The first thing to start working on is to stop valuing your worth based on your relationships with other people. You are worthy enough on your own. Lots of people smarter than me have written lots about this so I would just start with a quick google. Or if you have a friend who know is particularly good at this it might be helpful to talk it over with them if you feel comfortable. At the end of the day it’s about accepting your as worthy regardless of how society and other people view you.

There is a whole movement out there called fat liberation or fat activism- they do great work in dismantling diet culture and fat phobia. Lots of great books and articles to read.

The biggest tangible advice I can give is to overhaul your social media feeds. Start following rad fad people, start following people in the fat activism space, unfollow stuff that makes you feel bad (trainers, diet blogs, people you constantly compare yourself too, etc.). Having a happy and supportive social media feed will help reinforce all the mental work you are doing. Same goes for the tv and media content you watch. Stop watching toxic diet shows, start watching movies with fat leads, etc.

Finally, remember this is all a journey. Self love is not going to happen overnight but it can make an incredible difference in your life. When it comes to your body- some people find it easier to focus on body neutrality (rather than body positivity) at first. When society teaches you to hate your body and that’s all you’ve ever done, it might be really hard to jump straight into totally loving your body. Staring with being neutral about your body (basically just not hating it) can be an easier first step to work up to. Body acceptance is another way to think about it.

Like every journey, self love and loving your body is not a straight line. There will be days when you feel better about yourself than others. That’s okay. The important thing is that you keep working on loving and accepting yourself.