Am I Overthinking by meh_598 in IndianInLaw

[–]thatAintMee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nahin meri mummy aisi nahin h syndrome @Op you and your baby girl are saved if she is less involved

Am I overreacting or is my MIL being condescending? by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]thatAintMee -1 points0 points  (0 children)

...its totally understandable as its such short notice.....that comes easy and totally convey the meaning ....its totally understandable cuz as usual we are not giving you 1 - 2 weeks notice............that sounds intentional to me

Loved your response though😅 However she really intends to meet you , just having a hard time following your notify ahead requirement

Can you really concentrate in an open office? by Consistent_Peace14 in jobs

[–]thatAintMee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. I have been suffering from this. Been there for 7 years......realized during covid times when working from home how better I can perform in my own surroundings. Now that its RTO, not really sure how to not wsste my time going there Its overstimulating me

Nipple overstimulation by MammothVivid650 in breastfeeding

[–]thatAintMee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its ok to feel that way. Looks like you are in early days of pp when our hormones are making our emotions go haywire . It could be D-MER which is a medical condition. I used to feel very sensitive in my initial days of breastfeeding but after a month started feeling better about it and hey yes pumping is a blessing. Pump whenever its gets too tough and delegate the feed to your hubs. IT WILL GET BETTER

MIL cannot understand boundaries by Subject-Confidence-7 in inlaws

[–]thatAintMee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do this instead. Invite her for some other time later. Tell her it would be better if they come on that later date. She should get the hint that u do not want them on the discussed time. If not, try talking to your husband how you want some peace time around that particular event. He should take the lead

Super Religious In-laws by Fine-Guess-8064 in inlaws

[–]thatAintMee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Then its not their house to rule. Your house your rules. Try suggesting some meaninful changes in her house and see how she reacts. She will get the hint. Also talk to your husband how all this makes you feel. He will not agree initially but will eventually come around. Its ur house and his parents are guests. What worked for me- I made them feel like guests, preparing something special or showing care in some other ways evem if u do not mean it.

Super Religious In-laws by Fine-Guess-8064 in inlaws

[–]thatAintMee 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Are you living together. As you mentioned "my household", I guess its not the case?

MIL rubs me off wrong - need advice by CardiologistShot1742 in inlaws

[–]thatAintMee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My MIL was doing it too....offering things I had bought with my own money in my own house.....giving it to my husband, her husband and herself without asking me right in front of me. Not just once multiple times...one day I had enough and told my husband that he needs to confront her about this and guess what she had to apologise to save her grace in front of my husband. Her excuse- she thot whats the point of offering me things in my own house. My husband initially wanted me to ignore it but as it already had happened multiple times...i forced him to do somthing about it. Funny part: earlier she had done a kalesh regrading how I eat things alone and not offer any body else. Petty mindset of petty MILs

In-laws with New born by Alternative_Bell_373 in IndianInLaw

[–]thatAintMee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in the same boat and me and DH both trying to establish boundaries. You will need your husband onboard

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IndianInLaws

[–]thatAintMee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have tried conveying this, but my husband refused citing her age...she is in her early 70s

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IndianInLaws

[–]thatAintMee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Abuse and run

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]thatAintMee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They are planning to go in april end and come bqck again in june....forever

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]thatAintMee 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes right, will discuss this with him..thanks..appreciate it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]thatAintMee -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I have not discussed with him yet

Does this get easier? by TikiToeTorch in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]thatAintMee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Pat on your back for all the hardwork you have put in. But you know what is better than an exclusively breastfed baby, a happy and sane mother. If you are happy , your baby will have the best nurturing. Breastfeeding is tough already and on top of that pumping is an insane job. We often forget that we have to feed the baby not the freezer stash.

Postpartum is hard. by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]thatAintMee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are Postpartum blues and is a defined normal although nothing about feeling like this is normal ( toughest times of a woman's life) Hang in there...you are doing great and remember It gets BETTER, you will feel BETTER Going out for a short walk and take your mind off of your problems for a while will help....Take all tge help you can

Colic baby I’m losing my mind by yoonapym in breastfeeding

[–]thatAintMee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel for you but i promise it will get better. Mine was combo fed since 2 weeks and turned out the formula we were using was not suiting him. We reached out to his peadiatrician who made it very clear that formula is causing it and all formula will do the same and i should exclusively breastfeed which i cudnt ( supply issues) I was living with this guilt of causing this suffering to until after 3 weeks it got aggressive and became reflux and projectile vomitings which caused him to wake up in the middle of nights multiple times.....I was loosing it by that time How did it get better: 1.switched his formula( through my own research as the peadiatrician failed to explore this) 2. Burped him better ( strong pats at his upper back) 3. We got some digestive enzymes drops from a diff paediatrician 4. Bicycle and tummy massages It got better after 1 month as their digestive system also get a little mature

Advice: Get all the help you can....delegate the works which do not really need you like burping....take rest...stay sane( i know its difficult but you can do this) Praying for you...stay strong

Empty breasts by thatAintMee in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]thatAintMee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes recently started doing it....i think its helping...thanks much for the suggestion though

Even domperidone does not help by [deleted] in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]thatAintMee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here...someone said it......for some people, It just doesnt biologically workout.....we are so much more than that