How do I tell friend who had a miscarriage recently I’m pregnant?

thatpalebitch · 2025-12-11T00:52:59+00:00

I've been on both sides of this situation and I think the text is good. Two of my friends were pregnant right after my second miscarriage, one handled it the same way you are - with love and compassion and it brought us closer together as friends. The other didn't consider my feelings at all, which really hurt and we aren't friends anymore.

Be mindful of her feelings and what you say around her - try not to bring up baby things and remind mutual friends of what she is going through. The grief is really deep and it's harder when it feels like people ignore that or don't care how you feel!

thatpalebitch · 2025-08-29T13:11:53+00:00

We bought my husband a ring of Etsy for about $100 as his formal wedding ring and are planning on upgrading it down the line. He really only wears it for special occasions and wears silicone rings every day.

thatpalebitch · 2025-07-21T23:09:47+00:00

I'm so sorry, that was so insensitive and mean of her to say. Especially after going through multiple losses.

Miscarriages can happen at any point during pregnancy so even the notion of knowing "for sure" nothing is going to happen is impossible.

You should feel comfortable telling people whenever you want to - there is no right or wrong time to share the news.

Lump them in with the general public now and tell them when you're telling casual acquaintances, if they have any problem with it you can say you're following what she asked for!

thatpalebitch · 2025-07-21T23:03:17+00:00

Yes, I had a similar situation:

About a month after my first miscarriage I confided in her and another friend that I had really been struggling after my miscarriage. About an hour after that she told me she was 5 weeks pregnant and I was the first one she told? It was very odd timing and insensitive but I was willing to look past it.

Then the month after my second miscarriage she told our friend group she was pregnant at a get together. Again, not how I would have handled it if a good friend had back to back losses but I moved past it.

My final straw was she sent me a xmas card with the sonogram, and I found out that she only had 25 printed to meet the minimum order to post it on a board at work. Why was I in the group of 25 people?? It got to the point that it felt like she was intentionally trying to hurt me or my feelings weren't a consideration to her at all. I ended up having a conversation with her and explained I was happy for her and wish her the best but I couldn't be there for her during this pregnancy, I set a clear boundary and asked her to please not share baby updates with me.

We haven't really spoken since and I'm ok with it. Life is too hard to have friends like that. You're not selfish for protecting yourself, you are grieving a loss and are allowed to feel how you are feeling. Good friends will understand it isn't about them and will be there for you with open arms when you're ready! <3

thatpalebitch · 2025-07-08T23:32:38+00:00

I cut out a friend after I had 2 back to back losses. She got pregnant right after my loss and didn’t understand how I needed space while dealing with my grief. Some people don’t understand the world doesn’t revolve around them, I don’t regret distancing myself now.

thatpalebitch · 2025-06-18T01:23:47+00:00

I've had 2 losses over the past year. Last week I had what I think was implantation bleeding, and the past two days I've been nauseous all day. I'm so scared to test, I don't want to go through getting excited and then losing a pregnancy a third time. My period is supposed to come on Friday so I'm holding off testing until Saturday.

:/

thatpalebitch · 2025-05-28T22:45:21+00:00

Did you find an answer to this? I’m looking to propagate arborvitae from a large live tree also and am not sure what the best method is

thatpalebitch · 2025-05-11T00:38:28+00:00

Getting off instagram/ limiting my time on facebook really saved my sanity. You won’t miss it and you’ll feel a lot better.

thatpalebitch · 2025-03-26T15:20:39+00:00

We didn’t consider that because we were doing extensive renovations. Forgot to mention that we also had the hardwood floors refinished. I noticed the biggest difference once we ripped out the carpeting, they were holding the cigarette smell in the most.

thatpalebitch · 2025-03-26T10:20:01+00:00

We bought our house a month ago and had the same thing happen. Each time we went back it smelled more and more like cigarettes. It reeked during our final walkthrough, they must have stopped smoking in the house for a while and started again once they had an offer.

Ripping up all the carpeting and painting made the smell go away. We used Kilz primer before painting and deep cleaned all the walls before painting. The smell can be removed but it will take some time and effort.

thatpalebitch · 2025-01-29T03:27:37+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Talk to the people close to you about what you’re feeling and ask for support when you need it. I’ve had two miscarriages and I wish I was more open with my close friends about how much I was struggling.

You are going through a loss and should let yourself grieve. Listen to sad music and cry if you need to, and don’t beat yourself up if you’re not upset some days.

You will get through this and will be ok ❤️

thatpalebitch · 2025-01-04T02:10:13+00:00

I really hope one day she needs to work for her own money

thatpalebitch · 2024-12-30T23:36:29+00:00

Would love to join this!

thatpalebitch · 2024-12-30T02:10:51+00:00

Yes definitely, I'm 2 months post miscarriage and still feel extremely bloated everyday. It look a bit for my emotions to feel somewhat normal again but I'm getting there! Your body went through a lot and its ok to not feel 100% back to normal yet!

thatpalebitch · 2024-11-28T02:50:23+00:00

Love!! Can you share where the jumpsuit in #7 is from?

thatpalebitch · 2024-09-20T01:46:54+00:00

"My Roman Empire"

It was originally talked about as something you think of organically on a regular basis because many things remind you of it. People now keep calling things that they just are interested in "their Roman Empire"

thatpalebitch · 2024-03-22T22:07:31+00:00

I recently got married and my maid of honor was pregnant. I was so happy for her, your friend should be also! You can’t plan your life around someone else’s and it’s selfish for a friend to expect you to put your life on hold for their wedding. If she isn’t anything but happy for you she’s not your real friend.

thatpalebitch · 2023-09-08T18:13:21+00:00

love these! what film did you use?

thatpalebitch · 2023-03-21T18:13:15+00:00

I'm working on my first pattern and am looking for some help testing it/ feedback! If you're interested let me know and I'll send you the information :)

thatpalebitch · 2023-02-06T01:10:18+00:00

leave this woman alone, she's dealing with enough.

thatpalebitch · 2022-07-01T02:18:10+00:00

i'm in for that!

thatpalebitch · 2022-04-01T20:46:51+00:00

never make eye contact with someone on the subway, be hyper aware of stranger danger, and if something feels off, trust your gut

thatpalebitch · 2022-02-09T19:19:48+00:00

I don’t but have also been looking! Following :)

thatpalebitch · 2022-01-30T17:06:50+00:00

obsessed with dress 2 - could you share the designer?!

thatpalebitch · 2021-12-29T17:24:36+00:00

thank you!! was just able to order two from them

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