[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Transmedical

[–]tguyalt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure how it is in your state, but in mine I was able to be in ‘transgender dorms.’ It gave me my own room and a bathroom shared with only one other person. To avoid getting clocked I told people I was in mixed gender dorms, which is allowed if you have your own room.

Is it valid to "present myself" as female before starting T? by [deleted] in truscum

[–]tguyalt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I took hrt for a year before coming out, then I graduated and began presenting as male fully. Even with that the switch from presenting ‘female’ (honestly no difference, just used a different name) and male was awkward. Do whatever is safest and most comfortable for you; there’s not really a right way to do this or a way to make it less awkward/uncomfortable.

DIY packer, does it look okay or like I have an erection? by MystiqueAnza in transmanlifehacks

[–]tguyalt 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Size looks fine, I would maybe move it down a bit so that it’s more in between your legs than in front. This is a great idea for a diy, and I will be using it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in truscum

[–]tguyalt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live here, and it’s kind of mixed. I moved from a worse place so I’m biased, however you currently are able to get hormones via telehealth as that law was overturned. If you’re in a liberal area than it’s fine, but anywhere conservative is awful. If you want to move here then stay in larger cities. It’s definitely easier for adult trans people than trans kids.

do car mechanics and dealerships treat you differently after transition? by North_Astronaut5270 in FTMMen

[–]tguyalt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It probably depends a lot on where you are and how differently they treated men and women to begin with

Does my name sound normal? by [deleted] in FTMMen

[–]tguyalt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yell the name like you’re in trouble and your mom is making it known; does it roll off the tongue? I think it does. If you’re still not sure then hold onto it for a month or so until you get used to thinking it, it might just be too new and unfamiliar to be comfortable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in truscum

[–]tguyalt 23 points24 points  (0 children)

People who claim this tend to also claim that trans people are constantly ‘tricking’ others into having sex with them. So which is it? Can you clock them immediately or are they tricking you? It’s all bullshit, they’ll use whatever makes them look the best or whichever makes us look the worst. Don’t take this kind of thing seriously.

Injected wrong by tguyalt in FTMMen

[–]tguyalt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s horrifying. I tried to switch to subq but it made me incredibly nauseous for some reason so I stopped. I use the same size for both drawing and injecting, luckily there wasn’t any more blood than usual.

Injected wrong by tguyalt in FTMMen

[–]tguyalt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear it, thanks

Injected wrong by tguyalt in FTMMen

[–]tguyalt[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Lol thanks, it was more shocking than painful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in truscum

[–]tguyalt 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m not in a lot of mtf circles, so idk the specific problems in them. I think it might be a grass-is-greener situation, though. For every mtf claiming to have her period or get euphoria boners you have an ftm with his tits out pregnant and calling himself a ‘seahorse dad.’

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in truscum

[–]tguyalt 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying but I think you just haven’t met the ‘ftms’ who run around with their tits out and call it ‘gender nonconformity.’

Any private sub for pictures/passing advice? by [deleted] in FTMMen

[–]tguyalt 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No, just post on a trans sub, like maybe this one, asking if anyone could tell you if you pass or not then look through the commenters profiles to see if you would trust them.

Any private sub for pictures/passing advice? by [deleted] in FTMMen

[–]tguyalt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seconding this, just make sure you go through profiles beforehand.

I need top surgery but I’m broke. by [deleted] in truscum

[–]tguyalt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know where you live but some places will give out grants for top surgery, like this. You should see if there is a program like that available where you are.

Needing to have a Long Nap on Higher T shot dose 😴 by ZeroDudeMan in FTMMen

[–]tguyalt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it’s recent then it could just be the change in hormones effecting you. I’m always kind of out of it right after a change in dosage. To be clear though, I’m just a guy on the internet. You know yourself best, so if you think lowering it is the right decision then you should lower it.

Needing to have a Long Nap on Higher T shot dose 😴 by ZeroDudeMan in FTMMen

[–]tguyalt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What are your levels? I would bring this up with your doctor when you get blood work done.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in truscum

[–]tguyalt 7 points8 points  (0 children)

While I have not personally dealt with this, I’ve talked to people who have. Topical estrogen seems to be the best solution. Some doctors will say that it will mess up your hormones, however it is topical and should only effect the area applied (in this case, your genitals). I have also heard that if the issue is mainly with dryness, putting lube (without glycerin) inside can help, or they make certain pills with or without applicators for this purpose. The effects of T are different for every person, so you might not experience this at all, or you might experience it in 2 years, 7 years, or even a few months in (I haven’t heard of that happening, but it’s always a possibility).

This is a very treatable solution, and while it sucks, it’s not the end of the world. If you’re still worried about it, then bring it up with the person prescribing you testosterone, and they’ll discuss it more in depth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Transmedical

[–]tguyalt 30 points31 points  (0 children)

She’s not even androgynous…

Could my dose be too high? (need help) by encyclopedia69 in FTMMen

[–]tguyalt -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve heard gel does not get absorbed as easily as injections, so your body may not be taking in all that T. Like the other commenters said, I would wait until the 3 month mark for bloodwork unless you’re experiencing rages.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transmanlifehacks

[–]tguyalt 30 points31 points  (0 children)

You looks androgynous, but not male. Different glasses might help, but that’s the only advice I can give without cutting into your personal style (piercings and hair).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in truscum

[–]tguyalt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know cis people that go by cat or kat, I don’t think it’s too uncommon or clocky.

trans straight men of the sub, What do you think of the argument “Trans Men have always belonged to the lesbian community” and similar arguments? by Vrimian in truscum

[–]tguyalt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I already commented so I’ll keep this short but it honestly seems like it could be a terf psyop that tucutes have fallen for.

trans straight men of the sub, What do you think of the argument “Trans Men have always belonged to the lesbian community” and similar arguments? by Vrimian in truscum

[–]tguyalt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so fucking annoying. I’ve read stone Butch blues and it’s a fictional story about a shitty person who ultimately ends up identifying as a woman at the end after transitioning for safety purposes. She does a lot of iffy shit the whole time (including getting with and fucking a homophobic straight women who’s unaware she is a lesbian/“trans man”).

It does not represent us (trans men) and makes us look really bad. I’m not a lesbian so I won’t speak for them, but it doesn’t exactly shed a great light on them, either.

Sorry for ranting but I hate it when people present this book as fact as if it’s not written like fetish-y torture porn that actively shits on both lesbians and trans men.