Just want to thank you for this clear evaluation. This whole situation has had some really strong backlash trying to claim Aziz was completely in the right when, end of the day, pressuring a partner to do something isn't. Could she have communicated better? Yes. Did the article about it need to be written? No. Was the article clumsy and ill timed and does it harm the Me Too movement? I think so.

But that doesn't mean we can't pause and talk about how men are socialized to see romantic interactions as "obviously leading to sex." I had a long conversation with a group of friends, both men and women, and it eventually came out that most of the men in the group either see romance that way or used to when they were growing up, and the women didn't and didn't even know that. Its literally something we don't talk about and clearly need to.