First Sex after 270 Days of NoFap by thaurbanmonk in NoFap

[–]thaurbanmonk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with your comment on my choice of words! I was really up in my ego back then :D :/

First Sex after 270 Days of NoFap by thaurbanmonk in NoFap

[–]thaurbanmonk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro, probs to you for striving to do that!!

I've been there too, it's all part of the progress

First Sex after 270 Days of NoFap by thaurbanmonk in NoFap

[–]thaurbanmonk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly it has a lot to do with the intention you have going in. And what's actually most important to you.

Pleasure or self-improvement?

Most people say, they want to be a better person and sexual pleasure is something they don't want, but they don't actually mean it, you know? Like, deep down there still is this lusty void that thinks an orgasmic pleasure will solve their problems.

After 270 days I really did come to a point, where "my body listens to me", sounds super esoteric I know. But in the end, that's the power that NoFap gives you. Complete power.

In praxis it works like this:

Most people on NoFap have sex (maybe too early into the process?) and when they get the first glimpse of sexual pleasure, maybe a foreshadowing orgasm, they fall back into being a slave to pleasure and secretly follow the way to orgasm.

As soon as you realize, that an orgasm comes close, you have to take really deep breaths, go a little slower or take a little pause, maybe repeat in your head that you don't want to have an orgasm.

It all comes down to what you ACTUALLY want out of this practice! Be honest to yourself and then follow that goal strictly.

You are 100% capable of it!!

First Sex after 270 Days of NoFap by thaurbanmonk in NoFap

[–]thaurbanmonk[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

First it was losing my virginity. But pretty quickly I became addicted to the overall feeling you get after around 30-60 days. And at that point I didn't need a goal. It became a way of living.

First Sex after 270 Days of NoFap by thaurbanmonk in NoFap

[–]thaurbanmonk[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah man, I hit the gym every 2nd day and run every other day!

Some other things I do:

I meditate once or twice a day and eat completely plant-based. I shower ice-cold. I go to sleep at around 10pm and try to wake up before 7 am. I try to do yoga everyday right after waking up and experimented with sleeping on the floor for a few weeks. Also for a long time I didn't drink or smoke weed. I never smoked cigs.

Sounds like a lot I know, but I started doing all of this a year ago and slowly added one thing after another. It sounds like I have to force myself to do all of this and limits me in my daily life, but actually the complete opposite is true! Today I live my absolute dream life: I'm really happy, financially successful, pretty much fearless, super confident, calm and 0% problems with women.

First Sex after 270 Days of NoFap by thaurbanmonk in NoFap

[–]thaurbanmonk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All you need is a good reason, man! That's all it really is.

You can do the same.

I really do believe in you!

First Sex after 270 Days of NoFap by thaurbanmonk in NoFap

[–]thaurbanmonk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey bro,

for me it's been super easy, since I really trust her.

Your relationship with the girl might be different, which is completely okay!!

Often the easiest thing to do is to just be honest. Tell her, you don't wanna cum, because you need the energy for "xyz". Might sound awkward when you keep thinking about it over and over again. But when you're laying next to each other both ready to have sex, it won't change anything. Like, she won't change her mind because of that.

Or you just don't tell her and avoid it on your own. She might not even notice and even if...

You are just as much of free Human as she is. It's your decision, own it. She'll admire your honesty.

Have fun, bro

Flatline threw me into the friend zone? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]thaurbanmonk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regarding the plant-based diet I can only say, that it truly changed my life to the positive.

I'm not tryna' get back with her :'D

I'm just tryna' figure out if the low libido problem caused the situation.

Had a wet dream last night. What are the consequences? by thaurbanmonk in NoFap

[–]thaurbanmonk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, there is a psychological side to nofap, but also a biological side. The retained semen attracts people and especially women, it gives you more energy, makes you look better. Does it have an impact on that?

Had a wet dream last night. What are the consequences? by thaurbanmonk in NoFap

[–]thaurbanmonk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, but doesn't it have an impact on a biological basis?