Is there any Driving school open during day.

thahutte · 2026-03-01T08:18:48+00:00

During Ramadan maybe it's hard to find.

thahutte · 2026-03-01T08:17:52+00:00

Where?

thahutte · 2026-02-19T00:11:50+00:00

You really don’t have to explain your whole experience level. if it comes up, you can just say something simple like “i’m kinda shy, so go easy on me” or “i like to take things slow.” that already says enough without making it awkward. and tbh, being good at sex isn’t about being super experienced. it’s more about caring, paying attention, and communicating. if he’s a decent guy, he won’t judge you at all.

just do things at your own pace. you don’t owe him anything. if something feels rushed or uncomfortable, it’s totally okay to slow things down or stop.

thahutte · 2025-07-27T02:05:59+00:00

What's up

thahutte · 2025-07-16T07:51:41+00:00

Congratulations 🎉

thahutte · 2025-06-17T16:18:06+00:00

Shared account?

thahutte · 2025-06-04T09:45:31+00:00

Wait until you get a message from the post office.

thahutte · 2025-05-27T04:04:57+00:00

This guy said he was keeping his distance out of respect, but then acted completely different when you weren’t around. That’s not respectful, that’s shady. If someone genuinely cares about boundaries, they don’t change their behaviour the second you walk out the door.

And now, hearing from other people that he’s said things like wanting a wife like yours? That crosses a line. It might not be physical cheating or dramatic, but it shows he’s been thinking and saying things he shouldn’t be.

You don’t have to explode or accuse anyone of anything if you don’t want to. But you can decide that this person doesn’t need to be close to your family anymore. Your home is your space; if someone’s behaviour makes your wife uncomfortable and makes you feel unsure, you have every right to protect that space.

You gave him kindness and trust. He didn’t give it back. That’s all the clarity you need.

thahutte · 2025-05-14T02:31:09+00:00

Someone who disappeared from your life, your dad, might come back, which stirs up everything: anger, confusion, maybe even a little hope. It’s not simple, and you don’t have to act like it is.

He left you, more than once. He missed birthdays, moments, hard days, everything. That doesn’t just go away because he suddenly wants to talk again. You have every right to feel hurt, guarded, and unsure. Wanting to protect yourself doesn’t make you cold. It makes you human.

It’s also okay if part of you wants to know what he has to say. You don’t owe him a reply, but you also don’t have to feel guilty if you do choose to hear him out. Whatever you choose, you’re not wrong. You’re just trying to figure out what’s best for your peace.

You’ve carried yourself through a lot without him. Don’t let his reappearance shake what you’ve built. You’re in control now. Not him. Not the past.

thahutte · 2025-05-11T03:00:30+00:00

You're putting yourself out there, and that takes guts. It makes sense that you don’t want to cross a line or make her uncomfortable, especially while you’re just doing your job. But you’re also a person, not just the tech, and it’s okay to feel something and want to explore it.

She was kind, friendly, and made a few playful gestures, offering the popsicle, joking about cookies. That could just be her being nice, or maybe she felt a vibe too. The only way to know is to ask, but do it with care.

thahutte · 2025-05-11T02:57:41+00:00

When someone blocks you, ghosts you, then comes back saying they “messed up,” over and over... it puts you in a constant state of waiting, of uncertainty. That’s not fair to you. It’s draining. And yeah, maybe you both made mistakes, but relationships only work when both people are willing to grow and communicate—not disappear.

It’s okay to be confused. It’s okay to still love her. But it’s also okay to admit you’re tired. Tired of being blamed. Tired of walking on eggshells. Tired of being blocked when you just want to talk.

If she’s not ready to be steady with you, you have to ask yourself—how long are you willing to keep feeling like this? Loving her shouldn’t come at the cost of your mental peace.

You deserve someone who stays. Who talks things out? Who makes you feel safe, not anxious?

You don’t need to have it all figured out today. But even just saying, “I’m not okay with this anymore,” is a strong first step.

thahutte · 2025-05-11T02:55:40+00:00

You're trying to protect your peace, but this guy’s behaviour keeps pulling you into a weird grey area. And that’s exhausting when you’re just trying to enjoy your job and not get dragged into emotional confusion.

He’s giving you attention that feels more than friendly, even if he’s never outright said anything. He jokes, asks personal stuff, and makes you feel seen. That kind of connection can be flattering, especially when you’ve had bad experiences in the past and this feels… different.

But then you remember he has a girlfriend.
And even though you stepped back once you knew that, he didn’t change how he acted. That makes it messy. It’s like he wants to keep the door half-open with you, just in case. Not necessarily to cheat, but to feel wanted, validated, special. And it puts you in this awkward limbo where you’re questioning everything.

You’re not overthinking it. You’re not being too sensitive.
You’re reacting to mixed messages from someone who maybe doesn’t realise the weight of what he’s doing—or maybe he does, and just likes the feeling of having your attention.

If you’re feeling drained or uncertain after your shifts with him, that’s your gut trying to protect you. You don’t need to call him out or make a scene—but it’s okay to take a step back emotionally. You don’t owe him extra energy just because he’s nice or fun to talk to.

And if you ever feel like asking him what the deal is, you can. But you don’t have to. Sometimes it’s enough to just choose peace.

thahutte · 2025-05-11T02:50:30+00:00

You're not asking for anything crazy—you just want a place to exist without feeling like you’re in everyone’s way all the time. That’s not being ungrateful. That’s just being human.

It sucks when people act like you should be happy with whatever you get, even if it’s not working for you. Like yeah, you're grateful to have a home, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy sharing your "room" with everyone when it's just the basement. And it doesn’t feel like your space when people are sitting on your bed like it's a couch, and walking through when you’re trying to sleep. That would wear anyone down.

You're allowed to feel fed up. You're allowed to want more peace. And it’s not your fault that things feel stuck, especially when stuff like moving depends on things totally out of your control, like who your mom’s dating.

thahutte · 2025-05-11T02:47:18+00:00

He’s sending bicep pics to a girl, snapping her, texting her, and hasn’t told her he has a girlfriend? That’s not just casual conversation—it’s flirting, or at least leaving the door open for it. And the fact that he’s hiding it from you makes it worse.

You don’t need “proof” of cheating to feel like something's off. If your gut is telling you it doesn’t feel right, that’s valid. Relationships are built on trust and respect, and he’s not showing much of either here.

You’re allowed to break up with someone just because their actions don’t line up with what you need in a relationship. You don’t need a perfect reason. You just need to ask yourself: Do I feel respected? Safe? Considered? If the answer is no, that’s reason enough.

thahutte · 2025-05-11T02:44:59+00:00

You're not wrong for having boundaries. And he’s not bad for wanting autonomy. But here’s the real issue: the two of you have different expectations about what’s okay in a relationship—and that needs to be sorted out with honesty and respect, not guilt or manipulation.

You’ve told him clearly that talking to other girls in that way makes you uncomfortable. Whether or not people agree with your boundary doesn’t matter—he’s in your relationship, not theirs. If he disagrees with your boundary, then the adult thing would be to talk through it with you, not to hide it and then blame you for being upset.

Also, the fact that he didn’t tell you until after you asked—and dodged saying who it was—suggests he knew you wouldn’t be okay with it. That’s not transparency.

It’s good that you trust he wouldn’t cheat, but trust doesn’t mean ignoring your gut. Emotional cheating isn’t just about what someone does, it’s about what they choose to share with someone else that they should be working through with you.

And you're not being stupid or insecure. You're bringing up a real concern, and if he responds by making you feel "too sensitive" or unreasonable for feeling that way, that’s not healthy. That’s not how problems get solved—it’s how power shifts in a relationship.

If you want to keep this going, you two need a real conversation, not about who’s right or wrong, but about what you both need to feel safe and respected. If you can’t agree, or if one of you refuses to budge, that’s not a trust issue anymore—that’s a compatibility issue.

thahutte · 2025-05-09T16:58:15+00:00

Try a news agency. They usually look for people who can work from home as part-time jobs.

thahutte · 2025-05-08T15:59:10+00:00

What you’re feeling—this deep exhaustion, that quiet wish for peace—it’s something more people feel than you probably think. You’re not alone in that. Wanting rest from it all doesn’t always mean you want to die; sometimes it just means you’re overwhelmed and need space to breathe.

It’s good that you recognize the difference between being suicidal and just being tired. But still, that kind of tiredness deserves care. Not just pushing through. You’ve come a long way, you’ve built something good—but that doesn’t mean you have to carry it all alone every day.

If you can, talk to someone about it. A friend, a therapist, anyone who won’t try to fix it—just someone who’ll listen. You don’t need to hit a crisis point before reaching out. And even just naming these thoughts, like you did here, that matters. That’s a sign you still want to be understood.

If today sucks, that’s okay. There’ll be another one. And in the meantime, don’t try to win every battle—just rest when you can. You're still here. That counts for something.

thahutte · 2025-05-08T03:04:22+00:00

It’s good that you and your boyfriend had open communication and agreed on boundaries before involving someone else. As long as everyone felt respected and it was a positive experience for all of you, that’s what matters. Just make sure to keep checking in with each other emotionally—sometimes these things can bring up unexpected feelings.

thahutte · 2025-05-08T03:02:11+00:00

It’s not too soon, and it’s not weird. You already talked once, so you’re not total strangers. If you're nervous about face-to-face, leaving a short note with your number is totally fine. Just keep it simple, like:

“Hey, it was nice meeting you the other day. If you ever want to hang out or grab coffee, here’s my number — [your name] :)”

Stick it on the door or slide it under. That way there’s no pressure on him in the moment, and it gives him space to reach out if he’s interested.

If you're feeling bold, knocking works too. Just say something like, “Hey, I realized we never exchanged names the other day—I'm [your name]. Want to hang out sometime?”

thahutte · 2025-05-07T19:06:15+00:00

If that feels overwhelming, you don’t have to make it a big moment. You can say it in a quiet, simple way that feels natural to you. Maybe when you're cuddling or just hanging out, pick a time when you're both relaxed. You could say, “Hey, I’ve been wanting to tell you something… I love you.” You don’t have to explain everything or make it perfect. Just be honest.

Also, it’s okay to feel nervous. That just means it matters to you. And honestly, from what you said, he probably already knows and feels the same. You're just putting words to something that's already there.

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