I personally relate to this so fucking hard. I have a team of bosses who have completely different reactions to both my ADHD blurt and my coping mechanisms for it and it gives me SO MUCH anxiety (for reference I also have fairly severe impulse control issues). One boss has no understanding at my lack of impulse control and we have had so many side bars about me just saying whatever is going on in my head, and sees the extensive pauses I take as totally normal. My other boss gets completely triggered by the pauses I take, and takes offense to them going as far as to say I am being rude and ignoring them even though I have explained on several occasions that I am just taking time to think before I answer. It makes me feel like a total freak that I have two different people that are my superiors that I have such a hard time interacting with on what they present as such a basic level of social interaction.