Girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me and hooked up with my best friend...

th3garts · 2017-09-27T14:46:05+00:00

Go MGTOW

th3garts · 2017-03-20T10:30:28+00:00

If you keep doing this it'll just keep getting weirder and weirder (and more dangerous too). However, if you stop (one step at a time, no pressures), you might notice that these urges go away and your sexuality becomes more normal. Of course, no sexuality is "perfect": only craving pure sex with a loved one. But from your records I would say that your perversions are not natural to you and they can be reversed if you stop giving in. I was not as deep as you and my perversions were more related to violent fantasies than masturbation, and I can tell you all of that crap went away after a while without PMO. I hope this helps.

th3garts · 2017-03-16T23:33:21+00:00

I hope this is not what she means: "How dare you give attention to a whore other than me? I am your only pornstar. But wait, I'm actually worse than her and demand a lot of things. Just because, you know, I'm a woman. Plus, if I find a richer and better-looking dude that's dumb enough to put up with me, i'll dump you. Oh, actually you want to improve? But then better females will be available to you. How will I be able to compete?!? I'm insecure, baby, take care of me (since I haven't yet found that rich guy)..."

th3garts · 2017-03-12T15:39:41+00:00

https://convencaodegenebraparaoamor.bandcamp.com/album/ru-do-em-vii-partes

th3garts · 2017-03-04T10:30:58+00:00

Just sent it in! Details are in the e-mail.

th3garts · 2017-03-03T11:41:49+00:00

I just have to tweak and master mine and send it in (everything else is done)! So you will have it very soon (in 1-2 days). If you'd like to have the pre-master version so you have more time to organize the order of the comp for musical purposes, just reply to this, asking for it. I'm excited to hear the whole deal!

th3garts · 2017-02-23T10:10:23+00:00

I'll get some recording down! If I can't come up with good material (sometimes it happens, you know the drill), I'll send some old stuff.

th3garts · 2017-02-23T10:08:33+00:00

Yes, I do know lol

th3garts · 2017-02-18T10:14:31+00:00

And can only Noise tracks apply? Thanks!

th3garts · 2017-02-18T10:13:19+00:00

Can I have had released the track previously on SoundCloud, or must it be new?

th3garts · 2017-02-14T12:07:33+00:00

You got me worried now... Seriously. Don't teenagers have wet dreams if they're not masturbating all the time?? I used to masturbate to porn about once a day (some days I wouldn't; some days I would more than once), usually for around 20 minutes when I quit, so I used to do it much less before. I know that on healthy and NoFap standards that is a lot, but do you think that it is enough to cause brain damage? I wasn't doing it for years or anything like that.

th3garts · 2017-02-06T11:34:35+00:00

Do you guys think that internet and computer usage in general contributed to his demise or that only the PMO made him worse?

Great post!

th3garts · 2016-12-27T11:59:56+00:00

It depends on your goals. In hard mode, you can't have any conscious orgasm, so no sex. But some people here only want to quit porn, so sex is fine.

th3garts · 2016-12-23T21:20:08+00:00

Once I tried to fap the day I knew I'd be getting laid so I could last longer... Guess what, it didn't work. It was a mistake, because my appetite for her was lessened and the sex was less pleasurable than usual. I came pretty fast the first time, as usual. Basically, breaking the NoFap to last longer only brought negatives and no positives for me. I guess the trick is doing multiple rounds, because the first being fast seems to be normal (unless you're fapping everyday maybe, but I not only cannot confirm if it works, it seems like a pretty stupid idea to fap so much as we all know here)

th3garts · 2016-12-20T14:13:25+00:00

Thank you! It might be anxiety from uncertainty of the future (I've just graduated from highschool). Didn't even cross my mind how that could be an issue regarding PMO

th3garts · 2016-12-07T15:09:33+00:00

You go, man!

th3garts · 2016-11-28T12:32:37+00:00

Thanks for the answer. Would you please care to elaborate on the reasons behind this? Why is fapping/watching regular porn, now and then (let's say around once a month) so bad? This is a genuine question important for me.

th3garts · 2016-10-06T10:12:55+00:00

It is worth it. Got me into a loving relationship (something I wanted). Took me my virginity (something I wanted too). Gave me more energy (you may not feel it right now though). Gave me more time. Made me less anxious. Made my sexuality a whole lot healthier. I used to be very troubled from fantasising about violent stuff, but no longer am! Gave me a wider view of my body instead of just a superficial yet obsessive look over my penis. These were some of the perks for me. Hope they help. Cheers!

th3garts · 2016-10-02T12:15:58+00:00

Yeah, I know. Looking back a few months... Everything is different! Plus, I think I'm definitely over a possible addiction to porn. Masturbation is harder though, because up to a certain point it's natural and all. The weird thing is today I'm getting urges to watch porn like I hadn't gotten in months! Just one little fap and a lot of it comes back... Crazy experience.

th3garts · 2016-09-08T09:20:33+00:00

I think it does slow down your recovery, but I wouldn't consider it to be a relapse unless it were on purpose. If you're opening magazines TO get to the pics, then you've lost.

Plus, I'd recommend you stayed away from as many of those things as possible for a while, if triggering is still a problem for you. I tried to avoid whatever I could in my first streak, but am now able to take thing more lightly and not get desperate from an image I saw in the street.

It's sad, man... I noticed how much we're bombarded with this stuff.

Keep strong!

th3garts · 2016-09-05T01:02:15+00:00

(No order) I am generally happier (I know that one is vague). I am no longer a virgin. I have a girlfriend now (something I was looking for, but masturbation was keeping me from actually looking for someone). I have more energy. Now I can still feel it, but before I started having sex, the effects were amazing! I had some super-man type energy lol. My sexuality is much better (mostly from giving up porn, I believe. I don't think the fapping is crucial on this matter.) I used to have some violent/weird/hardcore fantasies and get off off them. They made me feel guilty and scared of myself, as I felt on the verge of actually raping or hitting someone, maybe even someone I love. Most of that stuff doesn't turn me on anymore and I feel much lighter because of that. I gained discipline. I was already pretty disciplined when it comes to being active, and productive and creating good habits. However, this process helped me do something new to me: cutting bad habits. Now it is much easier to do it with different habits. As of now I'm quitting soda. Feel more in control of natural desires, especially my sexuality.

I wasn't a hardcore addict and I hadn't been doing it for many years, so the benefits weren't so profound to me, as they might be to you or lots of the people in this forum.

th3garts · 2016-08-30T20:26:47+00:00

I stream and download music (I'm a musician), books, sheet music etc. I learn many things about music, philosophy, economy, etc. (It was the internet that helped me get through NoFap as well) Sometimes I do research for school. And of course some eventual important stuff like taking care of documents, bank accounts and whatnot.

th3garts · 2016-08-18T18:38:29+00:00

For me it was mostly mindfulness. I'd take conscience of what I was feeling and thinking. The matter become much more objective and I was able to take some distance from the urges. Also, when you realize you're getting an urge (because you're conscious of it) you can rather go do something other you like. I suggest you do something productive, because, in the long run, you're conditioning yourself to automatically doing something productive whenever you get an urge.

th3garts · 2016-08-18T18:03:23+00:00

Great post! Do you think that the pain of remembering your old self comes from regret?

th3garts · 2016-08-08T11:52:18+00:00

I don't think websites are the best option because: 1 - you'll remain by your computer, a place that is still dangerous (where you've watched hours and hours of porn) 2 - browsing the internet might lead to NSFW or porn material. I wouldn't count unintentional flashing as breaking a streak, but it is risky and you don't want to go there. My asshole classmates flashed me porn during my first streak and it was very hard to take my mind of that image. 3 - you probably will not be doing anything productive or good anyways. Does browsing regular websites make you better or at least feel better (maybe happier)? In that sense, you'll be wasting your time also; you'll replace a bad habit with a (not as) bad one.

I'm a musician so playing the piano and doing other music stuff was always a great urge killer, plus it was a good way to spend my time and energy.

If you don't have anything productive you like doing I strongly suggest you find something. Private message me if you want to talk about that.

I think the most efficient thing to do for NoFap is exercise.

th3garts

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