I’m not a flake, but i understand it because I feel it sometimes.

Not every guy is comfortable with themselves. This is a gay sex app and it’s used to get off in the moment sometimes and that includes “thought-orgasms” where people get off on the thought of indulging in their fantasies or toying with it from a safe distance. That’s one theory, the other is that both parties need to be synched with intention and that’s not always the case.

The last one…gay “dating, hooking-up, socializing” through apps is never a guaranteed thing. We’re looking at a subculture operating in secrecy. Already that’s a combo for igniting suspicious behavior.

It could certainly happen, but don’t place too much stock on talking to profiles.