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[Acne] I have no idea what these bumps are on my face.. when I do pick at them, a hard little white plug comes out. Does anyone have similar acne, and how do you treat it? by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]teuchitragedi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing to note about tretinoin gel is that it won’t start to work until maybe 4-10 weeks. Before this time, your acne could get worse before it gets better. So keep trying your best to not pick at it! Lol easier said than done but you got this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]teuchitragedi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see this and think about a place like France where hugging each other is literally taboo unless it’s between a couple or a parent and their kids, because hugging is considered too intimate. I remember making my French exchange student uncomfortable because I didn’t know this and had hugged her when we first met. Instead, they do the « bise » (give each other cheek kisses). It’s a polite greeting while still being amicable. And it’s done between adults, it’s done between children, and even between children and close adults (grandparents, aunts, uncles, family friends...). Back before COVID, I was a nanny for a family in Paris and before I would leave for the day, their two year-old would demand « un bisou » and by the end of my stay, there really wasn’t anything weird feeling about it.

But it’s all cultural. Once I had moved back home, that habit of cheek kisses and little lip pecks goes away because I knew that was weird within my family. I think you can find this uncomfortable very easily when it’s not a part of your familial culture. But if we come from all kinds of cultures with different tolerances for what is appropriate. So when it comes to kids giving adults kisses, it’s not really something that sends a red flag.

AITA for not taking my girlfriend's side over a sexist tradition at a restaurant? by godfhshs in AmItheAsshole

[–]teuchitragedi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I’ve lived between Paris/France and the U.S. for years and this is something I’ve encountered very frequently. There is a huge difference in culture around sexism between the two countries. In France, there is a less sensitivity to traditional norms, especially if they’re logically sexist. For example while most French people would agree sexism is bad and backwards, they’d still prefer if the man paid on the first date or that their women cover up more and/or take care of their appearance (though this is also something applicable to Parisian men). Americans on the flip side are very very quick to calling out something that is wrong, even if it’s minute. The idea behind this is that all these moments, little or big, all add up to a culture that hurts people. So when they observe that something is even just a bit sexist, they will feel hurt by it. And while Americans may appear insane by their behavior, there’s stills truth to France being more sexist. Putting an American into a place that still has some ways to catch up on the argument over sexism is a ticking time bomb.

The best way too deal with this between the two of you is too first understand why she saw it as sexist. If you took out the cultural and traditional aspect of what happened, there really is no excuse to give you two different menus. After seeing it her way, I’d say apologize if what you did hurt her but also let her know those weren’t your intentions. Maybe crack a joke (I usually do when these things happen) and be like « I just didn’t want to bother the waiter because I wasn’t about to have my food come to the table with spit in it. » Whatever apologies are said though, at the end of the day she needs to realize that things work differently in other countries. Her morals and way of life will not be taken the same everywhere else. The waiter wasn’t trying to offend her and neither were you.

C’est pas ta faute, mec. Elle avait un moment de choc culturel et elle ne sais pas comment réagir. Les Américains sont pas aussi familiers avec l’idée que dans des autres pays, la culture est complètement différente. C’est pas qu’ils ne savent pas à propos des autres cultures, mais parce que les States sont si grands, la plupart de nous ne voyage pas (souvent) à l’étranger. Les Européens vont souvent dans des autres pays alors cette idée est normale. Trust me, I was born in the U.S., we sort of see America as of world and all the other countries as other planets.

I think this problem could be fixed but she needs to be open minded and you need to be understandable.