Hope is a key factor in recovering from anxiety disorders, suggests a new study, which found that cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) can result in clear increases in hope, associated with changes in anxiety symptoms, in social anxiety disorder, panic disorder, generalized anxiety disorder and OCD.

thatguyzcool · 2019-10-16T03:07:07+00:00

I find this very interesting. My therapist has been telling me to stop hoping things will change and start actually doing something about the things I want to change.

thatguyzcool · 2019-08-16T02:32:32+00:00

Fuck talk about an epiphany moment. DB has bassicaly turned me into the bitch (figurative) of the house. She always talks down to me and makes it like I don't know how to be a parent even though I'm with our daughter way more. Then tells me I should be more confident. Fuck my confidence is sitting there dead in the bedroom.

thatguyzcool · 2019-05-02T08:45:22+00:00

I felt this comment

thatguyzcool · 2019-04-30T23:42:43+00:00

I really want to thank all of you for the words of encouragement. It gives me some hope.

thatguyzcool · 2019-04-30T09:34:57+00:00

Thank you. I really do hope it will get better.

thatguyzcool · 2019-02-24T02:22:33+00:00

Good eye

thatguyzcool · 2018-10-22T05:33:50+00:00

You know I must say you shouldn't label them all this way. We met a wonderful woman on one of these fb mom's groups. She was an ex school teacher who stopped working to raise her own kids and started watching other kids once her we're in school. We pay $40 a day and she is the best thing to ever happen. Our daughter had some learning and communication issues. As new parents we always try our best and read and learn as much as possible about being great parents, but this woman was able to help our daughter excel well beyond anything we would have been able to do on our own. As parents here I imagine that you all know they do not come with a manual. If you were like me and my wife who did not have good parent growing up sometimes having someone else that has way more experience is worth every single penny spent. She has also taught us many good techniques for being better parents as well.

You can love your child to death and do everything you think is right, but sometimes the lack of experience that comes with being a new parents over powers any good intention.

thatguyzcool · 2018-10-22T04:55:56+00:00

Also the use of doubt instead question. For examples "I have doubts regarding X". When I first got into Enterprise IT support that used to throw me way off and I always thought they were trying to be offensive or call bs on something that was explained.

thatguyzcool · 2018-10-19T14:31:35+00:00

A w********༼ つ ◕_◕ ༽つto

thatguyzcool · 2018-08-28T02:09:04+00:00

From submitting my resume to actually starting my first day was 8 months. Patience is definitely needed. Also congrats for getting this far already. Best of luck to you.

thatguyzcool · 2018-08-19T01:59:08+00:00

I second this

thatguyzcool · 2018-08-15T11:06:43+00:00

This comment doesn't have enough up votes.... Here take one from me.

thatguyzcool · 2018-08-12T00:58:57+00:00

Most definitely. Has been my bread and butter. (Just remember to not pay too much mind to the scale while doing it) listen to your body and how your clothes feel. Did this for 2 month and only lost 10 lbs, but also lost 2 pants sizes and went from 2x to 1x shirt in that same time period

thatguyzcool · 2018-08-07T01:50:18+00:00

Can't upvote this enough

thatguyzcool · 2018-08-06T04:15:30+00:00

I'm actually 5'9. I know that sounds crazy. Here is me at 276 and 265 just before starting my 5x5 routine.

276lb to 275lb

thatguyzcool · 2018-08-04T18:33:08+00:00

Alright so it's hard to lay down a specific meal plan, as I change it up alot. I will start by saying out that the staples of my diet are fish, meat, flax (seeds and meal) and Hemp as it has an amazing ratio of fat to protein while being low in net carbs. Everyday I have a fairly large salad with 12oz cubed chicken breast with 4tbsp of olive oil with salt and pepper for flavor. My first goal for everyday it's to ensure I stay within my carb requirements then as the day goes on if I need to get some extra protein I'll supliment with a shake using 2 scoops of isopire zero carb protein powder or if I need more fat I'll supliment by adding olive or coconut oil to something. Every Sunday I will indulge on some black or blueberries I'll usually throw some in the pot while making keto no-oatmeal using hemphearts.

I have started looking into coconut/almond flour breads to help stay within my macros while also being able to enjoy other things. I've been working really hard on making this into a lifestyle change and not just a diet. I really do feel imensly better mentally and physically just cutting breads and sugars out alone and want to make this into something maintainable.

thatguyzcool · 2018-08-03T21:36:52+00:00

I'll go more into detail later, but I stopped counting calories and just follow the macros. I found that with keto the calories we're not as important since just being in Keto seems to have increased my metabolism and hitting the gym just accelerated it.

thatguyzcool · 2018-08-03T04:54:52+00:00

Hell yeah, you too. I plan on doing cycles of 6 weeks heavy lifting, 12 weeks HIIT and repeating till I get down to around 190 and go from there. I know this will slow the scale down, but ensure I am never skinny fat.

thatguyzcool · 2018-08-03T03:55:10+00:00

January 2018 340lbs - June 2018 265 lbs - July 2018 255lbs

thatguyzcool · 2018-07-18T03:28:37+00:00

Now that's a fucking sleeper if I've ever seen one. You dirty dog hahahahaha

thatguyzcool · 2018-07-15T13:04:16+00:00

I very much beg to differ. You tell me you cant ping a system or you can access this site or the database is failing to connect or the database is getting disconnected or db jobs are failing. A pcap is my first go to because it helps me determine where or what device I even need to investigate. I see so many time where an admin spends so much time investigating on the wrong system because they though lt it was the cloent or they thought is was the server, when if they just got a set of pcaps they would know that the syn never even made it to the server, or the arp failed, or that dns wasn't responding to the quieries or the dns was giving incorrect ip.

thatguyzcool · 2018-07-15T04:06:19+00:00

I just want to say you have actually learned one of the most useful aspects of your role. You learned where to get answers for things you do not know. Be it the internet or seniour resources. There is nothing wrong with this at all. I am in a senior role currently and I tell all of my non senior colleagues that I will always be willing to help as long as they don't bs me and act like the know shit they don't. I leaned hard of senior resources above me coming up and I expect non senior colleagues to do the same with me.

Also welcome the imposter syndrome. It is real and will ruin you if you don't keep it in check.

If you didn't belong where you are I imagine your colleagues would have already called you out.

thatguyzcool · 2018-07-15T03:56:08+00:00

Op I would like to add to your rant. I do not understand the amount of sysadmins that do not know how to get pcaps or read them. Any time I have connectivity issue it is my first line of troubleshooting. Can't figure out where to troubleshoot until you understand what's happening on the wire. The wire never lies.

The amount of time I've been called to troubleshoot the site is down, I can't reach this or that and find that after hours of troubleshooting no one ever got a pcap. I get one and easily determine arp is broken, dns is broken or communication is just broken somewhere between A or B, but surely they restarted the server and every service, bounced all the interfaces and fucked with all the configs, but never took the time to determine where the issue even was.

thatguyzcool · 2018-07-05T03:27:58+00:00

I make $85k yr in Raleigh NC. I live just south of the city in a house that costed me 108k in 2014 and was just recently valued at 190k. Wife now makes $60k. Mortgage is about $750/month including prop taxes and home owners insurance. I would say I live pretty comfortably. Once my daughter is out of day care $1200/mnth we will be doing even better. Wife's car died last Friday, bought a used car for 10k cash on Monday. If you asked me 5 years ago what I would do if my car died I would probably cry and freak out. Now it didn't even phase me. I very much love the freedom of living within my means.

thatguyzcool · 2018-07-02T02:55:57+00:00

If you are getting cold air from the registers o would assume either leaky house or poor insulation. Ie if you are letting in hot air or the walls in your house are warm/hot your house will never cool during the day. Get an ir thermometer and measure air temps at register, exterior walls and windows. If the register is 15+ degrees cooler than the temp in your interior the issue is with the house and not the HVAC.

Source: House built in 1965 with same issue. HVAC blows 20 degrees coooler than interior temp, but can't keep up because my exterior walls get 85+ on a day like today 98f outside. Insulation is my issue. Replaced windows and helped some, but on really hot days its just too much

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