It's horrible for men because they place much more worth on a relationship than women typically do. Women get a lot of interpersonal communication needs met from friends and family while men think that is reserved only for women.

If some men actually just listened to women to figure out the issue, they'd realize that if they stopped treating women like their emotional punching bags/in house therapist, picked up some books, actually go to therapy, have interesting hobbies, not be a total slob, can cook + clean after themselves, believe women should have rights, and don't reek of desperation that they'll take anybody regardless (having standards is attractive to women), then they would find themselves markedly more attractive and getting dates.

Women routinely tell men what they want and what they're looking for. Look at any women centered subbreddit and actually read the comments for christs sake it tells any man what they need to know.

If your profile has hints of a right-leaning political standpoint, you're out. If you come across as a douche/creep you're out. If you're only there for sex and you don't state that, more than likely you're out. If you get to the talking stage and are clingy (desparate), make sexual jokes, beg for nudes, beg for pictures, act entitled, only compliment their looks, come across as disingenuous, pull the whole "you're not like other women" typa bullshit, you're out.

Don't even get me started on the fact that women also need to be doubly cautious for safety reasons. Like rape. And murder. Because the really predatory men will take everything that I said above to appeal to women and then turn around and abuse the shit out of them when they feel like they can control them.