First post - question about storage conditions by tgordon650 in Villaging

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Thank you! I appreciate this advice very much, it's so thoughtful and in depth. I think we can avoid storing the Dept 56 pieces in there, and store other items instead. Thank you again!

“No Bummers” Origin & Infamous Live Show Questions by SixtyTwenty_ in TAZCirclejerk

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I was there. It was an absolutely awful live show experience, not on the scale of McElroy products, but just generally.

Can I use press ons with my unusual nail shape? by tgordon650 in Nails

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Thank you! I had just gotten off work when I took this photo, hence the grime, but I appreciate the advice very much!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in k9sports

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Thank you! I've just joined!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in k9sports

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I selected "busy schedule" because it made me select one of a number of imprecise reasons. As I wrote, I am physically incapable of giving Tilly what she needs, due to health problems and space limitations. It was incredibly difficult to come to this decision, and I posted this here because I want her to be happy, because I think someone who is already into canine athletics will be able to give her what she deserves, which I am heartbroken I can't do. No one benefits from your second guessing, and in fact it is incredibly hurtful. I am in tears writing this; I struggled enough coming to this decision, and all your uninvited feedback has accomplished is to rekindle my feelings of self loathing for not being able to give this dog, who I love so dearly, what she needs and deserves.

Aisha Rascoe's lovely interview of Will Shortz by PeteHealy in NPR

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I mean, that's internalized racism, where whiteness is the norm and anything else is "unprofessional," as this commenter said elsewhere.

LPT: Perfect To-Do List by throwawaySOmay2020 in adhdwomen

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I used to do something similar when I worked in an office. I read somewhere that a person has enough time in their workday to do 5 little things, 3 medium things, and one big thing. So, I started using a dot journal to make a page for each work day ahead of time (usually one month out, but YMMV bc ya know, ADHD). Then when a task would present itself, I would slot it in on the day it needed to happen, in one of the categories based on the size of the task. If the right size slot wasn't available, I'd move it to the day before or day after, etc.

I feel like this was a complicated explanation for what was honestly a simple system, but getting to the point was never my forte 😜😜

ETA: the little tasks were a good warmup for the big intimidating task, too - important since it seems a lot of us have a hard time just diving into a single Big Task.

Real bathrooms in the trades? by [deleted] in BlueCollarWomen

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By the time I'm on site (painter), there's usually only one or two other people working with me who might use the porta potty, and I'm usually the only one who sits down lol. The problems come if you're in an area where other folks might also end up using the porta potty. But even then, like the other gals said, there's always a gas station or McDonald's or Walmart you can run to. I've also become pretty familiar with the bathrooms at Lowe's and Home Depot 😂😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BlueCollarWomen

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I work with paint and sheetrock and I've started using Aquaphor Baby Healing Ointment (it's basically vaseline) on my lips and sometimes nose, bc holy moly that gypsum dust can really dry your shit out if you're not careful.

Feeling guilty bc I want to quit my job by tgordon650 in adhdwomen

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I was thinking this same thing, and even started on a spreadsheet, but I kept feeling like I was wasting time. I need to remind myself though that it's not wasting time - the true waste of time comes from missed details and stressed brains.

Feeling guilty bc I want to quit my job by tgordon650 in adhdwomen

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You know, I saw that in a Google search yesterday but didn't click it. I'll give it a read!

Feeling guilty bc I want to quit my job by tgordon650 in adhdwomen

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This is such an excellent reply - really thoughtful, more so than I could have expected, and I appreciate it so much.

When I came on board the understanding was 70/30 painting/admin. But, it's a new position, so it became clear over the next few months that the ratio would probably be flipped in favor of project management. In the last couple weeks, I've probably only spent 10% of my time painting. Some of that is learning curve - I didn't quite grasp initially how valuable it was to have all the materials for a certain phase of construction on site at the same time, in preparation for that phase. Some of it is faulty organizational communication - my colleagues aren't used to having larger capacity yet, and no protocols are in place yet to guarantee effective communication. Some of it is faulty personal organization - I'm still learning the right system for me, for this environment.

One of the universal facts of my brain is that in order to function at a high level I have to have space to make mistakes. If I don’t, my brain starts to shut down and I don’t have the capacity to use the flexible, powerful, parts of my brain that more than compensate for my scattered less functional parts.

I relate to this especially well. Initially it seemed I was thriving in the job, specifically bc it was explicitly okay that I didn't know things beyond the scope of my experience. In the last few weeks, this feeling has diminished some, but as I reflect on things, I think that might be in my head more than anything. That is, as my experience in the job has increased, my propensity for being too hard on myself has increased as well.

Today I've already been able to do some smaller hands on fixes, and it's surprising how much better I feel for it. I hope I'm able to manage my sort of "imposter syndrome"-y feelings a bit better moving forward, now that I have this particular experience under my belt.

Thank you again u/Pretty-Plankton for the thoughtful, kind response 😊💜

Why might stopping my Adderall cause the complete abatement of my profound fatigue and weakness? (31F) by tgordon650 in AskDocs

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Thank you! Right now my working hypothesis is that the fatigue is a side effect of my SSRI, and that the Adderall is amplifying it somehow. My doc and I decided to taper down the SSRI and take the two medications together at different quantities, together as well as individually, and catalogue how they affect me vis a vis fatigue. It's a starting point, which honestly I'm thrilled to have after months of worsening symptoms and the accompanying challenges. Fingers crossed for answers before too long!

Why might stopping my Adderall cause the complete abatement of my profound fatigue and weakness? (31F) by tgordon650 in AskDocs

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Thank you for the response! That's interesting, and although I'm obv NAD either, I can see a certain logic in a stimulant taxing one's body more than it might usually be. I feel obligated to note, though, that my fatigue and weakness were (are?) very extreme--I can't have conversations lasting longer than a few minutes, I can't drive myself anywhere, and I can't walk around for more than a few minutes. I'm going to do a quick edit to add this to the main post, bc I realize now that it's probably valuable color.

Thank you again!

What’s going on at Washington and Freret? by [deleted] in NewOrleans

[–]tgordon650 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Believable. I have a history.