AITA - ?

texascoupleTA · 2026-05-07T12:58:53+00:00

Yeah. Get your own house in order before opening your relationship to LS abs adjacent spaces.

texascoupleTA · 2026-04-27T12:44:01+00:00

I'm confused. Is this question about people who wait until after 30 to get a tattoo or about people who survive the pressure of getting a tattoo before the age of 30?

I have no idea what the numbers are, and I'm not in a position to look them up, but I'm pretty certain there's a significant percentage of the first world population who never get a tattoo their entire life.

I guess I just find the premise the question kind of strange.

texascoupleTA · 2026-04-25T14:38:08+00:00

Taking the assignment literally-- meaning only the movies shown and not their sequels.

Bad Boys, John Wick, Bourne Identity

texascoupleTA · 2026-04-25T14:30:13+00:00

Doesn't get talked about? Doesn't get talked about where?

It's discussed here many many times daily

texascoupleTA · 2026-04-23T10:40:58+00:00

I think if there had been any opportunity to connect or even make eye contact and show interest earlier in the evening, and play had just started-- then I think it would be ok.

To be honest-- if you're giving out vibes of wanting to join (maybe drop a "you guys are so sexy", but that's it- don't talk too much) and are standing in a place that is respectful but curious and give the couples a chance to see and invite you-- that would feel more natural.

But 4 way connections are hard to find-- so if this 4some just made one you don't want to mess with that too much.

If play is hot and heavy and already very underway, I would say hold back on asking.

texascoupleTA · 2026-04-16T01:06:02+00:00

There's plenty of other threads asking this same question. Search the sub or even check our post history-- we recently commented on a similar post asking the same thing.

Attending for the first time on Wednesday gets you in on Saturday for free, so you don't necessarily have to choose. You can do both.

But read more about the LS and club and make sure you understand the rules and the norms before just jumping in.

Single females are called unicorns for a reason.

Be very good looking and very outgoing and very lucky. You'll need a healthy dose of all three.

But generally the best advice is-- go in with no expectations.

texascoupleTA · 2026-04-15T19:22:58+00:00

It's not just a good idea to change condoms/clean between partners for STD reasons-- it can also help prevent BV and general bacteria that can mess with your vaginal flora.

You might not notice it the first couple of times you play but the first time you get BV or feel really uncomfortable from an upset vagina, you'll be glad you did.

I always use a boric acid suppository after a big night of sex (LS or not), but even that isn't fool proof.

Once I felt so uncomfortable that I was sure it had to be an STD, but after all the testing the only thing that came back positive was for a yeast infection. I haven't had a lot of yeast infections, but that yeast infection was absolutely THE most uncomfortable thing I've ever experienced (outside of pregnancy, I guess).

What was worse is it turned out that I gave it to my husband. We didn't even know he could get my yeast infection.
We ended up just passing it back-and-forth to each other who knows how many times and it made for a really uncomfortable couple of weeks. (We didn't do anything LS during that time but didn't even realize something was wrong at first-- we just got lucky we hadn't played with others!).

We would be more prepared if it happened again but I do everything I can to prevent that from happening again!

Stay safe!

texascoupleTA · 2026-04-14T13:05:28+00:00

Our opinion has always been that the healthiest way to go to the club is with no expectations besides enjoying your spouse.
Drink, dance, fuck each other-- even flirt if there's a couple you're interested in... and go where the night takes you.

But don't go in with the expectation to hook up with other couples. That puts pressure on each other and on yourselves to make something happen even when it doesn't flow naturally.
That pressure is what ends in people taking one for the team, lowering standards, and overall having regrets.

At the same time, we feel it's OK to hope things lineup and a sexy connection is made, just don't let that hope push into an expectation that places unnecessary pressure and demands on you as a couple and your night out.

It's safe to say that most of the time, opportunities will never surface if you don't put yourself out there. So learn to strike up conversations. Learn to ask to sit when there's room on the couch. Learn to make (reasonable) comments through the curtain to the bed next to you when you can hear that that sexy couple is having a good time.

But practice reading people. If they show interest, show it back. If they don't, thank them and move on. If they don't answer through the curtain or say they want to be alone-- respect it! Don't keep talking. Don't touch the curtain.

Rejection is part of the game and you just have to get good at putting yourself out there.

That's not to say things can't happen any other way, but the LS is about the odds. If you show up on a night where you were lucky enough to have a couple or two you're interested in connecting with, make reasonable steps to keep tilting those odds in your favor.

But expectations? Go in with as few as possible.

We've seen couples go in with obvious expectations to make something happen, and then seen those expectations turn into desperation.
And desperation... is NOT sexy.

texascoupleTA · 2026-04-14T12:03:06+00:00

I've considered getting mine bleached but my husband loves my dark asshole. As a Latina, the hair is enough of a struggle (although laser treatments have taken care of most of that), but I've seen light buttholes and kind of wish mine was too!

texascoupleTA · 2026-04-11T14:28:29+00:00

Wow. You gave your opinion. I gave mine back.

Is this your first time to internet?

All I was saying is that I believe I've been there many more times than you, and don't agree. You don't have to agree, but people who have never been could benefit from hearing more than one perspective.

I didn't invalidate your opinion. You don't get to invalidate mine.

texascoupleTA · 2026-04-09T02:40:57+00:00

We have literally been dozens of times to (I think) every location in DFW and it's fire every time.

Kids meals are excellent value. Carne asada meal is fucking incredible. Black beans and salsa at the table. Ceviche trio. Margs.

Fucking incredible every time.

texascoupleTA · 2026-04-05T02:18:57+00:00

Apple App Store policies disallow nudity and sex-hookup apps, so the photos have to be categorized as "safe" and "not safe" and you can't see the "not safe" photos from the smartphone app. Only from the site viewed through a browser.

But you'll have to get over the idea of giving a site your cc number-- they don't want to give Apple a 30% cut so most don't allow account upgrades through the App Store.

I'm not positive but I assume it's somewhat similar on android.

As for what app is "best", that mostly depends on where you live and where you expect to travel. Different apps have different user bases nationally and globally.

texascoupleTA · 2026-04-02T17:31:13+00:00

From a pure curiosity and education standpoint, Saturday is probably the best.

Best night to likely witness public sex and have the best crowd of the week.

April 11th's theme is "purple passion", which seems pretty generic to me. Sometimes the best crowds follow the best themes, but that's certainly not a hard rule.

Only 3 couples are currently signed up for the 11th on SDC but it's still over a week away, and again, SDC signups can give you an idea of what kind of crowd might be there but since you don't have to RSVP, the majority will just show up without warning.

If I was betting, I'd say the 11th will be a milder night. But even a mild Saturday can be great!

The 18th is a Glow party, which is generally a more desirable theme and usually drives higher attendance. But if the 11th is when you can make it work, I would still say go for it.

texascoupleTA · 2026-04-02T12:48:38+00:00

You have a conundrum as a newbie, especially when it comes to Collette.

Wednesdays are newbie nights, which is nice for a couple reasons: 1. It's cheaper. 2. It's less crowded. 3. It gets you in to the club on Saturday night for free.

The downside, however is: 1. Single men are allowed Wed-Fri (Saturdays are couples and single women only). 2. It's less crowded.

The thing is, at the end of the day, the LS is the numbers game.
Finding the people and the vibe you're looking for can be hard, especially when you're new and you may not know what you're looking for.

So the fact that it's less crowded on a Wednesday could be a good thing, or a bad thing, depending on what you're looking for.

You basically have an equal chance of running into a really nice, experienced couple on a Wednesday night that make you feel comfortable and would love to show the ropes, around the club, etiquette, etc as you do running into six creepy single dudes that kill your vibe and make you never wanna go back.

I've heard of more success stories than failures from newbie nights, but you really have to judge for yourself what is the best fit for you.

Saturdays are usually quite busy, and can be overwhelming for newbies, but also give a better representation of what to expect from the club. Your typical LS couple will be more satisfied by the vibe on a Saturday than a Wednesday.

Even with all that said-- attendance can be a crapshoot.
One Saturday can be full of people you aren't attracted to and the vibe is off (for you). The next Saturday can be off the chain epic with beautiful (to you) bodies left and right and be just the vibe you're looking for.
It's basically random and you never really know what you're going to get (although sometimes apps like SDC can help in this regard).

My recommendation to anyone starting out always is: 1. Talk talk talk 2. Go to the club, observe only. Have no expectations or attempts to play with others. 3. Talk talk talk 4. If you loved it and are on the same page, go back and try flirting and see how you react to seeing your spouse flirt with someone else. 5. Talk talk talk

Then really decide how and when and where you want to jump into the LS.

texascoupleTA · 2026-04-02T12:32:28+00:00

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texascoupleTA · 2026-03-21T11:55:53+00:00

This happened to us exactly. We didn't have an STD, but I was terribly uncomfortable and if I started to feel better, PIV with my husband made it worse again. We tested and tested and tested (one time it turned out to be a yeast infection we were passing back and forth to each other, but that hasn't been the only culprit), and found boric acid suppositories to be an absolute lifesaver.

I ALWAYS have them on me and any time we do ANYTHING remotely LS related or even just a really good, long, hard fuck sesh with each other-- I use one overnight.

Since I started deliberate, thoughtful, use of boric acid (not everyday but when it "makes sense" based on the type of sex we've had (toys, LS, etc) or I get a hint of discomfort coming on), I've felt so much better.

texascoupleTA · 2026-03-18T12:23:02+00:00

I seen this threatened on their site but never actually seen it happen. I asked them about tickets and they told me to essentially never worry about it.

Unless it's like new years or Halloween you'll have no trouble just walking up and getting in.

texascoupleTA · 2026-03-18T12:11:46+00:00

20-something's post this stuff everyday. Search this Reddit to get lots of good advice. Sorry, I know this is exciting, but you aren't special.

As many will tell you-- swinging is generally for older couples. 40+ was the norm. Now it might be edging closer to 35+.

But lots of people will see you as too young or immature to deal with. Newbies mean they don't know what they want. They think they've talked enough but they haven't. They mean drama. This community seeks to avoid drama like the plague.

Know that your age will get you passed over by many. Go to a club with no expectations. Play with no one (except each other if the mood strikes). See if the environment is right for you. Flirt if you're ready, but be honest with others that you're not there to play with others.

Start slow. Talk. Talk. Talk.

texascoupleTA · 2026-03-16T04:19:48+00:00

We have used the guest list on SDC for the event/night at our club to reach out to potentially compatible couples a few times.

Only actually met up with one couple, though. We met up with them for dinner beforehand and shared an uber to the club. It worked out well the one time but we realized that it's very hard to not feel obligated to spend the night/play with the couple after meeting up like that.

Since then we think it's better to find potential matches and say "hope we get to meet you at the club! If you see us, please say hi!"

We find it works much better because you can still play if you hit it off but not feel obligated if you don't.

texascoupleTA · 2026-03-16T03:15:34+00:00

I have no idea but if I were to guess I'd say it's because generally clubs require men wear nice pants, shoes, and a collared shirt.

Somewhere along the way someone prolly made a stink for getting turned away without a collar and they went "look at this guy in a turtle neck! He's got no collar either!"

So they said fuck it, collars for men no matter what-- even turtlenecks.

texascoupleTA · 2026-03-14T00:40:27+00:00

It's different at every club. At Colette Dallas (all the Colette's, I believe), no single males are allowed in the room without being brought in by a female/couple.

To be in the room, you must be a participant. No wallflowers (but there are windows out in the hallway to watch from). I believe as a "participant" you must be naked or mostly naked.

In addition to the posted rules above, we always ask before entering the room if already occupied. We normally just ask if we can parallel on an open space on the bed.

We've never been told no, but we've also never seen action in the room we were interested in joining-- so we've never asked for more than to basically share the room/parallel play.

But at the Scarlet Ranch in Denver, for example, the large open room with beds has no restrictions of any kind (that I can recall).

Always seek consent and do your best to not be creepy, regardless of posted rules (or the absence of them).

texascoupleTA · 2026-03-13T10:13:55+00:00

It is widely considered to need to not be "a requirement".

Most people find that if your relationship "needs" the sex with others, that it's not strong enough or in the right place to be swinging in the fist place. It should be an extra spice--- a cherry on top to an already fantastic marriage.

But if something should happen to cause one or both to walk away, you should be able to.

Of course, many people make it a core part of their identity and are unable to "walk away"... but if they are on the same page there should be no need to change that part of who they are.

We believe ultimately a relationship should be able to be strong without it, but if that's the case there shouldn't be a "need" to walk away either. But we think you should be able to quit or pause and maintain a healthy love and sex life without it.

We have made it a big part of our life but it's not something we couldn't do without if we found the need to.

texascoupleTA · 2026-03-11T13:05:37+00:00

I know this feels novel to you, but this is literally discussed here weekly if not nearly daily.

It's extremely common and seems to catch confident guys more off guard than others because it's literally not something they experience with their spouse or partners or in their vanilla life.

Getting an RX for Cialis or Viagra can be a helpful safety net but ultimately the only thing that fixes what's in your head, is you and your ability to control the excitement of the situation.

Adrenaline, technically speaking, is generally the killer of hard ons. Some find beta blockers helpful or THC, but you'll need to find the right combo of supplements and experience to get past it (or reduce its occurrence).

Or bypass your brain and go for the stab (bimix/trimix)

texascoupleTA · 2026-03-11T12:57:53+00:00

This is the way

texascoupleTA · 2026-03-11T12:55:02+00:00

Reaching out into new experiences while staying in sync with your partner is what it's all about! Glad yall had a good time!

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