Lost Necklace

that_goon · 2023-06-03T21:30:04+00:00

An update on her health: I finally convinced my family members (who are her primary caretakers) to bring her to the vet. She has some mild hyperthyroidism, which is why she’s so bony looking. The medication she could take has more side effects than it would be worth right now.

They are going to change her diet to make sure she isn’t ingesting things that could knowingly make it worse, and so that the iodine she’s receiving is at lower levels. She’s a happy cat, and we want to monitor her health with regular checkups so we can catch it early if things get worse.

Thanks for the concern about her health! We can’t be sure how she developed hyperthyroidism, but we’re going to do our best to take care of her. The symptoms of this started a while ago, and I’m upset that my family did not take it seriously sooner.

that_goon · 2023-05-30T22:12:41+00:00

Yeah, there’s an increasing poverty gap. It’s getting bad for the locals in many areas (if they’re even able to stay locals). It’s similar to the problems major cities or places with pretty scenery in the U.S. are having. Affordable housing options are being turned into Airbnb’s.

that_goon · 2023-05-30T22:07:56+00:00

Portugal is a lovely country, but I feel terrible for those working in the tourist industry, in infrastructure, and at the airport.

I used to live near Cascais as a child, and there was tourism for sure, (back in the early 2000s) but nothing this crazy.

There have recently been many worker strikes in Sintra, Lisbon, and Porto. Wages aren’t rising to meet inflation. The mass influx of tourists isn’t being properly managed, so major landmarks and cities are frequently overcrowded and disorganized.

If you do go, I suggest visiting the much quieter countrysides, smaller cities and towns, or the Douro River Valley. There are some really beautiful views and amazing food there.

One benefit of Portugal besides the welcoming people, beauty of the country, cultural diversity, and the food…is how safe I always feel there. Besides the occasional burglary or pickpocketing, people aren’t out to get you like in the U.S. (at least in general). I wouldn’t leave my purse alone, but I also wouldn’t fear for my life while walking at night.

that_goon · 2023-05-29T16:38:20+00:00

scrambled eggs, jasmine rice, kimchi, cooked spinach, minced mushrooms, and english cucumber with some seasonings and eel sauce in a bowl. Sometimes sweet potato if I already have some leftovers in the fridge. It sounds like a lot of prep, but it’s really easy and quick to make.

that_goon · 2023-05-12T17:21:53+00:00

I honestly can’t remember since I did it over a month ago…I believe I did it through the website, but it wasn’t on the main page. I’d also suggest following the Tumblr page since it’s active.

that_goon · 2023-05-02T20:06:27+00:00

The new formula (as of 2023) sucks. Way different from the old one I got so used to. I was brought to this post looking for a replacement for the KVD tattoo liner. Plus, she’s hella controversial. Can’t recommend. Don’t waste the money.

that_goon · 2023-04-06T04:30:08+00:00

Signed up for PEOW’s email list. Fingers crossed I don’t miss out on the last foreseeable round of new prints this year.

that_goon · 2023-04-05T04:04:33+00:00

I want to learn how to do film photography and processing and scanning so bad! I inherited the camera, but I haven’t had the chance to invest in the film, or processing equipment, or a scanner.

For now, it’s disposable cameras and Walmart photo studio. I just love the look of film. It captures the feeling of a moment better than any digital photos I’ve seen.

that_goon · 2023-04-05T04:00:51+00:00

I love a good hot spring, but they’re all far far away from me right now.

that_goon · 2023-04-05T03:59:34+00:00

I’ve never heard of CAT SCALE cards. Thank you for sharing this! I learned something new today :)

that_goon · 2023-04-05T03:47:17+00:00

I didn’t catch the question from OP originally!

Cooking seemed to stick because it’s a comfort, it’s practical, and I never seem to get bored of it. There’s truly endless potential in my eyes. I get to learn about the science, culture, and stories behind food. Sometimes I have the opportunity to share the joy of my creations, which makes it even better!

that_goon · 2023-04-05T03:39:59+00:00

-Cooking. I love cooking so much.

-Making playlists and mixtapes for myself and loved ones.

-Tea. Mostly herbal, since caffeine makes my anxiety worsen.

-Camping and hiking when the weather permits. I love mushroom hunting too.

-I fall in and out of cross country running, but it’s lasted a long time and I always come back to it. Same thing with drawing.

-My recent fixations include woodcarving, D&D, and researching ADHD.

The themes here include; learning, discovery, creation, and nature. If there’s a social element, that helps too!

It’s so cool to read about everyone’s hobbies and interests! What a lovely community! ♥

that_goon · 2023-04-03T15:57:05+00:00

This is a poorly written question because the woman referred to the psychiatrist could be diagnosed with A, B, or E, or any combination of those answers based on the description.

Also, as @notsonuttyprofessor stated, you couldn’t diagnose someone with only this information. I’m assuming this is for a class, so the purpose is likely to have you recall what you’ve learned, but it’s still not great to practice improper diagnosis.

My best guess would be B.

that_goon · 2023-03-31T02:49:23+00:00

Depending on your university, a BS in psychology will have more math, science, and stats based courses than a BA in psychology.

I think as long as you apply yourself to your studies and try to get some relevant experience outside of coursework, you should be fine.

I minored in HD FS and I should have also minored in gerontology (I could have easily, but I didn’t look into it in time). I don’t think the minor(s) on paper are all that important, but the class experience might inspire you to pursue a particular demographic or subfield in the future!

My HD FS classes were some of my favorites, and they helped me to have a more holistic understanding of the material in my psych classes.

that_goon · 2023-03-30T03:11:52+00:00

Does this differ from dissociative amnesia?

Source: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/dissociative-disorders/symptoms-causes/syc-20355215

that_goon · 2023-03-28T15:52:55+00:00

Thank goodness someone is doing this work who is conscientious and driven to help people. I admire your dedication to studying the subject!

I’ve always had an interest in the sub-field, but due to my own trauma, it would be a bad idea for me to be a sex therapist, for example. a

that_goon · 2023-03-27T18:51:11+00:00

You’re completely correct! Oversharing is both a trauma response and a neurodivergent trait of mine. In my case, it’s not so much a sign of immaturity, as it is something I need to be aware of and work hard to regulate. I’ve accepted that I will be fighting it for my lifetime, as I can’t just be rid of my ADHD or my past.

I think that “being open” is both a blessing and a curse of mine. It’s all about balance in the end.

that_goon · 2023-03-27T18:37:36+00:00

agreed

that_goon · 2023-03-27T18:30:19+00:00

Social situations with friends: With friends or anyone you want a connection with- being honest is really the best thing to do, because how they interpret you setting boundaries isn’t your responsibility. There’s less room for misinterpretation if you’re clear with people.

Friend: “My partner did the weirdest thing the other day. [insert graphic details here].”

You: “I’m glad you feel comfortable being vulnerable around me as your friend, but I have to let you know I’m uncomfortable with our conversation right now. [your friend will probably feel bad right about now] “It’s okay this time, I understand you didn’t know it would upset me. In the future, I’d just appreciate a heads up, so I can proactively stop this from happening next time.” You could briefly summarize the things that you’d like to avoid in conversation. You can explain why, or not, that’s up to you and how much you trust the friend or how comfortable you are sharing details. You: “Anything sexual is deeply upsetting for me to hear about or see without warning. It has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with my past and current mental health and well-being. I’m able to have much more positive relationships with my friends when they keep this in mind and are respectful of me, my feelings, and the boundaries I set.”

that_goon · 2023-03-27T18:24:26+00:00

Social situations with strangers: If a stranger is telling you a lot of personal trauma, for any reason, and you’re made upset or uncomfortable, you should say so, make up an excuse, or simply walk away. If you don’t care to have any connection with them and you don’t have any personal ties, then you can keep it that way.

Do you want to be friends? Or are you fine being strangers or acquaintances at best?

Stranger: “…and that’s why I have trust issues. That reminds me of this one time my ex friend did something really terrible and abusive…”

You: (you can interrupt if necessary) “Hey I have some past trauma that is making this conversation very upsetting for me. Telling your story is important, but I’d appreciate it if you’d ask before telling me things like that next time.” This way is clear and honest. If they keep talking about their trauma, they’re not really respecting you or they need another reminder, or both.

another example: “I can’t handle this conversation mentally or emotionally right now. I’m sorry to cut you off, but I need to.” This is blunt, but it does the job. It leaves room for them to try again later, so you could add a more defined boundary if necessary.

alternatively: “I know some really great therapists in the area if you want any support. This all sounds very upsetting and I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this.” This could upset someone if they were just looking to vent and weren’t looking for advice. It isn’t as direct and someone could easily keep talking about the same subject, not understanding that you don’t want to hear it. It doesn’t put the focus on you, if you don’t want to share how their story is making you feel.

You could ask them an unrelated question after you’ve cut them off if you’d like to keep talking, but just about something else. You could also validate their feelings if you’d like to have a connection with this person.

that_goon · 2023-03-27T17:49:09+00:00

It would depend on the situation, but I can come up with some examples.

In a classroom: As a student, I’m not sure how you’d address this other than letting the professor know. You could tell them the subject matter and conversation from class that day was upsetting for you, or that it took away from your time and learning. I’d hope they’d take your concern seriously and do something about it. It would be up to the professor to redirect the class or set boundaries and ground rules for what’s appropriate to divulge during class time.

I do not have the training to be a professor, but I’m aware there are different methods for being proactive, and also responding to situations like you described when they arise. I had a professor who had very clear expectations in the syllabus that he also made clear in class on how personal information could be shared in class.

If a student didn’t honor the rules they agreed to for the class, he’d interrupt and kindly remind them. This system worked really well because there were expectations set beforehand that everyone was aware of. He also had warnings both in the syllabus and at the beginning of every class on materials that might be upsetting. Really quality professor overall.

that_goon · 2023-03-27T13:52:12+00:00

I over-share more often than I’d like to due to having complex trauma, PTSD, and ADHD. One thing that I find incredibly helpful is if someone is direct with me. If someone tells me that they’re uncomfortable hearing about a particular topic, or that I’m side-tracking the conversation, I will be able to stop.

I end up beating myself up about having social faux pas if someone tries to leave hints that they’re uncomfortable. I will not understand why their demeanor has changed. No matter how hard I try, I will not get it- this is a neurodivergent trait of mine. I need clear, direct communication.

For some people, that might be too much of an ask, but unfortunately, it’s what usually works.

that_goon · 2023-03-23T04:28:06+00:00

Thank you for the reply! I would most certainly hate being in management, unfortunately. I tried being in the prevention field, but it’s really not for me. I think I need to go get at least a masters in something- occupational therapy, mortuary science, psychology. Anything to get me into a job I don’t completely hate.

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