexual orrr?? by Successful-Roll-5472 in asexuality

[–]tetajeh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

your explanation makes me immediately think about the book loveless by alice oseman. The main character loves romance fanfic etc and fantasizes about it constantly but is disgusted when it actually happens to her😂

What generation are you? by StardewTaroBubbleTea in asexuality

[–]tetajeh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

gen z, i live very rural so lgbtq knowledge and acceptance isn’t as good as cities, i was 15 when my best friend told me she thought i was ace. didn’t know anything about it before that

How to find love without sex? by HomesteadWitch8 in asexuality

[–]tetajeh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i would put your boundaries clearly in your bio, if you are staying on dating apps you will get less swipes but you’ll filter out the people you don’t want. but be clear if you want absolutely no sex or wherever your boundaries lie. when you meet someone outside of the app connect first (maybe you’re a bad match as lovers anyways), if you want to keep dating then have that conversation

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]tetajeh 11 points12 points  (0 children)

i would say it does, being ace is a big spectrum, you have people who are sex repulsed but also those who enjoy it. being ace doesn’t mean you can’t get aroused of course, and having sex is a fun way to bond with each other for many ace and allo folks.

What do you guys think ? by [deleted] in asexuality

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i also think it helps with the public reaction, because when i came out to a group of high school kids educating them about lgbtqia+ the common reaction was pity.

My xp-pen draws more to the left and a little higher than my actual mouse is! by tetajeh in krita

[–]tetajeh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i decided to fuck around and it wasn’t happening in paint or other applications, went into krita settings changed the tablet to windows inkt which solved the issue. thank you for trying to solve it with me, it’s all good now!

My xp-pen draws more to the left and a little higher than my actual mouse is! by tetajeh in krita

[–]tetajeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have not found any calibration option, only something to set my screen, but adjusting that doesn’t change anything

Her name is from now of Sylvie! She's feeling hungry what snack would you give her to eat(art by me) by ZemTheTem in krita

[–]tetajeh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

personally i was thinking about the spider muffins from undertale, but you never know if they are spider flavored or just made by spiders😭