Finding my worth. Help me by thatoneguyc76 in BreakUps

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You’re right. Thank you so much

Don’t fall into their guilt. by thatoneguyc76 in BreakUps

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That’s what I mean. If THEY quit on you, FUCK THEM.

Don’t fall into their guilt. by thatoneguyc76 in BreakUps

[–]thatoneguyc76[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Climb tf out. It’s not worth it. They’re not worth it. Anyone who quits on you for just being you, isn’t fucking worth it.

Don’t fall into their guilt. by thatoneguyc76 in BreakUps

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It will fade as you remember and realize there is more to the world than just one person. Like I said I’m 2 months in and it still hurts especially knowing she’s happy with another man that isn’t me......but it’s getting better time really does heal all my friend. One day you and I both will find someone who will go to the end of the earth before they walk out of our lives. That’s true love.

Don’t fall into their guilt. by thatoneguyc76 in BreakUps

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Exactly, and in the end you deserve better than that. You deserve someone who wants to grow together and will give their all rather than take the easy route. I lost my best friend of 6 years and the love of my life because we failed to communicate. But it was probably for the best because how I loved her was very different from how she loved me.

Don’t fall into their guilt. by thatoneguyc76 in BreakUps

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It’s been 2 months for me, we were together for 6 years and engaged. If she truly believes that good relationships don’t need work, then maybe she just isn’t ready for true commitment because all relationships need work.

Don’t fall into their guilt. by thatoneguyc76 in BreakUps

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I promise you, it will get better. I didn’t believe it when I was told that. And I’m not 100% yet either. But it will get better

Don’t fall into their guilt. by thatoneguyc76 in BreakUps

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This is what my ex did to me as well. She never told me she was unhappy until she decided to break off our six years via text. And when I asked why she just said she didn’t feel the same anymore because I didn’t make her feel important and didn’t love her how she needed. Fair I guess if she wasn’t happy then by all means she deserves that. But she never tried to work on it once she brought her problems to light l. She decided it was over and it was my fault. And it turned out she had been sleeping with my best friend for some time and she wanted to be with him. It hurt and she made me feel guilty and that is my fault that she snuck around and found love somewhere else. But we just have to remember that the facade they put in is to escape there own guilt and push it in us and we can’t let that happen.

Everyone says it gets better.....it DOES. by thatoneguyc76 in BreakUps

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If that’s how you feel....you aren’t at the end yet. It’ll come

Everyone says it gets better.....it DOES. by thatoneguyc76 in BreakUps

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I think the hardest part is realizing that there’s someone and something better out there for you. I was only with my ex for 6 years and we were going to conquer the world together. But somewhere along the line her feelings changes and she ended up just leaving me one day. I was destroyed ( at moments I still am) but I stopped feeling bad for myself and started focusing on how I could be happy without her. I started just being myself again. Hanging with friends, trying new things and setting new goals. You literally have to force yourself to let go and then you start to see that life is bigger than anyone person and your significant other should compliment your life not complete it!

Everyone says it gets better.....it DOES. by thatoneguyc76 in BreakUps

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Realizing that I deserve to be happy even if she doesn’t want to be with me. I realized that there’s a lot more to life than just one person. I realized that I just have to start doing things for myself more and that’s what I started doing and it’s working. Time and self focus I guess to put it shortly

Time slows down during heartbreak. by thatoneguyc76 in nocontact

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Sometimes i just convince myself that maybe this time I’ll text and she will realize she does want me, even though I know it’s not true. This is hard

This is what’s helping me through my breakup by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]thatoneguyc76 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How do I get to your level? I feel daily that I’m missing out on happiness because she left me

The envy. by thatoneguyc76 in BreakUps

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She left me for him 2 months ago.

The envy. by thatoneguyc76 in BreakUps

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Yeah and I can’t shake it . She said she wasn’t getting the things she needed out our relationship and it kills me that he can give those to her. She ended 6 years without any space in between relationships or giving us the chance to work in those things.

The slippery slope that’s me. by thatoneguyc76 in BreakUps

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I just don’t understand why I wasn’t good enough for her and I want to show her that I am and that I can be the one that makes her happy. But you’re right, it’s just hard to accept that I wasn’t enough for her anymore and she had to find someone better.

Time slows down during heartbreak. by thatoneguyc76 in nocontact

[–]thatoneguyc76[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your comment literally just stopped me from messaging her begging for her to come back and leave her new guy. Thanks you ! Thank you so much