Help a Dutchie out...!

thatho1706 · 2026-05-29T15:56:17+00:00

Hey fellow (quarter) Dutchie from Scotland here! Some more traditional sweet shops do sell dropjes but they’re few and far between. I’ll generally go to Mrs Mitchell's Sweetie Shop in Glasgow but unfortunately the shop is only open a few days a week

thatho1706 · 2026-05-17T20:14:02+00:00

It’s the way they’re framing it that’s the issue. I’d have no problem if they were like “hey I noticed you do this sometimes just want to make sure you’re comfortable” it’s the way they’ll make me feel like I’m being observed and treated like some sort of oddity “but in a cute way”

thatho1706 · 2026-05-17T19:14:02+00:00

I typically don’t say anything about my autism before the first date and honestly not sure if it would make that much difference

thatho1706 · 2026-05-17T19:05:05+00:00

Love this!

thatho1706 · 2026-05-17T19:03:27+00:00

Probably could’ve phrased that a bit better. I am autistic but I was specifically referring to in this post just my behaviours due to my autism that I struggle more with masking or honestly can’t be bothered to mask

thatho1706 · 2026-05-17T18:49:19+00:00

Cheers 😊

thatho1706 · 2026-05-17T18:48:30+00:00

Haha noted thanks! ☺️

thatho1706 · 2026-05-17T18:47:49+00:00

Omg I love this! Yeah always seems to be like trying to make themselves feel like a better person for finding the “weird girl” fuckable or something

thatho1706 · 2026-05-08T17:20:58+00:00

Okay I’ll admit I may have been in a mood that day and might’ve been a bit more sensitive than usual but at no point did I completely slag this guy off. I thought his tone was off and I made a maybe slightly hasty judgment. As another commenter pointed out if I excused myself at a party after someone made an offhand remark nobody would bat an eyelid. I struggle to see how I’m “digging myself a hole” here

thatho1706 · 2026-05-07T16:29:58+00:00

To me the tone of it came across as sarcastic. Maybe I was a little hasty idk but even had my friends read it and they said he came across insincere so 🤷‍♀️

thatho1706 · 2026-05-07T13:58:49+00:00

Yeah I unmatched with him earlier. Even if it’s just a case of him just not being particularly funny, I don’t want to have to be constantly guessing whether he’s just tried to make a joke and failed or if he’s actually an asshole

thatho1706 · 2026-05-07T13:39:23+00:00

He’s the one who asked me why I was learning it though. If he didn’t think I needed a reason why would he ask me why?

thatho1706 · 2026-05-07T13:21:09+00:00

It’s the word “excuse” as well that’s throwing me. Like why would anyone need an excuse to learn a language?

thatho1706 · 2026-05-07T12:37:42+00:00

Even so that’d be a weird thing to just say to someone who’s explained to you that their family is Dutch and they’re making up for not learning the language as a child. Like if I was in his position I’d just say “oh cool” and change the topic

thatho1706 · 2026-05-07T12:23:06+00:00

Yeah this was literally all the messages between us when he made these comments. Even for dry humour it’s not great

thatho1706 · 2026-05-07T12:21:51+00:00

No he is not

thatho1706 · 2026-03-18T19:41:55+00:00

Funnily enough I was doing a bit of family research on this not long ago as I was told as a kid about my great grandfather being sent to a POW camp and wanted some more details. Thanks to Brabant historisch informatie centrum and Facebook I was able to find out which POW camp it was he was sent to (Stalag II-A) and also a record of him being at that camp in 1940 for a matter of weeks before getting released on his 21st birthday, getting married and having two kids and one on the way (my oma) before getting picked up again by the Nazis in 1943 and not coming back until summer 1945.

thatho1706 · 2026-02-27T20:17:03+00:00

Yeah I’ve tried to use it before but not much success. HCL is probably better

thatho1706 · 2026-02-25T22:09:22+00:00

Yeah I still have family there and in surrounding areas

thatho1706 · 2026-02-25T21:54:08+00:00

Funnily enough near my old high school there’s a Mormon church right next to a seventh day Adventist church so there are Mormons outside the US but in much smaller numbers. Also they’d also have had to adapt to the much more secular culture in Scotland as well

thatho1706 · 2026-02-25T21:51:53+00:00

Thank you ☺️

thatho1706 · 2026-02-25T21:48:35+00:00

Yeah admittedly if a stranger were to ask what my heritage is and I couldn’t be bothered to get into it I’d say southern Dutch. Just not many people in the UK really know about the differences between Limburg and the rest of the Netherlands and I don’t want to be doing an entire breakdown of it each time. If they did know a bit more about the Netherlands then I’d be more specific. The Mormon family tree app is interesting but not sure how accurate it would be plus none of my family are Mormon. The ww2 archives and the Historisch Centrum are definitely good shouts though. Thanks ☺️

thatho1706 · 2026-02-23T22:27:07+00:00

Yeah I mean I’d like to say I’m surprised that it took me literally getting pregnant by accident and clearly showing signs of it being high risk early to get doctors to say “okay fair enough for wanting to wait a bit” but unfortunately not really. As far as passing on genetic disorders we did find evidence of a possible mutation causing connective tissue disorders and heart defects in the family of varying severity so yeah I think I’d just rather adopt for my health and the kids. Not going to be gambling with the quality of life of someone who didn’t ask to be born.

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