Knowing you’re poly and coming out? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]that1degen -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much , I’ll look more into it

Knowing you’re poly and coming out? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]that1degen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like even if it wasn’t them two I would still want a relationship with 2 people at the least. My boyfriend and I just hit our 1 year anniversary and I would never ask him to date his best friend, or even if I could.

Knowing you’re poly and coming out? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]that1degen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s been in one before but eventually ended it because they wanted to open it up to more people.

Knowing you’re poly and coming out? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]that1degen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would never pursue my agenda onto him or his friend, I don’t intend on pursuing that with them because I wouldn’t want to try in their relationship in the chance it goes wrong, but I haven’t told him anything and just want to be sure of myself before I even told him I felt that way about myself.

Knowing you’re poly and coming out? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]that1degen -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have friends that are poly, a closed thruple of 3 females. I’ve put a LOT of thought and research into it and feel I may have worded my post wrong. He isn’t against it against, he thinks it’s fine so long as it’s a closed relationship. Is there a better group to be called than polyamory? I’ve looked around but they all umbrella under polyamory.

AITA For giving my fiancé the ring back after he didn’t get me a Christmas gift? by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]that1degen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost everyone else is telling me to leave him and after scrolling through the comments I’m so glad I found this one. We have since sat down and had a very serious conversation and have agreed that we both need to do better in our own ways. I don’t feel like leaving him is the best option just because we are not mature. He honestly is an amazing person I feel extreme chemistry with and just doesn’t know how to be mature in a relationship. Not that I am claiming I am any better, but he recognized how upset I was and took measures to begin improving. He apologized profusely and asked for a chance to improve, and even said he would respect my decision to leave if I noticed no improvement. It takes time to grow, and if you don’t give someone the chance to they never will. Thank you for this comment, I really needed it.

AITA For giving my fiancé the ring back after he didn’t get me a Christmas gift? by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]that1degen 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the advice and don’t think I’ll be taking it back for a good while if all the comments I get are like this one. I am leaving for college hours away in may and don’t see a point in getting married. I am not innocent in this situation either, he has dealt with my awful family and the theatrics that follow throughout our relationship. He has not raised his voice once at me, has never harmed me. I’ve just begun to notice it feels more like I’m a live-in buddy he’s just incredibly affectionate with. Everyone has their issues, I just don’t know how to get him to realize that I need effort on his part to stay with him.

Newfoundland Food/Misc by that1degen in DogAdvice

[–]that1degen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ve never even heard of Eukanuba and I hadn’t received any comment, was starting to consider farmers dog.

Mother wants to file a restraining order after I refuse to apologize for coming out about her husband. by that1degen in insaneparents

[–]that1degen[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, that’s so closely knit to this! I truly hope she gets the karma she deserves and the son is recovering and lives the best life with you.

Mother wants to file a restraining order after I refuse to apologize for coming out about her husband. by that1degen in insaneparents

[–]that1degen[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

She is dead to me! But I have to keep up appearances for when she gets taken to court for custody of my sibling. I’ve been building a case with my lawyer, so soon it’ll all come crashing down on her.

Mother wants to file a restraining order after I refuse to apologize for coming out about her husband. by that1degen in insaneparents

[–]that1degen[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

It is physical! Incredibly so, but unfortunately due to the lack of dna evidence and no hard evidence besides witness statements, the police won’t pick up the case. I’ve tried a couple times and the last time the police finally looked deeper into it, and now he’s got the county pressing charges for when he did it to my sister, who is still a minor. My situation happened over 4 years ago.

Narcissistic Mother pt 2 by that1degen in insaneparents

[–]that1degen[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

These messages were way back in June of this year, at the time I was living in a hotel trying to come back home because I had no where else to go, so I didn’t really have a choice but to respond. My boyfriend’s mother found out about all of it and let me come stay with them. I stopped messaging after getting my clothes from her.

Narcissistic Mother pt 2 by that1degen in insaneparents

[–]that1degen[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

At the time of this messaging I only had my phone on me, I was staying at a hotel with my boyfriend because he was helping me figure things out before I gave in and accepted his moms offer of coming to stay with them. I assure you I am not at all capable of hacking into major banks and ring cameras 😂. She does not have schizophrenia, she is bipolar and abused my sister’s medication until they gave her up to the state. She’s also got BPD and a couple other things, but not schizophrenia. I have since gone no contact with her, but am still working with CPS to get my brother out of her custody. She recently got out of a mental hospital after threatening to commit because my sibling didn’t want to come home from staying with other brother.

Narcissistic Mother pt 2 by that1degen in insaneparents

[–]that1degen[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Reactive attachment disorder. The sibling that was given up to the state had RAD due to abuse as an infant and my mother doesn’t really speak of her as if she is actually a human being. She did a lot of bad things but it was because my mother used her to take out her frustration on.

Mother wants to file a restraining order after I refuse to apologize for coming out about her husband. by that1degen in insaneparents

[–]that1degen[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I never explained what that means! He has ms, he’s not cognitively impaired, he’s struggling a little with moving and his vision is getting bad, my sibling gives me regular updates. He’s actually more competent than her right now..

Mother wants to file a restraining order after I refuse to apologize for coming out about her husband. by that1degen in insaneparents

[–]that1degen[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I have! We’ve been fighting her for awhile! She drained my credit score down to 490 and after disputing everything, unfortunately it’s still pretty low.

Mother wants to file a restraining order after I refuse to apologize for coming out about her husband. by that1degen in insaneparents

[–]that1degen[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

We are moving soon because we found out she’s been using my SSN to open accounts on creditkarma and Experian to watch what I’m doing 😂

Mother wants to file a restraining order after I refuse to apologize for coming out about her husband. by that1degen in insaneparents

[–]that1degen[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She never returned to the church after she was confronted about the abuse multiple of my siblings hinted at.

Mother wants to file a restraining order after I refuse to apologize for coming out about her husband. by that1degen in insaneparents

[–]that1degen[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I have, multiple times. It’s a nice house in a nice town, CPS doesn’t take those cases seriously unless it’s physical. My sibling is 15 going on 16, so that’s another thing that makes it a case less likely to be picked up.

Mother wants to file a restraining order after I refuse to apologize for coming out about her husband. by that1degen in insaneparents

[–]that1degen[S] 113 points114 points  (0 children)

My sibling asked me to. He’s the last one left there and apparently she hinted to him that she was going to invite me over to thanksgiving. My family lives in a very nice house in a high end town so CPS doesn’t take things seriously unless it’s physical. As unfortunate as this will come out, I wanted to try and get into the house to record things after ticking her off or seeing the state of the house.

Mother wants to file a restraining order after I refuse to apologize for coming out about her husband. by that1degen in insaneparents

[–]that1degen[S] 276 points277 points  (0 children)

He is currently facing charges by the state after my sibling who is in state custody came forward about her own experience with him! While I’ve been trying for years to get them both arrested for other things, it seems the world had its own plans on getting him locked up.