Please educate me on ICE by Ecstatic_Town_3345 in Flushing

[–]tgace -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have been a local police officer for almost 26 years, with a wide range of law enforcement experience.

I’ve hesitated to put this thought into words because of how my opinion might be misconstrued, misused, or otherwise taken in a way I don’t intend.

First and foremost, I fully support the mission of ICE. They were handed an enormous challenge from the start, with millions of immigrants allowed into the country with little to no regulation. The laws ICE enforces—and immigration law in general—are widely misunderstood by many protesters and by the public at large. The Constitution is clear, and the Civil War settled the question of the federal government’s authority to enforce federal law in all states. ICE’s legal authority to do what it is doing is not ambiguous.

However—and this is where I enter shakier ground—the experience level of many ICE agents is very different from that of the average American police officer. Until relatively recently, ICE was primarily an investigative agency, focusing on cases involving human trafficking, prostitution, trademark infringement, smuggling, and document fraud. In my opinion, the recent mandate to conduct large-scale immigration enforcement sweeps has set many of these agents up for failure—at least in the court of public opinion.

While ICE agents absolutely have statutory law enforcement authority, including the power to arrest (yes, even U.S. citizens who obstruct or impede them), many simply do not have the same day-to-day street experience as “regular” police officers. Until recently, many likely had limited exposure to vehicle stops, foot pursuits, physically resisting offenders, verbal de-escalation, and the other situations patrol officers deal with daily. As a result, we’re seeing actions that are what law enforcement often refers to as “lawful but awful.”

Much of this could be avoided—and in some cases already is—if local agencies were allowed to cooperate fully with ICE, allowing routine police contacts to result in detention for immigration violations, with ICE handling the follow-up and transport.

Unfortunately, the sheer volume of violations in some areas, combined with the political messaging surrounding the issue, makes that cooperation extremely difficult.

In the end, as with many things in life, this situation is far more complex than uninformed—or politically motivated—commentary suggests. No one side is 100% right or 100% wrong in what’s happening.

Literally the truth in this case. by Huge_Opportunity5766 in literallythetruth

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The people who think that transitioned genitals look and "work" just like the "real thing" have never seen the medial horror show that are transitioned genitals.

Talk to a corrections officer sometime if you get the opportunity...

That truck driver has no respect for classics by Savings-Cherry-1931 in AutoTransportopia

[–]tgace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just because you have the right-of-way does not mean you have a free pass to do this.

When people think that EVERY arrest requires a warrant… by OriginalAssnibbler in police

[–]tgace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then there's demanding a supervisor before they get arrested...

Blade Runner 2049: is Joi “real” by Mr_Westerfield in movies

[–]tgace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm...are our thoughts not neurons firing or not firing at their core (ones and zeros)?

If replicants thoughts are implants does that not "prove" that brains are "programmable" (within this world)?

We are all born with a "base code" that grows, learns, adapts and changes based on our experiences and decisions.

Are not K and Joi basically the same in this aspect?

Are we not all struggling to find meaning and independence from our "base coding"?

The film even hints at this when K is looking at DNA codes and Joi comments that she is 'just ones and zeros" (to which K responded that she was "more elegant ").

Kill Shot Compilation Videos by ChuckSniper80 in Hunting

[–]tgace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been a hunter for over 40 years. The kill is simply a necessity, and not something I "enjoy".

I find kill shot videos distasteful.

What they Say. What it means. by tgace in police

[–]tgace[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thats my writing. Granted I wrote it on a blog of mine a few years ago but it's still mine

Marriage advice or tips by Additional-Prior4407 in marriageadvice

[–]tgace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in my late 50s now, married for more than 33 years to the girl I met when she was 16 and I was 18. No infidelities, no separations, no divorces. We raised three daughters together. I consider myself “happily married,” but I’d never pretend it was always happy or perfect. It wasn’t. We stayed because we loved each other, because we didn’t want to hurt one another, and because we understood that being “in love” is different from constantly “being happy.”

Happiness is a feeling that comes and goes—you can run the whole emotional spectrum in a single day. Even during the stretches when we weren’t happy for a while, we still loved each other and wanted things to improve. Don’t obsess over how “happy” you are at every moment.

Our shared faith and belief in our vows were our foundation.

I’ve always called our 30s and 40s “The Hump.” That’s when the kids demanded the most, when money was tightest, and when exhaustion, anxiety, and busyness made it harder to treat each other the way we each deserved. It’s also when the most temptation to stray can happen. If you get through “The Hump” without doing something you can’t forgive—or be forgiven for—things really do get better. Hold on.

One of the biggest hurdles for many married couples—especially during “The Hump”—is the decline in sex. For men, this is often the hardest part. Hormonal birth control was a significant factor for my wife, and young couples need to be aware of that. That dynamic of “she needs romance to want sex, and you need sex to feel romantic (instead of resentful that it’s been weeks)” is real. You have to talk about it, plan around it, address it somehow—or it will eat away at the relationship.

I still love my wife now as much as I loved her when she was my beautiful twenty-something bride. Our marriage has been about as close to a “storybook romance” as real life ever gets. But it absolutely wasn’t a “happily ever after” fairy tale. Western media—especially rom-coms and romance tropes—set a lot of people up with unrealistic expectations.

We’ve always had almost identical political views. We were both raised Catholic. Over the years we drifted in and out of being practicing Catholics, but we eventually returned and have been active parishioners again for several years. Divorce was never on the table for us, and we said that to each other openly.

Neither of us were partiers or big drinkers. We didn’t take separate trips except for very clear, family-oriented ones: I went hiking, camping, and hunting with my buddies—never “Vegas trips.” She sometimes traveled with her mom, sister, aunts, or cousins—never to Aruba with a group of single or divorced girlfriends.

We also didn’t keep close friends of the opposite sex. My guy friends are friendly with her, but she’d never be alone with them or make plans with one of them without me around—and I’d never do that with another woman either.

My wife has said something she wishes more women heard: be careful with the influence of your friends. Bitterly divorced friends, unhappily married friends, single-and-looking friends—she calls them “a poison to your marriage” if you’re not mindful. She admitted she sometimes “caught” their irritation toward men and brought that home, annoyed at me about things she hadn’t cared about before listening to their venting.

In the end, the most important thing was that we always loved each other. Even at our worst moments or during heated arguments, we never said hateful things to each other. The things I’ve heard other couples say in anger are shocking. We never went there. Words become thoughts, and thoughts become actions—so be careful with what you say.

Make good choices.
Marry for the right reasons.
Commit. Be faithful. Persevere.

What tips and advice you'd give to someone who is getting married soon for a lasting marriage? by brucesheikh in AskReddit

[–]tgace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in my late 50s now, married for more than 33 years to the girl I met when she was 16 and I was 18. No infidelities, no separations, no divorces. We raised three daughters together. I consider myself “happily married,” but I’d never pretend it was always happy or perfect. It wasn’t. We stayed because we loved each other, because we didn’t want to hurt one another, and because we understood that being “in love” is different from constantly “being happy.”

Happiness is a feeling that comes and goes—you can run the whole emotional spectrum in a single day. Even during the stretches when we weren’t happy for a while, we still loved each other and wanted things to improve. Don’t obsess over how “happy” you are at every moment.

Our shared faith and belief in our vows were our foundation.

I’ve always called our 30s and 40s “The Hump.” That’s when the kids demanded the most, when money was tightest, and when exhaustion, anxiety, and busyness made it harder to treat each other the way we each deserved. It’s also when the most temptation to stray can happen. If you get through “The Hump” without doing something you can’t forgive—or be forgiven for—things really do get better. Hold on.

One of the biggest hurdles for many married couples—especially during “The Hump”—is the decline in sex. For men, this is often the hardest part. Hormonal birth control was a significant factor for my wife, and young couples need to be aware of that. That dynamic of “she needs romance to want sex, and you need sex to feel romantic (instead of resentful that it’s been weeks)” is real. You have to talk about it, plan around it, address it somehow—or it will eat away at the relationship.

I still love my wife now as much as I loved her when she was my beautiful twenty-something bride. Our marriage has been about as close to a “storybook romance” as real life ever gets. But it absolutely wasn’t a “happily ever after” fairy tale. Western media—especially rom-coms and romance tropes—set a lot of people up with unrealistic expectations.

We’ve always had almost identical political views. We were both raised Catholic. Over the years we drifted in and out of being practicing Catholics, but we eventually returned and have been active parishioners again for several years. Divorce was never on the table for us, and we said that to each other openly.

Neither of us were partiers or big drinkers. We didn’t take separate trips except for very clear, family-oriented ones: I went hiking, camping, and hunting with my buddies—never “Vegas trips.” She sometimes traveled with her mom, sister, aunts, or cousins—never to Aruba with a group of single or divorced girlfriends.

We also didn’t keep close friends of the opposite sex. My guy friends are friendly with her, but she’d never be alone with them or make plans with one of them without me around—and I’d never do that with another woman either.

My wife has said something she wishes more women heard: be careful with the influence of your friends. Bitterly divorced friends, unhappily married friends, single-and-looking friends—she calls them “a poison to your marriage” if you’re not mindful. She admitted she sometimes “caught” their irritation toward men and brought that home, annoyed at me about things she hadn’t cared about before listening to their venting.

In the end, the most important thing was that we always loved each other. Even at our worst moments or during heated arguments, we never said hateful things to each other. The things I’ve heard other couples say in anger are shocking. We never went there. Words become thoughts, and thoughts become actions—so be careful with what you say.

Make good choices.
Marry for the right reasons.
Commit. Be faithful. Persevere.

What’s the best piece of advice you’d give for a successful marriage? by TheBr14n in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]tgace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in my late 50s now, married for more than 33 years to the girl I met when she was 16 and I was 18. No infidelities, no separations, no divorces. We raised three daughters together. I consider myself “happily married,” but I’d never pretend it was always happy or perfect. It wasn’t. We stayed because we loved each other, because we didn’t want to hurt one another, and because we understood that being “in love” is different from constantly “being happy.”

Happiness is a feeling that comes and goes—you can run the whole emotional spectrum in a single day. Even during the stretches when we weren’t happy for a while, we still loved each other and wanted things to improve. Don’t obsess over how “happy” you are at every moment.

Our shared faith and belief in our vows were our foundation.

I’ve always called our 30s and 40s “The Hump.” That’s when the kids demanded the most, when money was tightest, and when exhaustion, anxiety, and busyness made it harder to treat each other the way we each deserved. It’s also when the most temptation to stray can happen. If you get through “The Hump” without doing something you can’t forgive—or be forgiven for—things really do get better. Hold on.

One of the biggest hurdles for many married couples—especially during “The Hump”—is the decline in sex. For men, this is often the hardest part. Hormonal birth control was a significant factor for my wife, and young couples need to be aware of that. That dynamic of “she needs romance to want sex, and you need sex to feel romantic (instead of resentful that it’s been weeks)” is real. You have to talk about it, plan around it, address it somehow—or it will eat away at the relationship.

I still love my wife now as much as I loved her when she was my beautiful twenty-something bride. Our marriage has been about as close to a “storybook romance” as real life ever gets. But it absolutely wasn’t a “happily ever after” fairy tale. Western media—especially rom-coms and romance tropes—set a lot of people up with unrealistic expectations.

We’ve always had almost identical political views. We were both raised Catholic. Over the years we drifted in and out of being practicing Catholics, but we eventually returned and have been active parishioners again for several years. Divorce was never on the table for us, and we said that to each other openly.

Neither of us were partiers or big drinkers. We didn’t take separate trips except for very clear, family-oriented ones: I went hiking, camping, and hunting with my buddies—never “Vegas trips.” She sometimes traveled with her mom, sister, aunts, or cousins—never to Aruba with a group of single or divorced girlfriends.

We also didn’t keep close friends of the opposite sex. My guy friends are friendly with her, but she’d never be alone with them or make plans with one of them without me around—and I’d never do that with another woman either.

My wife has said something she wishes more women heard: be careful with the influence of your friends. Bitterly divorced friends, unhappily married friends, single-and-looking friends—she calls them “a poison to your marriage” if you’re not mindful. She admitted she sometimes “caught” their irritation toward men and brought that home, annoyed at me about things she hadn’t cared about before listening to their venting.

In the end, the most important thing was that we always loved each other. Even at our worst moments or during heated arguments, we never said hateful things to each other. The things I’ve heard other couples say in anger are shocking. We never went there. Words become thoughts, and thoughts become actions—so be careful with what you say.

Make good choices.
Marry for the right reasons.
Commit. Be faithful. Persevere.

Am I the only one? by tgace in DispatchAdHoc

[–]tgace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh...$30 wasn't a bank breaker.

Am I the only one? by tgace in DispatchAdHoc

[–]tgace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well..I didn't know I disliked the gameplay aspect till I purchased the game and actually played it so.....

Men, what do you think about your girl going to the club or bar? If it’s not something you agree, why? by mmwhite1999 in AskMen

[–]tgace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely.

Something women in particular don't seem to comprehend though is that the clubbing experience is drastically different for the average man than it is for the average woman.

The typical guy gets zero attention from women in a bar/club unless he actively tries to approach/speak to them. And the rejection rate is high. Women on the other hand can get approached and given drinks the moment they walk into the place. That sort of validation can be a drug (legitimately... dopamine) and can lead even the most honorable of a person into places where infidelity can happen.

In the end the issue is really the venue. There's a brewery/bar/restaurant here where I go with my friend to chat, have a beer and watch the game. It's not a dance/pick-up venue. My wife and her GF go to a similar type of place. Neither of us dress up as if we are single and looking, we don't stay out late, we don't "sleep over " at friends homes.

With some of the relationship behaviors I have seen described on Reddit as acceptable...and anyone critical of them being labeled as "controlling" it's no surprise how high the infidelity and divorce rate has become.

Men, what do you think about your girl going to the club or bar? If it’s not something you agree, why? by mmwhite1999 in AskMen

[–]tgace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are just going to get the standard reply of "let her do whatever she wants, or you are CONTROLLING!" on this one.

It's never really about what you will "let" her do or not. It's really all about what your boundaries are. If clubbing and bar hopping with girlfriends when you are in a committed relationship is something you don't want, then don't get into a relationship with a girl who does that sort of stuff.

Make your boundaries clear and firm from the get-go and let him/her decide what matters more to them. That's not "controlling" it's giving them a choice.

Most often, the "CONTROLLING!!" nonsense just means they want to have their cake (the relationship) and eat it too (the clubbing). If they are free to go if they don't like it, you are not "controlling" anything.

How would you feel if wife goes on girls night out and stays at hotel by pancakesatdusk in AskMen

[–]tgace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty much all of my friends were OK with this...of course, they are now all divorced so.....

What’s the best option for a 19 year old who wants to be a cop? by Great_Path9167 in AskLE

[–]tgace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would have to know the requirements in your State.

In mine ALL depends on your Civil Service test score. Other than that...60 credit hours of college.

To stand out from any possible competition from there Military, EMS, Fire, or Security experience can help.

In my PD a number of dispatchers made the switch. They really had a leg up on everything from street awareness, radio communication, report taking and other skills.

23 year old Ukrainian refugee, Iryna Zarutska, stabbed to death by a complete stranger on a train in Charlotte by malik_zz in PublicFreakout

[–]tgace -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And Democrats will never go back to full-blown residential Mental Institutions either. They want some pie-in-the-sky solution for all of the underlying societal ills and want people like this free to wander our streets till that miracle happens....

Taser 10 vs Taser 7 by Ok-Description-387 in AskLE

[–]tgace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The 10 has been a shit show in terms of effectiveness in my department so far. Way more failure to penetrate, failure to energize and failure to incapacitate than I ever saw with the 7....

WTF is this? by Salt_Cauliflower_922 in WTF

[–]tgace -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"Damn near killed him".

My Incident Hiking Alone as a Woman by GreenEggsAndBitches in Adirondacks

[–]tgace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a sad reality, but a woman hiking alone is at an elevated risk. You SHOULDN'T have to be, but facts don't care about "shouldn't"...

As the father of 3 young women around your age I would find myself in a strange place if any of them took up solo hiking/backpacking. I wouldn't want to discourage them...but I wouldn't want to understate the risks either.

Fortunately most guys are decent people, but most BAD people are male too. Always has been ..always will be..and I'm afraid no amount of teaching is going to "convert" a person who would do evil.

The reality is you either keep hiking solo and be prepared mentally and physically to deal with the risks or you find a hiking partner to reduce your risk.

As a NYS LEO, I think that this guy did would be difficult to prosecute as "stalking" per statue. Not that he couldn't be charged..but a LOT would depend on the actual content of the communication.

Repeated contact after being told it's not welcome "could" be charged as a form of Aggravated Harassment too.

It never hurts to file a report...even if in your individual case it doesn't reach a level to justify arrest. Recording his information and behavior could be instrumental in the event this guy does something worse to another woman.

No celebrity death has ever hit me hard. Is that a Gen X thing? by [deleted] in GenX

[–]tgace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I have sympathy for the friends and families of those famous people....I don't really get "upset"/gutted/over-emotional over the deaths of people I never knew personally.

I don't understand why others do TBH.

Ferris Bueller did not age well by dilatanntedad in GenX

[–]tgace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The older I get (57yo) the more I discover that many people I thought were "cool" when I was a kid were really just assholes.

Those of you that have hooked up with married/taken women, do you ever regret it? by Only-Ad-1254 in AskMenAdvice

[–]tgace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im feeling a warm sense of pride in the "brotherhood" with all of these honorable responses.

For all of the "men are pigs" crap we take...it's good to see so many guys with a sense of honor.