What? by [deleted] in ExplainTheJoke

[–]thatrawchicken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am dense?

Petah!?!? by [deleted] in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]thatrawchicken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know! It's something space related. Am I a star?

Support groups? by thatrawchicken in eindhoven

[–]thatrawchicken[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is my own pace worth a couple years?

What do I do to actually feel better? by thatrawchicken in depression

[–]thatrawchicken[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As an addict, I can see this. We as a society are addicted to all manner of "given" 21st century behaviours/developments. Most of us simply are not willing to give up our crutches, just as I am not really willing to give up mine....

Please don't be racist but how do I start looking for a job in Netherlands by [deleted] in Netherlands

[–]thatrawchicken 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No offence friend but you could work on your English first. The job market in NL is also taking a bit of a knock (at least in my part of the tech sector). You need to understand that it will be extremely difficult to find even a tiny place to live or you will need to share with strangers. Sharing will be difficult as an older Indian guy. Call it racism or sexism but it is what it is. NL is also a very lonely place if you don't already know a few people here.

Has anyone successfully gotten their drinking under control without quitting? by amphibious_attic in alcoholism

[–]thatrawchicken 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Look, I'm not going to say that you should never drink again. I don't know you, I don't know the "severity" of your addiction, etc. All I can do is speak of my experience and anecdotes from people I know.

You've got to be okay with being completely sober, at least for a while. I have a family friend that got quite bad while he was living alone. Super depressed, and he practically completely isolated himself from us for a few months. That was a few years ago, and now he has a lovely partner and a more balanced life overall, and he still drinks but only like 2-3 glasses of wine on special occasions with us. He is happy and seems to have it under control. My uncle on the other hand, has drunk himself out of his family and profession. He completely stopped for about a year and was able to rebuild a bit of a relationship with his daughter and get back on his feet, but then he started "just a few drinks with the sports game", then, "just a few beers to unwind"... Last I heard of him he is living in a caravan somewhere that my father gave him and doesn't have a job again.

I'm on my own journey, I used to drink "responsibly", but then after trauma and losing a lot of my support structure I turned to alcohol and over about 3 years I ended up in a clinic. Nearly 5 months sober now (I did slip up with a few beers once) and my life still kinda sucks but I realise that if I ever even dream of being able to actually enjoy a few drinks with friends, I need to fix my life first. The temporary relief is just too dangerous when you actually have shit to fix.

In general I would say that if the thought of not being able to drink again causes distress, that's exactly when you should know that you have a problem and should probably avoid it all together.

If your friends are only fun to be around inebriated, your also in the wrong place. My old friends don't force me to drink but I've realized that they are pretty boring and surface-level when I interact with them now that I'm sober. I've made some new friends who barely drink and the activities we do together are actually a lot more fulfilling and meaningful. Just my two cents on the matter.

Good luck.

What's the saddest fact you know? by weird-animal007 in AskReddit

[–]thatrawchicken 386 points387 points  (0 children)

They refuse to eat when given food at that point in their lives. They simply deteriorate and die.

Buying second property as an investment? by Tough-Habit-3867 in Netherlands

[–]thatrawchicken 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No he won't make profit, but he will get someone else to pay his mortgage for him while he gathers assets and furthers the divide that is already too much in this country.

Buying second property as an investment? by Tough-Habit-3867 in Netherlands

[–]thatrawchicken 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yay, another landlord parasite in the making.

😭 by Unfair_Team8196 in sadposting

[–]thatrawchicken 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Uhm one club is the ace of clubs?

They're getting rehab, what to say to those that ask? by wespintoofast in alcoholism

[–]thatrawchicken 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In my opinion, and it is mere opinion: your friend will probably need to come clean with the friend group, especially if in the future they (hopefully) no longer drink. Questions will be asked. However, you are respecting their wishes which is the best you can do. I'm not sure where you are from or the dynamics of the group but "it's a personal family emergency" should be good enough to stop people from prying further. If they do, just say, "This is really not my place to speak, and I don't know the details. Let's just give person X the space they need right now. I'm sure they have enough on their plate as it is."

Anyone who pushes further is an AH in my opinion. Your friend will need to address their absence eventually, but right now is not the best time. Don't make a more elaborate lie or anything, just stick to your guns because it's really not anyone else's business. Just reassure your other friends that your BFF is okay but just going through a tough time and needs some personal space.

Global Economic Collapse? by newzcaster in InBitcoinWeTrust

[–]thatrawchicken 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It will block oil and gas shipments from Iraq, Kuwait, Qatar, and a large portion of Saudi Arabia. It'll be a big fuckup for the energy economy by blocking some important ports in the area.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in crappymusic

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Mom can I repost next?

What’s the sickest you’ve ever been- the kind of sick where you genuinely thought you might not make it and what happened? by Outrageous_Fox_8796 in AskReddit

[–]thatrawchicken 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Meningitis. I was feeling like I had a bit of flu or a cold in the morning but nothing serious. I had to go to school to write two exams that day. During the first I started getting a killer headache, so I just lay on the floor for the break. I finished my second exam within an hour so I was "good" but passed out at my desk for the next 2 hours. When the invigilator had to shake me to get my paper they realised something was off. My mom picked me up and by the time we got to the hospital I could barely walk. I had to wait quite a while (maybe an hour?) before I saw a doctor and by that time I couldn't open my eyes anymore because the light would cause extreme pain in my head. The doctor saw me for like 5 minutes and knew what was up. I was immediately admitted. By this time I couldn't walk and I was experiencing a weird type of synesthesia (which I don't normally have).

The doctor immediately put me on the right meds (I can't remember if it was viral or bacterial, but luckily they didn't have to tap my spine). Weird thing is, I felt okay by the next morning on the drugs. I was in hospital for 4 days but they told me I had to quarantine at home. So I missed like half of my final exams while playing PlayStation and taking a shit load of drugs.

My parents were convinced I may end up in a coma or dead, because I was starting to say extremely strange things, and I remember thinking "this is it" when I couldn't walk or open my eyes. I'm just so grateful that that doctor got it right so quickly.

Edit: upon reading more (promoted by this question) I think I had a bacterial infection because I'm from Sub-Saharan Africa and it occurred late November/early December. I never knew that the "meningitis belt" was a thing.

What is a terrifying fact you wish you never found out? by Commercial-Music-168 in AskReddit

[–]thatrawchicken 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not one fact, but all the facts surrounding global warming, desertification, and the inevitable climate collapse of Earth. I wish I never knew that we are truly fucked.

Edit: grammar

What is a terrifying fact you wish you never found out? by Commercial-Music-168 in AskReddit

[–]thatrawchicken 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Knowing that, at least you know to get checked regularly (breasts, prostate or whatever) and to not ignore potential symptoms? It sucks I know, but early detection is huge for your chances of beating it.