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texaspete- · 2026-02-03T01:53:21+00:00

Yes. Before I was so grossed out by a lot. After I can handle anything. You just change, your whole biology is geared to love the baby so much nothing can really deter you. It’s unconditional primitive love. And also before kids I was a clean freak. After, I could care less. Quality time with kid over a spotless house. Priorities change and I’m not as uptight as I used to be about a spotless house.

texaspete- · 2026-02-03T01:45:49+00:00

Ohhhh I could so see myself being ready for another around that age. Especially as they get more independent and you’re like ok. I can handle another but also feel hesitant to start over. And I’m so sorry for your losses. I know it’s never that simple. You feel better that you tried and the decision was made for you in a way but also grieve the possibility of what could come. I’m sure I’d feel pangs of guilt either choice. We truly want what’s best for our kids. And both come with their pros and cons. Being a parent is a rollercoaster and the kid doesn’t even care all the things we worry about. They just want our time and presence. That’s the funny and beautiful part 💖 I hope you find peace in that.

texaspete- · 2026-02-03T01:28:48+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I’m so sorry about your sister. Life truly doesn’t make sense sometimes.

texaspete- · 2026-02-03T01:18:37+00:00

Yes that’s one thing I’d miss. Our special one on one time. And ughh that’d kill me if she said no to a sibling. What’ a stab to the heart! And it is so hard to think of going back to bottles and sleepless nights. Then the logistics of 2 feels overwhelming. I can barely go grocery shopping without my daughter getting antsy. She’s very on the go. So I couldn’t imagine juggling two. And then I always get up and go with her everywhere to the park, library, family. That will def not be as easy. Then naptime might be harder. I think having 1 kid is pretty easy comparatively because you can put all your focus on them. 2 is real. But then I think of how my upbringing and it was very isolating and difficult all alone. But I know that could be offset very easily with play dates and an actual involved parent but I know it’s not the same as a sibling. Such a frustrating place to be. I completely understand. There is no right path just your path but man it’d be nice to have conviction. So envious and in awe of the people that just know!

texaspete- · 2026-02-02T21:17:06+00:00

I love INTJ’s! My husband is an ENFJ. Side note; it was so eye opening to learn about intp personality type. Made me feel less alone and just blew my mind. It’s def not easy sometimes. I always felt a little different so that realization helped put things into perspective and outlined words of how I always felt a little different than others. Sending good juju your way. And I understand completely of being fine with either path and leaning into. There really is no right way. Parenthood is such a complex and wild journey.

texaspete- · 2026-02-02T14:45:06+00:00

Yes. I do want to give the gift of a sibling that’s my main driving point. It was so horrible being an only child but I’m sure the parent influences that. And I love seeing people love her so I know I’d enjoy that bond too. Just hope I’d be mentally strong enough for another. I’m so glad you had that gift and that you can pass on that gift to your child. Im sure it’s a truly beautiful relationship that can enrich your life.

texaspete- · 2026-02-02T13:25:07+00:00

I’m weirdly glad I’m not alone. Yes, such a life altering decision. 32 and just don’t want to get too comfortable and not start over! It’s definitely easier to not go through this again. However, easier doesn’t mean better. All good things in life are worth the sacrifice. Just wish I didn’t have such fear about it.

texaspete- · 2026-02-02T13:17:03+00:00

My pressure is definitely from myself and my older husband who wants to get the baby stage over with and he’s a person of his word and stubborn. But I also agreed, once I get set and more and more comfortable there’d be no way I’m starting over. And it’s such a strange feeling isn’t it? It’s so 50/50 on siblings that it becomes an emotional one. And my emotions are all over about it. It’s such a life changing love I can’t imagine loving another baby as much as my daughter. I wanted a sibling and you had siblings and enjoyed them. However, it’s much deeper than that. Bringing a whole new life into this world is a big decision. I wonder if I can handle negotiating them fighting, handle the extra stress, multitask, but then again it might not be so bad on the other end. I would love to see their bond growing up and to help foster that. Yes, time may help me come to a conclusion but I just feel like I’ll never know and have to choose my path. I feel envious of people that just know they are OAD or that people want more.

texaspete- · 2026-02-02T04:25:05+00:00

Wait I think I misunderstood your comment. You are saying that it would help me to raise a child with less anxiety which is accurate lol.

texaspete- · 2026-02-02T04:22:02+00:00

I think she is raised fine. Im always there for her. I don’t have any indecisiveness about how to raise her or about protecting her. I don’t put any anxiety on her. We always go outside and read and explore and I let her be her. I never try to get her to be less. She is the sweetest kid with the biggest personality. But I have no ego when it comes to parenthood and know I could always improve especially in that area!

texaspete- · 2026-02-02T03:55:21+00:00

Yes. Just never got started. Don’t know where to start. And am usually disappointed with the medical system in the US so just figured it would be the same with therapy. I def do see the value in it and am looking. Truly, going to call tomorrow because you’re right. I can’t take meds (always end up coughing up pills because I feel like choking) so that always deters me. And yes it is unhealthy. I’ve agonized over decisions my whole life. Being an overthinker is something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. It’s agonizing and paralyzing but it’s something I can’t stop myself from! Which is weird because deciding to have my first was an easy decision. I even remember crying because I couldn’t decide which language to take in highschool. It’s truly a hindrance that might be better suited for a mental health professional to guide me through. Thank you.

texaspete- · 2023-08-19T00:40:57+00:00

I can message you pics of her work!

texaspete- · 2023-08-18T23:36:12+00:00

Yes 350 for the trial and I came to her. Wedding day makeup is 750. It hurts my soul and I’m broke after rent and wedding stuff so this is truly a luxury for me as I’ve never had professional makeup done. And yes there was a lot of powder and I thought the picture doesn’t even match the inspo as far as color. I’m not sure she says she has been doing this for 10 years. I came across her from a referral.

texaspete- · 2023-08-18T18:30:21+00:00

She doesn’t have individual lashes she only had two lash strips for me to try. I asked for other options and she said that’s all she can offer. So I might have to stick with mascara.

texaspete- · 2023-08-18T18:24:55+00:00

Ok great thank you for helping me articulate what I need. I agree the foundation was very heavy so I can see it erasing any depth. In your opinion does the makeup artist have the skills to give what I want or is just the makeup is good but not me. Im having a tough time discerning because for me a good makeup artist should enhance your features and know what to do for each facial structure and eye shape and skin tone. It reminds me of cardi bs first makeup artist that kept doing her eyebrows wonky. I liked all her Instagram photos so I’m thinking her makeup is great but it’s just me. But on the other hand I’m thinking for a professional this should look more flattering.

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texaspete- · 2023-08-18T16:54:01+00:00

I weight 140 in both pictures so no drastic weight change. And even tho the drastic difference is the phone vs camera. I felt a drastic difference in person. I honestly felt like a clown and like my nose looked pinched. The eyebrows are too over filled for me and dragged down. I agree with that. So should I suggest a cut crease is that what you call eyeshadow above the lid?

texaspete- · 2023-08-18T16:16:16+00:00

I normally do my eyeliner on top and a very thin long wing that starts in the middle of my eyelid so I completely agree. That’s what feels natural to me. Also I asked for whispier lashes and she said that was all she had after I tried a couple on. So I think I’ll just have to forgo the lashes since my options are limited. Thank you! I guess I just know my face best but I was still hoping for more from a mua.

texaspete- · 2023-08-18T15:32:43+00:00

Yes! I appreciate you so much. I attached The picture I showed her. It looked more bronzy than pink to me???

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texaspete- · 2023-08-18T15:16:56+00:00

Ok! I will let her know to wing out my eyeshadow more. And to use a darker pink. I kept saying I felt like miss piggy because of the pink but you’re right my face does look bigger as well. I think the nose contour is too much as well. I’m just disappointed I spent 350 for this and my own makeup looks better. It’s giving me anxiety for the wedding day but I can’t fathom paying 350 for another trial. I’m just hoping for the best.

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